A Pimpstyle RANT worth reading during Ramadan.

As a Black non Christian Man, I find the need to sometimes lash out at the ignorance of My own and how I too feel connected by default.

And for that reason I feel the need to leave this rant here and not out there in the world on front street.

Sometimes My people don't think about how their words they leave on public threads are gonna come off to the rest of the viewing world, or even care how or why.

This reverse "Coonery" many seem to be comfortable with expressing as a fine example of our race.

It aint like there are many like us in the world.
We have become the last genetic mutation of many others from our generations that made us just black.

And I don't mean that there is anything wrong with that because I was raised to believe that Black is beautiful.

But these negro's out here can't let go of their own bullshit fast enough to notice that everyone else in the world views all of us AS IS.

And THAT is the part that I hate the most.
And hate is a very powerful word.

And if there is ONE thing that black folks can admit if they are at least worth shit is that we have to admit that all of us as a whole aint ready or even strong enough to see things from a world perspective and not a black American view point.

And every last one of us are very unique mutations of more other races and tribes of humans of the world that we are suffering from un-adapt-ability within this new found general populace of the world. And in this case it becomes even more complex because we are also kinky. (what ever that means)

But I'm not one of yall.

I keep trying to say that.
The ONLY thing most of us share in common is our skin color.

And THAT is how it is everywhere else in the world except in many urban areas and social realms in America.

But it pains Me to watch so many slip faster to exclude others of the same color at the drop of a hat and then bat a eye when they need to speak for their race just because...

If it all came down to a simple task of being forced into a broad category?

And you had to pick being just black or something else but that would mean that you had to stand with them or the black people?

More black folks would bail like they did with Obama's election.

It's a socially cultural issue.

Most black people talk as if they will never be faced with living abroad where their culture conflicts with your own and make that place your home. Let alone, be shown that others find you all more hip-o-critical just because in the BDSM mentality? Your or should I say OUR reality does not apply in a world perspective.

And many are now learning that back folks are so diverse that they will turn on each other faster than they can relate as a whole.

And if a black person admits the ugly truth of their own people in general or even statistically?

Some black person will make it their business to disown one of their own, and none of us are here to hang out with everyone. Most of us will never meet.

But Black people have been making Me sick of their sickness in masses.
Because they black asses aint trying to be a asset to their race.

And speaking of race?

*blank stare*


Who is it to say that black folks know the ONLY way to treat black folks better than they can do to each other honorably?

The ONE thing I will admit...

I may not say something that everyone will get with...
I may in fact say some shit that many will debate out of ignorance.
And there aint that many of us in these lifestyles anyway.

So on any given day I have to deal with some person of color coming out they mouth on some dumb shit like the shit I leave in print is some bullshit.
Just because from where they see it?
Something I say is some bullshit because they can't admit that they are as well read as I am enough to leave respect at the end of it..lol

Not that black folks are slow learners...

But Americans as a whole got this shit twisted.

From a world perspective.

Most black American people Have never traveled at least 10 thousand miles in their lifetime. And in most cases it was from one black cultural environment to another to visit family.

And our history is too vast for many of them to agree to compare history and not debate their own from what they have known all of their lives.

And just in case you forgot?

Some of us may be African Americans, but we are not Africans enough to have duel citizenship.

So few black people in this world are upper metaphysical thinkers just as every other race of people of the world.

I wish more people of color were conditioned enough to be able to relate more than debate just because you come from some culture that conflicts with the shit some other black person wrote.

Like this race shit...

Just because you can't get with some shit someone else is into?
Don't mean that you have to show your black asses in masses on some thread that fucked with your black mentality.

And too many black folks take shit others write personally.

And this shit is killing Me to not just have to see another sister or brother leave another example of reverse "Coonery" while they try to be seriously funny.

So in closing?

Making a long rant shorter than you would know...

The ONLY reason why I leave something from My viewpoint is just incase someone can take something that may make them grow.

Even if it makes no sense to someone.
If they are smart?

It should not matter what color you are.

But I am talking about black folks in general.

And POCs...

There is about a handful of any amount of us that can even be counted as the Kinky Americans.


That makes even minorities to small to even make a POC community.
But some of yall POCs be on some other shit.

But don't let THAT be the reason why too many of you are guilty of reverse "Coonery" than Me!

*evil stare*

I was raised Pro Black.
And child of very active parents in the civil rights movement and supporters of the Black Power Movement.

I gives a fuck about Kewl Points.

Not one damn word I typed was a lie.

I know My people better than most of them know themselves.

And I hate to have to admit it to too many of them around these parts...lol
They aint listening to a damn thing I say.

#### "Niggers and flys, niggers and flies. How I despise niggers and flies. But the more I see niggers the more I like flies..."
The Last Poets?

I love black people.
Black people are Me.
But one thing black people are not ready for...

Black People are not ready for the revolution.

Yet...

[first interview with Martin Luther King from 1957 part 2](http://youtu.be/HXlfeeh_Wqg)
Watch the damn video.
*Pay attention to the white man on the right/left.*
How right were they when they planned to put all of us as Americans today?


If I have to be stuck in My faith during a time of prayer and fasting?
Because I want too.

I want to pray that there will come a day when more black people and people of color and of different faiths, will see further than their own noses.

And most of all I am gonna also pray that People of color will stop treating each other as if one or the other deserve less than the same respect they try to protect. Because that's all they know as who they are in this country.

Treat each other no less or no better than you would treat someone at face value of another color.

The miseducation of the Negro in America is proof enough that too many of us are not ready to deal with a different type of person of color having the same right to their opinion and the same honor to respect where they come from too. Even if it conflicts with you.


I love black folks too much to be forced to expect better from them.
And they don't understand what I'm talking about.



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The Black church and culture MADE Eddie Long how his is right now.

He is the PRODUCT of the black ministry!

And yet Eddie Long stated that:
"the Bible mentions three sexual sins—fornication, adultery and homosexuality"

Stop Playing!


"Even so hath the Lord ordained that they which preach the gospel should live of the gospel."
1 Corinthians 9:14


We ALL KNOW that the ministry teaches homophobia while many in the faith are conditioned to hide the truth.

And yet in this day and age we STILL allow the Christian structure to manipulate out morality.

And the Church would not let Eddie Long explain why and how they have allowed him to get away with the same thing he preached against.

"Do you not know that they which minister about holy things live of the things of the temple? and they which wait at the altar are partakers with the altar?"
1 Corinthians 9:13

And I'm NOT calling Eddie Long a fake teacher.

I'm calling him a PUNK for not breaking the cycle of ignorance in our community by being truthful.

"When this sex scandal broke last year members said they didn’t want to push the Bishop out until they knew all the details. Well now that he’s settled the case with the four victims, a growing group of church members say he needs to leave! A person close to the group says they believe his settlement means he’s guilty of sexually abusing the young men. They’re also claiming he settled to avoid talking about all the scandalous details in the case.
Meanwhile, Barbara Marschalk, who represents New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and LongFellows Youth Academy, tells the AJC.com that she anticipates “the lawsuits will be dismissed, with prejudice, by close of business today.”

