A public message to Laurence Fishburne. From 1 father to another

Dear Laurence Fishburne...

As a Father and a fan I would like to ask you to do something that may at first seem unquestionable personally but I believe in theory may shine I different light on the whole public issue between your daughter and her antics and career and Your emotional disgust at the manner that it has been handled so far.

First...

Where ever You are now? SEND FOR YOUR CHILD. Just her, and if the young man she is seeing has the guts to show up with her, send for him with her. 
And the FISRT thing I think will be helpful is the first thing you do is give her a public hug and make sure the media knows you are not publicly disowning your child.

Secondly...
Try and invite her to a formal sit down and family chat. And in that chat understand that she is now a adult and all the things that have happened can not be changed. And admit that she has single handedly put her name and her image in a very large portion of the media's focus in a very short amount of time. And THEN I want you to offer her some help and assistance in being able to better control her image and her career PERSONALLY and Professionally. Even if that means going back to school and learning her craft or skill or whatever she see's fit.

Thirdly...
Don't let anyone think that You are trying to BUY back her favor with You.
But consider this act of fatherly assistance a way of fixing the family image that is not really soiled that much if you look at it from a Grown Man's perspective. So make the haters your motivators as well as hers. And show her the ropes of the industry.

And most of all...

Please remember that right now Your little girl is fighting for some kind of identity. No matter how you may think it looks now. She has more people wishing she does better than people waiting for her to end up in the gutter somewhere because nobody would offer her assistance and advice and not take offense at what she feels "OK" with being seen as right now. She is still your little gurl stuck in this big world with a lot of KRUDDY friends that have no home training. And while it may be too late to teach morality you can mentor her street skills and accept her as a strong woman that may need better resources.

She must love you a whole lot to make this big of a scene to get your attention.

And I think we in the black community really want to see You and her turn this whole media circus around and shine like You have been shining and hustling your craft from a child to a proud father.

Remember all the women we have met that were just like her only they had less resources than she could have if she had a better Friend than a father right now...

But please...

Go get your child from the media hounds!
She needs some public relations help.
Right now.

And that could make up for all the things that made her feel she was in this word on her own...

And we need to see at least ONE MORE image of a strong Black Father who is not afraid of defending his child. No matter what she is trying to do...

What would Jesus do?
Luke 7:36-50


Hey Fish...
We go back to School Daze in ATL.

Wake up!


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Has the internet changed our faith or our failure to be content?

I don't think we can blame the internet. That's too easy!

I think we give the internet too much credit for what WE DO. Or should I say what people on the internet are doing that is causing a unfair social condition in people who now are using the internet.

People are blaming the internet for their own abuse of such a powerful tool. Where in fact it is masses of people who are changing their own fate by the misuse of this powerful tool.

At one point these lifestyles were more private and not available to everyone to just explore out of boredom and lust for something new and exciting. People had to make physical contact and then communicate with each other before entering these many acts of these lifestyles. And that took trust and planning and respect in whom invites them into their realm of life and lifestyle. So learning of these lifestyles were not descriptive and instructional as they have become now on the internet.

Also, the internet created the ability to abuse basic reality. So people could be whoever they choose to be and gave people the ability to hide behind images and words that in person may not reflect the reality of truth as to who and how they really are. So people on the internet changed their basic morality as to fairness and responsibility to be open and truthful as to who they are and what they are about.

And internet sites and communities became open for corruption of intent. And people started to change the way they related to others and the amount of choices they have available. And the Bootycall was invented and the dating scene changed people and the way they treated others. And people became more blinded by a reality that had too many choices and too many options to devote to any chance acquaintance they made. And greed and confusion became more of a temptation as the internet became more available to masses of new people who found it easier to chat and search for anything and anyone they stumbled upon. And drama became a new word for unstable realities and a lack of the ability to communicate and be honest.

Thus, these lifestyles began to also suffer from mass abuse of honor and trust. And THAT is what so many claim they are lacking in being able to respect these relationship based lifestyles.

And people who NOW treat the internet as a means of communication have lost the ability to communicate and relate to others all because so many people abuse this realm of communication and exploration. And it has become too easy to loose sight of what they are searching for and why.

So now we try to blame the internet for causing the corruption of masses of people who now are not able to form stable friendships and fruitful relationships when in fact each person has no idea how so many people have changed the way they live and relate to each other respectfully.

So we can't out of all fairness blame the internet because it is just a means of communication and exploration.

We have to blame ourselves for loosing our own ability to respect each other as people who deserve the same. And we have all become addicted to not just choices that the internet offers everyone, but our addiction to finding better choices at a click of a mouse. Thus we now have lost our faith in our own reality. And it has become too easy to make the wrong choices of what we desire over the possibilities that something else or someone else is just advertising a better product or promise of being just what we need. So we have now become unstable people with too many choices and too many options that are possible.

And nobody wants to take the blame for having lost their faith to the internet. Because we are just simple people with too many choices to make just ONE and stick with it long enough to respect it.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the screen.

And these lifestyles are not unstable temptations caused by too many people being able to indulge in whatever they find interesting.