B.J. Bernstein, who reps the 4 men who sued the pastor says neither side would talk about the settlement terms but BMS is on the case!

Settlement talks weren’t going so well for Atlanta mega church leader until the $$ got better. BMS told ya weeks ago church members close to the Bishop Eddie Long sexual misconduct case say the young men were offered $4 million dollars to settle the sexual lawsuit. But as we told you they were holding out for a public apology until more money hit the table.

Long and his lawyers upped the offer WITH an apology behind closed doors only. The apology had been the sticking point in the past. Some of them wanted a public apology.

The young men had been demanding $20 million dollars from Long & the church. BMS has been told the guys settled for $15 million…that’s $3.6 million each. Depending on the fee arrangements with the lawyers – the boys lawyers could get up to 50% of the settlement. The young men will likely take home $1.3 million dollars each. BMS has also been told the insurance company likely paid up to $13 million dollars. So the church is likely out of $2 million dollars.

As you may recall, 4 young men sued Long, New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and the LongFellows Youth Academy alleging Long coerced them into having sexual relations. Long has admitted to hugging and giving the boys money, but he claims he did not rape them. Last year all parties agreed to mediation. An agreement keeps a lot of the dirt from being played out in court and a costly trial.


The one major obstacle had been some “type” of apology to the young men in public. Long we are told was furious and panicked at the possibility of apologizing to the young men in public. Two of the young men were holding out strongly for a public apology. Long’s people in the end won by getting them to accept a private apology behind closed doors and more money.

Should Bishop Eddie Long Resign? Should the congregation ask for his resignation? Should we try to heal and leave things as they are now?"


I can forgive someone who admits the truth.

But I can't stand anyone who will stand in your face and pass judgement on others to hide their own dysfunctions.

Thou shalt not lie...

But the real issue is WHY!

Why can no one in the Christian faith find any scripture in their faith that can explain why so many of them have homosexual tendencies and yet they ca find no excuse why they can stand before their flock and manipulate a truth that they live by in their own walk as a Christian?

Why can they not find any excuse for polyamory or communal living that allows more than a monogamous and heterosexual mindset in their faith as it is written and understood?


This is where I am at right now...

I believe that GOD made everyone.
GOD knows why.
And for that reason, anyone who is born with ANY sexual polarity is ONLY required to obey GODs wishes.
Respect GOD
Respect yourself
And
Respect others who respect you.

I believe that the union between people who are committed to each other is blessed by GOD.

No matter what your sexual polarity is or your moral beliefs are.
As long as you are respectful within your dynamic to each and everyone included in your committed relationship.

There is no sin.

Only GOD is the judge.

What people do in the privacy of their own homes is between them and GOD.

If your gonna be who you are?

Be proud in your faith.

You can not hide from GOD.
So what do so many of these people try to hide their true nature from others who may feel the same and not know how to deal with it?

But most importantly,

Don't be a Hypocrite!

hyp·o·crite/ˈhɪpəˌkrɪt/ noun
plural hyp·o·crites
[count] disapproving : a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs.


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Elderly advice...

When I was a child, I acted like a child and when I became a Adult I tried to be adult about life but NOW that I am becoming an Elder I have to learn how to deal with childish adults.


*evil stare*


It's like watching church members fighting in church.
And none of them can see fault in how they acted and why they was a part of said chaos.


And then have the nerve to try to blame Me for calling it as I see it.


Now as not only an adult but also a elderly candidate in age and experience?
I find Myself coming to grips with the harsh reality.


My mother never raised a fool.
And childish games are often played by adults with childish tendencies.
I'm a great target for others who wish to be challenged by occupation and so they feel the need to include Me in their lust for attention.


As a elder candidate I have nothing to earn but My own comfort.
I owe no one enlightenment.
I am not trying to be a role model to anyone.


I seek to Master My own Mastery.


Smart people do not question the Mastery of the Elderly.


But with the current state of adults children with very little home training, it's become harder to defend your own homes from foolishness.


And now that I am becomes a Elderly Man, I am now noticing the difference easier.


And more comfortable with people hating Me for calling it as I see it when challenged.


And childish adults still have not been holding ther dick as long as I have been holding Mine. And don't let THAT be the reason why I aint gonna let nobody piss on My boots and tell Me they are into watersports.


This is not a game.
Anymore.
For the elderly.


I just aint got My AARP card yet.
But it's in the mail.



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The DL issue revisited...

This topic keeps popping up in relationship threads all over the net.

And yet and still, the same comments result in the issue being first a issue with men who are DL and not equally yoked.

And most importantly the issue behind the stigma of being bi or gay but not open about it to your Hetro mates.

So first I want to paste a comment I offered on someone's post about this subject and then I want to get deeper on this subject.

Actually your giving these men too much credit.

*Evil Stare*

When you really look at the past generations of people we have not known of their sexual polarity? You will notice that our society seemed to have been structured in hiding their sexuality while requiring many of them to look and act perfectly Hetro.

They got married and even had kids in pairs of couples to hide their connection between the polarities. They formed social clubs for men and women for the same reasons. While today, we are more exposed to the need to know who is who solely because of the AIDS epidemic more than their sexual polarities.

So the REAL question is now, WHY other than AIDS and STDs is their a concern about the sexual polarity of other possible mates.

When in many cases what people have been taught in the past as to who is a good mate and how men and women should react towards each other has now forced many to question their ability to understand the sexual nature of everyone.

And here's the kicker!

Most women who complain about DL men seldom notice how attracted they are to Bi Men in theory.

Just like how they consider men to be Dominant by doing things that are more submissive than Dominant.

And the more vanilla people are? The less they know.

And even worse. The less they can handle if in fact they knew.

And we now know that being Bi or Gay does not make you any less of a person.

Other than your ability to be truthful or at least honest.

So it's just not as simple as single people being any more or less in danger of being with a bi or gay mate until you include both men and women into the math.

It's not as simple as finding out that your man likes his prostrate stimulated or even that your man likes to suck penis. And then wishing he would be open enough to let you do it so he don't have to lie or creep to do it with strange dudes.

*wicked grin*

Having bi or gay tendencies are not as simple as the acts of sex they get into more than it is about who as well. Some men lust for male contact just like some women. So saying you want to replace their choice is just like when men want to tell a lesbian that they don't need to get a strap on or have a woman eat her coochie.

And even the Craigs list "cruising" for strange fruit is just as much a part of their desires as finding someone. The thril of the chase or even the act of cruising is a lifestyle choice for some. Just like ladies night out with the girls or a anonamous bootycall.

If you can't understand that men are pretty much just like women and with that there are just as many women on the DL and men. Then you can not be fair enough to deal with the issue.

Even the Spartan soldiers were known to be at least bi if not gay and they were some of the most fears soldiers in history. Or how about the Greeks being known for the men having sex with each other as a way of not getting a woman violated...lol

So the problem here is somehow there is something that you (women) seem to not be able to deal with very well...

And this DL issue may be as difficult as HOW do you openly talk about men and women on the DL without assuming that what either of them like sexually with whoever may cause you to belittle them as a man or a woman just like Hetro men and women.

Maybe women can't handle the truth and that is why many of them are not told the truth?

So what if your a strong enough woman to be willing to handle being open with your possible mate and being able to earn their trust to be open with you?

Now peep this...

How prepared are you to first deal with the possibility of learning that up until that person met you, they may have HAD to live a double life?

How ready are you to openly communicate your concerns with JUST being concerned with your trust being violated more than being sexually different?

What are you ready to allow if you are told that their lust for others is something deeper than the ability to give up, even if they love someone they need to have that part of their life in their life?

Would you try to assist them in having that dual connection in their sexual nature?

Can you deal with providing communication with your possible mate in confidence that you will never out them?

How will that effect your image of that person's manhood?

How prepared are you to be nurturing and respectful of their ego, knowing what you may find out to be how they are?

*wicked grin*

It's not a easy road to travel with anyone. And it is only worth whatever you feel it is worth to you and how well you can connect with your possible mate.

Deep huh?  

"a great deal of men who live a double life are in denial and simply aren't willing to come clean because they haven't accepted their own reality..."

Great statement!

So peep this...

How can anyone accept something they have lerned from everyone to be shameful? Like being born gay.

Who else can you come out too?

Think about the amount of closed minded people who will NEVER allow themselves to be THAT open to accept homosexuality, bisexuality like they do heterosexuality.

Some people consider THAT kind of secret so deep and dark that they hide in plane sight in dark places many call respectable secret groups and orders just because...

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Ok

I want to bring up a point here...

I personally do not see any difference in DL women and men on the DL other than society allowing women to excuse their unstable sexual urges as just being a woman.

But what concerns Me the most is our ability to evolve past the negative image of alternative sexuality in a so called heterosexual world.

Our sexuality does not make us who we are.

But our ability to not allow our sexuality to define us is of big concern.

Just because even if you don't feel you are effected by this issue.

Think again.

Our homophobic mentality has caused a great divide between many who are out and others who are not able to be out in their lives just because society will not allow it.

And that is more dangerous than being on the down low and not having any way of finding safer practices to indulge in with others who wish the same.

Maybe we should question our own personal morality just like we question our spirituality?

Because our basic sexual polarities are as natural as our physical structure.

But we all have been conditioned to shun what we can't handle.

And maybe it's time to stop running from reality.

Even if that reality is darker than we wish it to be.

It's not just about us.

It's about everyone.

And respecting who we are no matter what our sexual orientation is.

It's better to know than to be clueless.

Or is it?

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Breaking the rules of the game to play fairly?

I been doing a lot of thinking about what I have learned about these sexual lifestyles and the different titles and types of sexual natures known as what you are as you do what it is you do.

(WIITWDish)

What we __DO__ know is that everything within the realm of BDSM as we know it, seems to be not only helpful but respectful for consenting adults to adapt within their relationship dynamics no matter what spiritual faith base or cultural balance you support.

So what I have figured out so far is that by the time we become sexual adult minded people, we are capable of finding and keeping fruitful and productive relationships and honor others as well.

But THAT has been a very new awakening in just the past 15 or 20 years or so. And many of us today have lost the FULL memory of how it really used to be. I mean before we were old enough to remember before computers or cell phones or Tv and radio. And I'm hoping that I am reaching a few of you who may still have been too young to really remember when the REASON why parents made us go play outside is because there was VERY LITTLE to do other than chores in the daytime of our past youth. And the truth about growth of our nation and reality as what we see from Sea to Shining Sea...lol

There are JUST AS MANY young new and not so new adults in these lifestyle communities as their are elder types who have worked very hard to carry on the memory of the way things really used to be in our history. Because there is a legacy of protocols and rituals that several cultures also have within their own genetic mysteries. From Leather and Old Guard to Blue Blooded slavery and servitude to shameful memories of genocide and supremacy.

We all can see a reflection of something that we all can desire to live and admire within our desired relationship dynamics, in theory.

But there is a constant scream of "but there is nobody who I can relate that lives in the same state as me...lol"

And that is a ONLINE reality.

So it's a wild kind of vision to envision the sight of everything that is right with the next generations of new adults as they try to mold THEIR evolution more than many of us that have a lifetime history of how these lifestyles used to be, only now this is more of their reality and we are just holding up the walls or trying not to have no space to play well with others who see you as their fathers and mothers, only kinda naked...lol

###*evil grin*

And there is no longer a reason to try to explain why there should be one true way because that is where you are today when others in other places never have to see the faces of your demons that keep you from being where they are in their heads more than in their words.

And WORDS have had more power back in time than it was expected to be law in the Cyber world. And there becomes yet another issue. Because now there are more politics groups and protocol groups on these social sites that are active than there are self help groups for young adults with no older adults in membership.

So life online is becoming hard to find subjects that people with relate too. Without shock value or drama and gossip that others can watch too. And always a need to read each others words as a debate and not a lack of the ability to relate to the OP.

And much of what we suffer from is generational gaps than culture shock from subtle words and strange attentions from people too far away from you to file a complaint...lol

This aint your grandmother and grandfather's vision of freedom of sexual expression in the public realm when the World Wide Web we weave if as dark and as dirty as we tip toe between TOS's and cultural blacklisting just for missing the meaning of a humorous statement at the wrong time. And not enough time to rewind and correct a outside observation and reply in their HO (humble/honest opinion)...

And our children are quickly aging just enough to want to know how to better do this kinky stuff us older folks seem to know a bit more of. And it's hard enough posting your real age. But when your real age becomes the fun age to put on a young persons page like 25, 35, 40ish or 88, it seems that by the time you find out how young these other profile people are and where they have run away from? It's hard to agree on good scene music when they have more songs on their iPod than you can remember good albums you used to listen too that sounds just like that...lol

And as I walk through a land that is more fantasy than reality per capita that the odds of being in a actual mixed crowd can be younger in age than in the ability to know how much more they could be doing if we were not cool enough to let them keep doing what they are doing and not trying to stop them from doing it wrong.


There is no right way.

But there has to be a better way for all of us to do these BDSM lifestyles WDWIITWD....

But this Metro shit is really hard to take when there are more Dominant masochist and submissive Sadist than their are people they like enough to get and idea of what they can deal with and deal with how it is in their street and in their style of life while others have no idea how valuable each person is to their social dynamic more than they are able to learn the one you live without having to write cliff notes for them to read as you flow together or not.

But what is really HAWT, is that somehow I can see a small place in black history for you and Me in the POC BDSM community.

And there is more than Me in this community that can be more expressive if it wasn't for our ability to communicate more civilly.