We just don't want to respect that other people are addicted to the internet and what it offers. Just as we are addicted to false advertisement for the need for something we can't have.

And that is a life that is not based on what we do online but what we have truthfully offline that is worth more than a better advertisement.

That's why we have more people in the history of this country that are single and looking for someone as a life partner or people who are just looking for something better to do with their lives that they see advertised.

These lifestyles are relationship based sexual lifestyles that were made to enhance what we choose to respect. And the only thing we respect is our connection speed and greed.

 
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Sex is a drug that is in need of more respect than a nutt! Know the difference?

YOU CAN CHANGE WHATEVER IS WITHIN YOU!

But first you have to do more than ask questions and consider yourself doomed to what you may find around you to be failure and pain.

It's really a bit more basic. Just as the laws of attraction and the understandings who you are and what is within you to control. And until you better find ownership of your own inner being and a better control of said being? You will not be more able to defend your own self from what you FEEL to be...

Chakras are a great place to start as well as meditation.

Understanding that the energy that flows within all of us is absorbed and transmitted from 7 points in our body that are not physically seen. Chakras are where your hidden powers reside.

Find them.

Learn what they are and what they do.

Condition them by owning them first and then controlling the flow and transmission of them.

The mind is not the ONLY point that controls your emotions or desires.

But the mind is the sum of all 7 points and not the organ in your head.

Try this site and then find others to better explain these 7 points of your mind and where they are.

http://www.sacredcenters.com/chakras

Chakra Seven: Sahasrara

Thought, Universal identity, oriented to self-knowledge

This is the crown chakra that relates to consciousness as pure awareness. It is our connection to the greater world beyond, to a timeless, spaceless place of all-knowing. When developed, this chakra brings us knowledge, wisdom, understanding, spiritual connection, and bliss.

Chakra Six: Ajna

Light, Archetypal identity, oriented to self-reflection

This chakra is known as the brow chakra or third eye center. It is related to the act of seeing, both physically and intuitively. As such it opens our psychic faculties and our understanding of archetypal levels. When healthy it allows us to see clearly, in effect, letting us “see the big picture.”

Chakra Five: Vishuddha

Sound, Creative identity, oriented to self-expression

This is the chakra located in the throat and is thus related to communication and creativity. Here we experience the world symbolically through vibration, such as the vibration of sound representing language.

Chakra Four: Anahata

Air, Social identity, oriented to self-acceptance

This chakra is called the heart chakra and is the middle chakra in a system of seven. It is related to love and is the integrator of opposites in the psyche: mind and body, male and female, persona and shadow, ego and unity. A healthy fourth chakra allows us to love deeply, feel compassion, have a deep sense of peace and centeredness.

Chakra Three: Manipura

Fire, Ego identity, oriented to self-definition

This chakra is known as the power chakra, located in the solar plexus. It rules our personal power, will, and autonomy, as well as our metabolism. When healthy, this chakra brings us energy, effectiveness, spontaneity, and non-dominating power.

Chakra Two: Svadhisthana

Water, Emotional identity, oriented to self-gratification

The second chakra, located in the abdomen, lower back, and sexual organs, is related to the element water, and to emotions and sexuality. It connects us to others through feeling, desire, sensation, and movement. Ideally this chakra brings us fluidity and grace, depth of feeling, sexual fulfillment, and the ability to accept change.

Chakra One: Muladhara

Earth, Physical identity, oriented to self-preservation

Located at the base of the spine, this chakra forms our foundation. It represents the element earth, and is therefore related to our survival instincts, and to our sense of grounding and connection to our bodies and the physical plane. Ideally this chakra brings us health, prosperity, security, and dynamic presence.

...

So now, think of how easy it is to better control them and keep them healthy by meditation, exorcise and respect.

Your emotions do NOT come from your brain or any other organ other than the 7 points within your spiritual body. But more directly from the first 3 lower chakras in your body. The others are just as connected but all have different uses and powers as well.

So what I'm saying here is...

No matter how fucked up you may feel. You are alive.

Others around you may never understand what I am speaking of.

But that is no excuse for you to allow them to be blamed for your emotions and your mental health.

Start there first.

And ease up on the desire to look for pleasure to sooth your boredom.

Sex is also a drug if you do not respect the power it creates within you and the others around you.

You can not protect yourself from negative energy if you don't know what it is or what it aint.

Everything around you has both polarities.

Learn to choose more wisely.

And to treat your mind and body better and you will feel better, even when the shit hits the fan. At least you will know how better to define your own worth.

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How much old heritage can we apply to todays new reality out of respect for what it was?

The passing of the torch to a new generation.

How much of the past is relevant to what is available to us in the future?

Our history has been paved with good intentions.


But here's something that I have been entertaining in My head about this subject as of late...

My Brother spoke of a OATH and Promise of passing on what has been given to the Elders before us about these traditions and lessons of conditioning and respect for these styles of lifestyles that many of us now find more in open view for all to find and use for our cultural needs as who we have been in the past to be where we are right now.