And I don't think none of yall are deep enough to really be feeling Me.

*pimpish grin*


And sometimes I sit back and think about the First Lady and The President in the White House getting kinky as they want to be.

And I want to be THAT kinky and still just who I be.


A POC in the BDSM lifestyle Community.



Without self-knowledge, we cannot go beyond the mind.

~J. Krishnamurti~



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Has the internet changed our faith or our failure to be content?

I don't think we can blame the internet. That's too easy!

I think we give the internet too much credit for what WE DO. Or should I say what people on the internet are doing that is causing a unfair social condition in people who now are using the internet.

People are blaming the internet for their own abuse of such a powerful tool. Where in fact it is masses of people who are changing their own fate by the misuse of this powerful tool.

At one point these lifestyles were more private and not available to everyone to just explore out of boredom and lust for something new and exciting. People had to make physical contact and then communicate with each other before entering these many acts of these lifestyles. And that took trust and planning and respect in whom invites them into their realm of life and lifestyle. So learning of these lifestyles were not descriptive and instructional as they have become now on the internet.

Also, the internet created the ability to abuse basic reality. So people could be whoever they choose to be and gave people the ability to hide behind images and words that in person may not reflect the reality of truth as to who and how they really are. So people on the internet changed their basic morality as to fairness and responsibility to be open and truthful as to who they are and what they are about.

And internet sites and communities became open for corruption of intent. And people started to change the way they related to others and the amount of choices they have available. And the Bootycall was invented and the dating scene changed people and the way they treated others. And people became more blinded by a reality that had too many choices and too many options to devote to any chance acquaintance they made. And greed and confusion became more of a temptation as the internet became more available to masses of new people who found it easier to chat and search for anything and anyone they stumbled upon. And drama became a new word for unstable realities and a lack of the ability to communicate and be honest.

Thus, these lifestyles began to also suffer from mass abuse of honor and trust. And THAT is what so many claim they are lacking in being able to respect these relationship based lifestyles.

And people who NOW treat the internet as a means of communication have lost the ability to communicate and relate to others all because so many people abuse this realm of communication and exploration. And it has become too easy to loose sight of what they are searching for and why.

So now we try to blame the internet for causing the corruption of masses of people who now are not able to form stable friendships and fruitful relationships when in fact each person has no idea how so many people have changed the way they live and relate to each other respectfully.

So we can't out of all fairness blame the internet because it is just a means of communication and exploration.

We have to blame ourselves for loosing our own ability to respect each other as people who deserve the same. And we have all become addicted to not just choices that the internet offers everyone, but our addiction to finding better choices at a click of a mouse. Thus we now have lost our faith in our own reality. And it has become too easy to make the wrong choices of what we desire over the possibilities that something else or someone else is just advertising a better product or promise of being just what we need. So we have now become unstable people with too many choices and too many options that are possible.

And nobody wants to take the blame for having lost their faith to the internet. Because we are just simple people with too many choices to make just ONE and stick with it long enough to respect it.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the screen.

And these lifestyles are not unstable temptations caused by too many people being able to indulge in whatever they find interesting.

We just don't want to respect that other people are addicted to the internet and what it offers. Just as we are addicted to false advertisement for the need for something we can't have.

And that is a life that is not based on what we do online but what we have truthfully offline that is worth more than a better advertisement.

That's why we have more people in the history of this country that are single and looking for someone as a life partner or people who are just looking for something better to do with their lives that they see advertised.

These lifestyles are relationship based sexual lifestyles that were made to enhance what we choose to respect. And the only thing we respect is our connection speed and greed.

 
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Old guard vs The Next generation of adult lifestyles and the future of our history?

I have been struggling with how to civilly submit this issue in a public realm without causing even more drama between many of the lifestylers already including Myself.

But I really don't see many ways of presenting this subject in My own words. And I hope that I post a few words from a very respected Historian and Elder of the black and POC old guard realm as input enough to start some form of "hopefully civil" dialog on this subject.

First this article...

From Black Leather in Color 6 11-97

Old Guard New Guard

Copyright Viola Johnson. All rights reserved.

This text may not be reproduced or copied without written permission of the author. (I hope they don't disapprove)

The Sash season has formally ended for the year. 1997 has produced a bumper crop of title-holders of color. The S/M, Leather, Fetish world has acknowledged leatherfolk of color as a viable presence.

I got the chance to talk to two fine sash bearers when my leather family was in New Orleans. The conversation turned to what they were going to do during their title year. One responded that he wanted to reach our to more leather folk of color, but was having trouble finding them. His friend echoed the sentiment. I couldn't help but inquire as to where each of them thought they might find more new converts to our lifestyle. The answers; leather clubs, bars and conferences.

Were these two young men reaching out to "convert the saved"? I think so. Many of the organizations that are now represented in the leather/fetish family are echoing the same concerns." Where do we find our next leather generation".

As leathermen and women of color, that question may be even more important. For too many years there was a noticed absence of non-white faces on the sexually liberated horizon. Although there are many, many more of us than there have ever been before (including clubs and information exchanges that address the needs of non-white leatherfolk) there are not enough new faces being seen.

The sexually free leather adults of the 90's are a very different breed than what my generation was. When I came out into leather I was content to learn by the standards of the previous generation. Don't get me wrong, I am proud to be Old Guard. Their hands on mentoring taught me skills, history, pride and honor. But todays generation isn't playing by Old Guard rules. As a matter of fact, they are making up new rules as they go along.

20 Years ago you came out as a bottom or top under the tutoring eye of a mentor who awarded you your leather stripes. The roles were rigid and unquestioned. This generation says "I can be anything I want that feels good. Top, bottom, switch, bi-sexual, fetishist. Why pigeon hole myself. I want it all." And ALL often means things that we hadn't even thought of.

We dinosaurs, (myself included on occasion) breathe deeply, and back away shaking our heard and wishing for the good old days. When we are asked to instruct, too often our knowledge comes with the condition of "my way or the highway". The result; less and less young leathermen are asking the questions that need to be asked about safety, skills, who they are, and where they came from. Worse, they are not becoming members of the institutions that have been the foundations of the leather lifestyle.

The experiences we so jealously guarded have become main stream. The activities we only did at parties, our new generation is doing on the dance floor. Techniques once only practiced by an accomplished top are now being taught (?) in cyberspace and applied with only the knowledge that comes from books, magazines and chat rooms. There has to be some adjustment here.

The previous generation has an obligation to pass on its knowledge, or those that follow will forever be reinventing the wheel. But if we keep insisting that those who come after us do it our way or not at all we too will become fossilized in the leather version of the Tarpits.

I started this editorial off because I was worried about the next leather generation of color. Tell me readers, have the very people we seek been turned away from our clubs and contests because we are viewed as inflexible? Do those of us with knowledge and history to pass on (and that's damned near all of us with 7 or more years of experience) take our toys and go home because "We just don't understand THEM". Is it that the New Guard is right under our nose and we are too unyielding and self possessed to realize that these new kids really have some good ideas, they just need someone who will reach out and offer a little guidance.

We dinosaurs have to realize that the New Guard is Here To Stay. We better realize it soon or there is a chance that "The Scene" as we know it WON'T BE.

Copyright Viola Johnson. All rights reserved. This text may not be reproduced or copied without written permission of the author.

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I respect this woman like I respect My mother!

I have met her and enjoyed her library and her tour of her private collection of black erotic history and her hugs!

And although I am not of the Old Guard Leather legacy, I wish to respect what I can of what it was and what it has become.

But here is the issue...

Many of the people who now claim to bare the responsibility to carry the history into the future of what many of us wish to call these lifestyles are NOT painting a very respectable image of elders and trained craftsmen and women of this type of lifestyle to many of the NEW GENERATION.

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And much of their history that has been passed on with pride is now being with held from many of us who only see the actions and attitudes of many others who treat that lifestyle as a permission to judge others and talk down to other newbies for the sake of being considered elite and even cliquish.

Now I know that some of yall will consider this a insult, but let's keep it real here.

What are you really doing to show and prove that your history is worth the respect you demand over others who don't know who your are or why you feel the need to treat everyone else as kids or pawns to be played with for your own selfish indulgence.

Who are you to think you are really impressing while so many new generations of black and POC newbies are finding the need to shun many of you for the need of their own safety and sanity within these lifestyles?

I have watched many of us newbies watch many of you fight and bicker over who should be the king or queen of a empire that is suffering at your own hands as you blame many of us for not feeling your type of respect for who we are that is not like many of you.

We all don't have to like each other, but we should respect each other more than we are being treated with the common respect for what these lifestyles should be respected as to all of us and not to a few of you who have grown older and bitter as to the image of these new generations in these lifestyles who do not respect much of anything or anyone as they enter this realm of adult lifestyles.

So I leave many of you with the quote:

Don't blame the messenger...

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"When the message is being lost in translation and the lack of respectable examples from our elders who seem to not be concerned for the future of these lifestyles over their own personal personality conflicts with the youth."

Each one teach one is not cutting it. And if it takes a village to raise a child? Then the kinky community at large is NOT doing a very good job raising better and more respectable kinky children.

And that is a damned shame, but a reality that many of us of the next generation of kinky blacks and POCs as well as everyone else have to face with many of you who seem to be just fine with watching so many of us miss out on what this lifestyle was taught to many of you older lifestyle people.

And that's where My head is at right now.

Wondering when We will see any of you step up and do more tha bitch about who should not talk to who while you try to enjoy what many of you have left as what you had more of before you was given the so called torch of enlightenment.

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Even Smokie Robinson aint feeling the race we been dealing with.

The NAACP tried to bury the "N" word. And the masses tried to support a group of uppidy people who have little support for their own people as of late.

[But to here Smokie Robinson say it?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGXO9PGCUuI)
Even Smokie Robinson aint feeling the race we been dealing with.
Even Smokie Robinson aint feeling the race we been dealing with.

__*"Who comes up with this shit, anyway?
was it one/or a group'a niggas sittin' around one day?...
And if you think that being called 'African American'/
sets all Black people's mind at ease,
since we affectionately call each other 'nigga'
I affectionately say to you 'nigga please'..."*__

*"I love being a American, and I love being black. I love being called black. Yeah, I said it and I don't take it back."*

Now I aint one to gossip, but I was NEVER born with a silver spoon in My mouth. But I have never be ashamed of My slave history of the past down south. But I have read the words of a few of our elder leather kinky folks that reeked of classism and bigotry like holding a brown paper bag up against Me or even trying to compare their upbringing from singing "say it loud...I'm black and I'm proud" because too many of you have a history that is so shameful to you that you want to call yourself a POC.

But nobody noticed that oe of the reasons why some of our respected elders don't like Me is because I'm on some "Nigga shit" and call My style some shit from a Pimp. But if there was ever a Pimp on the Pulpit? I'll be damn if your gonna try to Make Me it. Just because too many people fear being near someone who's shit stinks. But all of the shit we eat, make our shit stink. So why do you think that we are on the brink of destruction and a dysfunctional community including Me if somebody wants to judge My history and they don't even have a clearance high enough to trust they can bust My legacy.

And this aint just about Me. It's about the you in Me or should I say the Me in you.

Yeah some of you that can relate to some of the words that come from Me to. When I wonder if any of you wonder about why we are having such a hard time just trying to be a community of blacks and POCs that are at least kinky.

But everyone wants to be civil.

But civil to who?

How many others have I been a bitch too?

How many of you have I befriended too without asking anything more from you than the ability to try to be to Me whan you claimed you wanted to be to Me and mines too.

But look at you.

Yes you.

Why do you have to hide behind these groups of others who don't even know you or what your into too. But you have a need to plead without greed to belong to something bigger than you been into.

But is this the lifestyle you live as you give so many other attention as they try to mention how humanly loved they have a need to be from most of you. And for what?

Knowing that your gut says this conflict is some silly shit.

But your need to belong fears being wrong if you find you don't fit into the popular crowd.

But even the popular crowd aint saying nothing loud but that we should stop all this drama while each party has their hearty heads in a cloud of popularity.

But are you proud of your black and POC community as it seems to be right now on this site?

Yeah, nobody has been treating each other right.

But who do you choose to abuse for being wrong?

When it aint been that long that black people as we know it have not been allowed to be kinky and show it.

Because we have to pick sides and shun the other.

Because someone you want to respect is as old as your father or your mother. But that don't make their reason for demanding treason from your only season to be not just some elite family but a community in unity.

And too many of you have been sold some old guard black constitution of lies that never was open to your eyes had you been older when these black cultures of lifestyles started.

And right now there are new people struggling to ot feel so broken hearted from the image that us black and POCs look like to the others on this site watching us grow.

Because there is too much history that would change the power of authority if there was more of Me than more of them.

And so I try once again, to let the healing begin.

But this time.

This struggle for revolution is YOURs more than it is Mines.



And if your afraid to state your piece at lease and start the peace then there will be no piece of this lifestyle that you will own.

Because I would rather be happy and black and kinky alone than be too new to be able to get into the shit you can't admit you need more help with keeping as your own lifestyle.

And this is not there lifestyle.

Most of your hero's will be dead in 10 years or more.

So what are you trying to be into these lifestyles for?



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If Sigmund Freud lived today? I wonder what he would say?

Psychotherapy has been known to have a fine "divide in theory" between the others after his time who challenged his studies and the times that were not as exposed to a dark side that until the 60's, 70's, 80's and 90's have never been considered as saturated with a certain cultural extremity of a substance that has come and gone in our recent history. But had Sigmonud Freud been reincarnated or at least had the chance to further his studies during a time that most of the world had become exposed more personally to the substance in question. Maybe his theories would have been more understood as to how many of todays dysfunctions that are now being considered more gender, sexual, energetically manipulated and polaric in nature as we now define many who now have been effected by direct or indirect contact with a reality of a substance that now is being noted as being genetically involved in the evolution of many of todays dysfunctional young adults and children. ADDHD and many other energetically altered states of enhanced evolutions have cause many in the psychological field to question if Sigmund Freud had continued his studies in our recent past of social manipulations of psycho and Biological substances and their effects on not just the consumer by the survivors of such a mass amount of indulgences that have been questioned by many other scholars who disclaimed Sigmund Freud's work due to the actual substance and the sexual connection that seemed at that time and era to be hysterical dew to the lack of coverage of different cultural genetic beings. While NOW in todays reflection of the past few years of our history have found many of the substances in question to now be a shameful reality for many inner city inhabitants and their decendants, relations and offspring that are today being diagnosed with many mental and bio polaric dysfunctions that had Sigmund Freud been alive in the past 50 years while many of these substances that have been in question as to why Sigmund Freud considered many of these Just as connected to his theories as his sexual connection to a darker almost more clinical kinkiness and gender based correlation to the spiritual and even upper metaphysical effect that many of these substances caused many of his subjects and theories in his studies to have been worth a deeper look into. Meaning? What if it was possible to revisit many of the theories that Sigmund Freud and his colleagues were studying in their day and time, and was able to compare them if not even allow them to further their studies in the times we have now grown to respect in our recent past that has been overly saturated by many of these questionable substances that we KNOW became introduced to mass proportions of many of the worlds inner cities to the degree that they became epidemic abuses and a world wide concern as to how that era would effect a much larger population of the general public. And for defense sake of this theory we all have to respect the reality of a certain time frame in the worlds history where these questionable substances were being consumed in epidemic proportions to masses of active adults and even children that have now grown to the age of at least young adult age today. From "Crack Babies" to Mass amounts of drug induced abuse and social manipulations that have even been recorded as shifting the moral structure of mass populations of inner city inhabitants of much of the worlds cultural realities. From prohibition to Reefer Madness to the free Love sexual revolution and feminism to Hippies and the Psychedelic Experience to the 70's explosion into the Birth of the Disco Club scene and the era of Excess and then the evolution into the darker image of the Pop and Hip Hop as well as the Hard Rock evolution that soon became the even darker era of The drug scene and the crime and crack became a shameful reality though out the 90's and the awakening of the millenium and then the shock of the S&L Scandal and the Enron financial break down into what we now face as a health care dilemma of today that also includes the deeper reality of the Mental Health field being in need of re-evaluation so that it can better support the ability to reconstruct a more productive educational system. But while everything that has been mentioned thus far about how the image of the indulgence and manipulation of these substances becoming more of a possibility of mutating massive amounts of "New Generations" of individuals who have survived or become created from the residue of a tainted past of substances that had been considered in the era and time of Sigmund Freud's studies and research. But this is the point of this post where this theory rather makes sense enough to entertain this fantasy or consider the invitation senseless. If Sigmund Freud was able to further complete his study and research with all of the NEW Information that has NOW become available from the basic statistics of the REALITIES of the past 60 years of evolutions of social populations of the inner cities of the worlds major cities. Including the proof of an excessive amount of indulgences of controlled substances by more than a average amount of general populations of not just the area of Sigmund Freud's Life and times of the past but also a recreation of his continued study in THIS day and age if it is or could be possible. If Sigmund Freud was alive today. I wonder what he would say about the evolution of todays populations of recently altered and mentally manipulated dysfunctional people who have been effected to a greater degree by many of the questionable substances that had become a deterrent from considering many of Freud's observations and theories to be honorable enough to consider as important TODAY than the day that He existed in conflict of being able to define as sane by his peers. Because at least today we know that it is possible for today's populations to have been subjected to many of the darker indulgences that may in the past questioned as respectfully possible. Sex, drugs and rock and roll has become a true reality more so within today's reality than back in the days when Sigmund Freud first became inquisitive in deeply studying the human psyche and it's connection to our sexuality and dysfunctional mentalities due to outside manipulative substances and unstable biochemical alterations of the genetic structure of a new version of evolution of human kind in a more exposed reality. And that reality has become more real for more people on earth in masses who have now become more introduced to a theory that was only entertained as well as investigated by someone who was before his time. And out of everything that I would consider was a waste of gray matter and idle chatter from Sigmund Freud was his mind and all the time he tried to find some deeper understanding of a deeper psychotic trait that now have become a part of a greater possible mental state of too many people around the world that have found the substances that became questionable as to his own fate. What if Sigmund Freud was before his time? And why are so many people who today find the study of psychology and the effects of many of today's influences of the same substances that were also interesting enough for Freud to further investigate still entertaining the same manner of denial as his colleagues ridiculed him and his theories to be. But for some reason, if you were to study psychology as it is respected today. You would have to also learn of the journey that Freud took in discovering a deeper darker possibility of a reality that many today can only shamefully deny has no effect on the human mentality. The same substances that called Sigmund Freud into question for his theory and study has become lately a reality for too many who have had to deal with it's reality. This is your brain on drugs and sexuality. And I wonder why so many still find his theory more of a comedy than a possible reality. And I don't think many of you can consider that possibility. And that mentality is starting to feed a greater tragedy. Sigmund Freud may have been more on to a theory that today has become too shameful of a reality.
What is causing such a massive degree of dysfunctional mentalities if Freud was considered to be just a sex crazed kinky addict who made up such a theory of possibilities of how a mass amount of humans could end up not having any mental stability? Denial or dope? What do you think?

And speaking of energy

And what gets Me about this whole theory is how far back they were consuming the SAME substances that have now become genetically part of some many peoples bio chemistry that NOBODY knows what kind of effect anything has on anyone.

But we do know that many people who are Bi Polar have triggers that happen from casual introductions of energy emitted from others who may not know they are effecting others by smell, taste, touch, feel, or transmission of energy from distances.

DENIAL is the perfect word.

Because there are more recovering addicts as well as mentally dysfunctional people who all have been overly exposed to the substances that Freud was explaining in his studies to have deeper effects on their mental and sexual nature.

And DENIAL has been the problem because todays people are still suffering from the shame of being able to admit that they have been effected and exposed to the substances that many in the Medical and Mental Health field consider not important.

And now many of the Medicines that are now being administered to masses of people include the ingredients of them same substances from Tylonol to Viagra as well as many of the Psycho stablizing drugs like Prozac, Zoloff and many others.

And here is something many people have not considered to be just as important in the mental Health field...

Energy!

Like the Chakras.

Now in todays science it is respected to believe that we have Chakras.

We believe that there is energy that we absorb and emit or transmit that travel the same paths as the effects of pheromones.

And in the study of the Chakras it is a fact that the first 3 basic points of the Chakras are all sexually manipulated and driven but sexual knowledge and contact. Like how some state that you have to watch who you share your energy with and how someone can transmit certain energies that may be unhealthy for some others.

And THAT is what has been happening as of late, while the medical field has only been able to experiment with Pharmaceutical drugs to alter the brains mechanical triggers without knowing what or who is causing these triggers to exist.

So yeah...

Anyone I find who says they major in Psychology and thinks that Sigmund Freud was a Coked out sex freak?

I tend to consider them more of the problem that we are facing in trying to find the source of these dysfunctions and how to better control them without destroying the natural evolution of brain functions of todays overly evolved masses of people.

It seems that everyone knows how to spot a crack head today.

But nobody wants to know how and why they exist.

And they do too.

And Sigmund Freud was NOT a crack head!



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Racist Annonamous...

Hi...

*snicker*


My name is AMP...

And I am a racist.

*blank stare*

I actually hate more Black People than I hate White People...

__*"Whoooooosaaaahhhhhh"*__


"Wow!"


*wicked grin*

That really DID feel Guuuuuddd!


*evil grin*



We have now become genetic mutations of race and relations.

Just like our kink.

We don't need home training anymore because we are not in everyone's home.

And I claim The President of America as My Commander and Chief Because I'm Bound By My GOD, My Country, and My Corps.

Now why the rest of you like or dislike President Obama is a matter of race or relations or both.

I'm a Native American.

That's it.


That's all.

And That's My President.

And I don't live in My country.

I live in My Country's Capitol.

It's something else.


Just Like Me...




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The Dark Side revisited.

So I hear all these people talking about the lightside.

*blank stare*

Fuckin pansies!

And a few have even tried to get Me to cum to the lightside!

Awl fuck that!

(Don't go into the light?)

What's wrong with the Dark Side?

I'll tell you what...

We don't allow wimps on the Dark Side and there are too many wimpy ass people who always want to bitch about how fair shit is sposed to be and how nice we sposed to be to other weaker life forms.

The Dark Side Is Not For Wimps!

Maybe that's why so many people can't take a little heat.

Damn!

Always trying to look like that pink shirt with your suit makes you look less weak!

Naw...

Bring your ass to the Dark Side!

We have not just cookies, we got brownies too!

And if your not ready for brownies?

Then stay you ass in the light and suck on that bitch milk!


Weak people fall for weak game!

*evil stare*


So why you scared of the Dark Side?

Even Jesus luvs the Dark Side!

That's the damn problem here.

I aint got to have a light side I have to come back home to for safety.

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I got a Lifetime PASS to the Dark Side with no doors closed to Me.

And I aint got no curfew or no collar.

Some of yall have to be good boys and good gurls, because yall was raised to be THAT way first.

Now, most of yall are just SNEAKING over to The Dark Side and getting back home in time enough to go to Church!

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And hating on Me because every time yall try to cross that fine line into some Dark Shit?

My Black Ass is up in here, getting in your way!

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So how many other people on My friends list consider Me Something Lower than The Devil outside of a few POCs who don't like My title of The Devil's Dominant!

And some of yall think I got jokes, and I do.

But what else I got, is no need to tuck tail and go to the light!

And some of yall don't like not being able to party in hell, not because they MAKE you be around some evil shit. But because THEY should NOT have to worry about and of you being able to be fine with THAT too!

And the people around Me who claim to be from DC are scared to BE in DC like We Be. 24/7 aint heaven, but aint none of us here worth being called trash. and none of Us Evil little people in Hell have to explain to you people why we aint talking about visiting the Dark Side.

I mean being a Fuckin Owner of the Dark Side to which I live and Dwell in Hell.

And if your ass ever get stuck in Hell, and we are on speaking terms. You may not know where to find and Angel to save you.

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And you wonder why the few people who LOOK like Me seems to be feuding with Me?

That's because THEY aint like Me.

And I don't want to digress to express My sympathies for some of you.

Noooooooooo, My brother.

You aint reading what I said correctly.

I said THE DARK SIDE AINT FOR WHIMPS!

If you aint a card holding Member and Owner and investor of the District?

Then your a tourist = "a Dark Side"

And I'm the Devil's Dominant!

For REAL!

And the Devil likes Me fucking with most of more than your asses know what being Devilish is about!

I aint Fake'n Da Funk!

I'm Funkier than most of these other loud Mouthed haters want to tell you they AINT ALLOWED to be but they want to look like they are more than Me. And They aint Met Me and survived quite well in Hell either.

So what You think?

That's right!

You don't have to think on the dark Side!

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Obama wins a Nobel Prize! And it's only His first year...

For just being the First African American President.
For His stance on Nukes.
For His style and His class.

And for His ability to be respected by the world more than the past few presidents we have had thus far.

He won!

President Barack Obama wins Nobel Peace Prize

By KARL RITTER and MATT MOORE, Associated Press Writers Karl Ritter And Matt Moore, Associated Press Writers – Fri Oct 9, 5:25 am ET

OSLO – President Barack Obama won the 2009 Nobel Peace Prize on Friday for "his extraordinary efforts to strengthen international diplomacy and cooperation between peoples," the Norwegian Nobel Committee said, citing his outreach to the Muslim world and attempts to curb nuclear proliferation.

The stunning choice made Obama the third sitting U.S. president to win the Nobel Peace Prize and shocked Nobel observers because Obama took office less than two weeks before the Feb. 1 nomination deadline. Obama's name had been mentioned in speculation before the award but many Nobel watchers believed it was too early to award the president.

"Only very rarely has a person to the same extent as Obama captured the world's attention and given its people hope for a better future," the committee said. "His diplomacy is founded in the concept that those who are to lead the world must do so on the basis of values and attitudes that are shared by the majority of the world's population."

The committee said it attached special importance to Obama's vision of, and work for, a world without nuclear weapons.

"Obama has as president created a new climate in international politics. Multilateral diplomacy has regained a central position, with emphasis on the role that the United Nations and other international institutions can play," the committee said.

Theodore Roosevelt won the award in 1906 and Woodrow Wilson won in 1919. Former President Jimmy Carter won the award in 2002, while former Vice President Al Gore shared the 2007 prize with the U.N. panel on climate change.

The Nobel committee received a record 205 nominations for this year's prize.

In his 1895 will, Alfred Nobel stipulated that the peace prize should go "to the person who shall have done the most or the best work for fraternity between the nations and the abolition or reduction of standing armies and the formation and spreading of peace congresses."

Unlike the other Nobel Prizes, which are awarded by Swedish institutions, he said the peace prize should be given out by a five-member committee elected by the Norwegian Parliament. Sweden and Norway were united under the same crown at the time of Nobel's death.

The committee has taken a wide interpretation of Nobel's guidelines, expanding the prize beyond peace mediation to include efforts to combat poverty, disease and climate change.

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Associated Press Writer Ian MacDougall contributed to this report.

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Why yall hating on a Pimp Like Me for being called "DADDY"?

But not like it's a Daddy Dom kinda thang.

As a matter of fact?

It's not even a swagger.

But I BET you, somebody can relate to the subtle difference in calling a Pimp Dom Daddy and somebody who has a problem with the WORD Pimp!

Here lies the conflict.

Because even a Convict can be rehabilitated but Rehab is for quitters.

And not that THAT is not a bad thing, but the one thing that makes a difference in the two is what side of retirement are you.

True?

There was once a Man Named Sweet Daddy Grace.

if you was a saint? You will remember Daddy Grace as a Wonderful Pastor of a Powerful inner city church.

if you wasn't a saint? You will remember the image of a Sweet Black Man they called Daddy Grace.

Two Different type Dominant Men behind one face.

And many of Mothers had husbands but only ONE Daddy even if they say that would have to be Jesus!

And I'm trying not to take the Lords name in vain. But some will complain about that Gentleman Sir that became a Master and faster than you can say Alpha Male they would praise the Lord thy Monarch and the light and the dark they call a good man Daddy.

And that's more than a title of a polarity in a BDSM community you people are trying to sell Me.

But I fail to be moved by force on My own damned source and of course My own journey in doing Me and My Family.

But these people would rather kill Me than consider that a fantasy of becoming more like Me or at least like Me for being who I be.

A damn Pimp Daddy.

To the few who knew how to do what they do by teaching you that you can't be no TRUE Dom and be a swinger and a Pimp and a Nigga and NOT in a "N" word kinda way.

I'm talking about today...

In any way, anyone who has the guts to say is THEIR OWN Way. And they do it all day, every day. Should be able to play they own role until they head is "swole".

And Pimp Daddies don't collect snuggle bunnies and protect the freaky honeys. But they keep mad funnies for them dummies that bees sleeping on His Pimpish Nature.

But that's enough for people to hate your character.

But Pimp types don't need a reputation. Just like the Dominant definition of a BITCH or a Diva or a Madam.

But Dick aint Dominance and more hoes with they had Him.

So the few who do?


Sometimes...

Enjoy calling a Pimpish Dominant Daddy more than they want admit that they love some Pimp Shit too.

Can get the best of you.

Like Voodoo.

The Dark Shit I love to do...

Is deeper that just trying to be fucking around with some BDSM lifestyle shit.

*evil stare*

A Pimp once told Me: *"Hey Boy, don't never trust a Gentleman Dom. Because they will bullshit you faster than they bullshit they own game. And a Pimp will do the same thing, only He will respect you enough to be up front about it."*

I thought about that long and hard as I listened to people call out for the father and the son and that holy spirit that seemed to make them wet from the Top or the bottom.

*snicker*

And I remembered the sound and the difference when someone calls a Pimpstyle Gent DADDY.

And Now I am a Grown Ass Man.

And the people who call Me Daddy?

Don't get everything they ask for when they do it.

Sometimes they hate being called out on trying to hustle you in humility.

And sometimes they just want attention or a spanking.

*evil grin*


And sometime they don't know any better because seldom have they ever found a Brother so down that He's damn near a Pimp!

And sometimes people treat a Daddy Dom like a wimp.

Just because his dick went limp!

And Dick aint dominance to a Dominant Pimp.

And that's why some little gurls get wet in the panties off of the fantasy of calling a Pimpish Dominant Provider...


Daddy


But it takes game to make game.

And aint nobody gonna complain if you got good game.

Fuck fame!


I am Alpha Master Pimp Sir EZ

The Lord GOD Loki

And if your lucky?

you can call Me Daddy.

*wicked grin*

And wish you had Me.


...

But I aint one to gossip so you aint heard it from Me!

...

[Now THIS is game!]


...



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Someone asked Me about sub mission in theory...

I have been noticing a great deal of different types of submissives actually.

So it's kinda hard to describe because I really don't have any in My system..lol

anywho...

sub mission...

It says to yield to the will of others.

I see some who are naturally submissive and get off on following or being lead. But not like their dumb or nothing, but like they really like to follow. Kinda like the OLD SONG before most of you guys time Little Peggy March - I Will Follow Him That image of a love for someone that is complete at the point of sub mitting to their mate.

And then there are the kind that want someone to lean on more or less. And the difference is that they don't want to be under them 24/7 like the first description but want to have a partner who is more of a head of a household they reside in. So they do the Manly things and they can submit to them in comfort.

I know them two are alike...

Then there are the service types that kinda like doing things for people.

One type is like they love to serve. They like seeing the result of their service on the face of others.

Another is more of a giver. They just want to give. Whatever it is they want the feeling of willfully giving away as much as they can bare. That actually is emotional.

And then there is the sympathizer. The bleeding heart type that wants to comfort or care for somebody. And this type can be divided into two types. I'll use the nursing field as a example for them.

1 is ok with working in a hospital and even doing blood work but nothing too messy or mushy.

The other is a hard core care giver type that wants to make your last days comfortable. Even changing bed pans or sitting with you until you take your last breath.

Both of these types are driven by a act of nurturing or acting out of sympathy for someone as a reward.

And then there are the sexual types.

1 just wonts to be used. And while this use may reach the point of door mat, they are fine with that image. Sometimes they have deeper issues of feeling the need to be treated as less than human.

Another is the kind who wants attention. And I mean they want to be the center of that attention. And they are willing to do whatever to be the center of their attraction and attention.

Another is someone who wants a fair trade. They look for someone who treat them with a fair exchange of TPE. Most times they tend to get more than normal but that is only because the Dominate type likes to give.

And then there are the types who just want something.

They really are not submissive more than they are lonely. And whatever they have to do to not be bored or alone is coo with them within reason.

That type tends to switch when bored. Or just feeling the need to switch things up.

Now ALL of these types are NOT set in stone.

Each example can include a little of another or a lot of one.

But sub mission as a act is really the most powerful act to be mastered when mastered.

The ability to complete someone or even support everything from the rear is powerful and important.

While that act is often abused or ignored at the wrong times. When you find a connection worth working with? Anything is possible within that kind of dynamic.

But, there is no ONE TRUE way about it because as individuals we all are unique.

A really good sub missive is one who not only is driven to find out what kind of sub missive they are, but also wants to improve their craft to be better supportive to whom ever they find worthy of their time and efforts.

Everyone has some submissive and Dominance within them.

The degree and the attraction to either polarity is up to the individual.

So all of this is just My opinion in My observation of these lifestyles and many people within them.

But a healthy PARTNERSHIP demands a equal balance of each polarity at all times within a relationship of some sort.

I will say this...

NOBODY will ever find out how well they are at being any of these polarities in minutes or days and even years.

Life is a journey.

We all have to learn to give t all we got for as long as we can take it.

And learn how to take more and give more.

Living is a Art.

Loving is a Craft.

Life is a Job.

It's hard work if your doing something right!

There is no off switch in being a Dominant or a sub missive.

So ya might as well find out how much you have to work with before, during and after you find yourself headed into these type dynamics.

BDSM is not a selfish sport unless it's a fetish.

sub mission is NOT a fetish.

respect