But what I find to be a difficult twist to have to now reflect out of respect for our reality more than the expectations of a certain ORDER and PROTOCOL that our elders have been blessed with the duty of passing on to the next generations to come.

But THIS has been the FIRST year that I have found there is now a few twist that even our elders never foresaw.

First is membership and inclusion.

NOW, we are all faced with a conflict with the options offered by our past laws respected by our elders. That conflict first becomes as simple as our new realty.

I remember having several debates and conversations with many others including many of our respectable elders who boldly stated a reality that we as of this year are faced with a exception that was never offered. That option was the understand that as long as we are black or POCs in America. We will NEVER see in OUR LIFETIME a black or POC become elected to become the FIRST black and POC president of THIS country. And I remember hearing them honestly admit that this country is NOT ready to handle that kind of new found respect for their content of character and not the color of their creed.

They said humbly that we can not feel all is lost while we have to respect that NOT IN OUR LIFETIME will our people as well as America as a whole will NOT allow that image to exist without a severe revolt from the masses who have been conditioned to not allow such a reality to become our history.

And when I think back to many of the times I have had to respect My elders faith over their fantasies of a impossible prediction.

But look at us today.

We still have a Black or POC President of this country!

But we Never have been prepared for this amount of evolution into what we now are faced with as a country as a whole.

Not just black and POCs who have been defined as too unstable of a mentality as a people to not overly abuse our new found freedom and foundation from where we have come from our American past history.

And even non black and POC type Americans are suffering from a self imposed fear of the possibilities of a reality of others knowledge of the character of people they have been raised thus far to believe blacks and POCs are able to respectfully honor as NOW full members of this countries dynamic that was never expected to EVER become this multi racial and civil.

And this is the FIRST twist in a reality that non of our elders expected was in need of being more trained and prepared to not just respect but to honor without fear of being bamboozled by the "other man" who has grown to believe that our genetic structure as a race can not be trusted with such a responsibility when we have been persecuted so severe enough to expect a back lash because we may not receive reparations for past suffering of others who have now grown out of the need to be entitled as a oppressor.

And EVERYTHING right now is too extremely different from where our elders were conditioned to respect for the need of our own protocols and previsions custom made for what our race had been defined as.

But that slight reality and change of reality as we know it now has changed EVERYTHING that was made to not belittle our people as they have become.

So while I desire to honor My elders.

I am now stuck with a NEW reality. And I as well as everyone else in this country are also suffering from a unexpected twist in fate that has not fueled our fears that were once taught to be a need for caution as to how possible for blacks and POCs to become productive partners of the American way...

So that first reality is becoming a difficult twist in fate and reality to justify some of the customs that are put in place to better prepare our people to become more respectable citizens of a country that was formed under the reality of that time in history as a reason to consider the ability for blacks and POCs to become just as much of responsible and respectable partners in this countries importances.

Now...

The next image I wish to paint is something else that has not been considered as a need to be better prepared for being more free as a character of people as a whole from many others in our past who never saw the evolution of the blacks and POCs being able to not just mix or melt into one country undivided but the ability for us to genetically become considered equal.

But we are not just free. We are overly exposed to the same new reality and freedom that everyone has not found within the WORLD WIDE WEB.

So how do we now teach a tradition that was passed down from our elders when these new blacks and POCs are faced with a freedom that has just become not just a new reality but has become a contradiction to a rule that was shamefully taught to everyone at a point in American history.

So now comes the twist.

We as older adults who have had some education offered to us by our elders of our past generations and cultures.

How ready are we to be able to deal with being able to offer JUST WHAT the younger generation may desire to learn without having to deal with your conditioning of that past protocol of crawling before we walk when these new generations are faced with a reality that has never existed before in our genetic reality as a whole.

Meaning?

If you find yourself being questioned by a younger generation that wants to better learn how to respect the beauty of what these lifestyles have to offer all of us as responsible adults, because they want to also respect their heritage and add their own style to what they already have been told is the ugly truth about what black people and POCs are capable of dealing with after all the abuse they have recorded as such.

But what about generation X,Y, and Z as well as these newly free babyboomer adults that are now finding themselves back into the populace of adluts just because they have found them selves of sound mind and body at a older age than they have been taught was possible.

So what do you offer someone who May not want to respect the structure of OLD GUARD protocols and mentalities that are out of date as a reality of what we are and what we have a options as who we are now in reality compared to what have been understood as what we can be if we are offered a fair equality as American people and now un_evolved animals and natives.

So if a young adult wishes to learn more about these traditions and cultural protocols of a different breed of human than what they have learned they are, but they don't want to respect everything they feel does not apply to their character. So all they want is a few pointers as a structure and not a all or nothing clause of what they have to be in order to be respected today as they reinvent their new dynamic as they are blessed to freely explore.

Like sex, and non emotional sexual conduct between casual partners without being shun for disrespecting the morality we have been raised with from our elders. So trying to tell them in their dynamic that they CAN NOT reinvent their own style or path without following a set of rules that were never considered the possibilities of being more free as a people than we have ever been in our American history.

So while we have been given a certain structure of conduct and morality to be our guide as blacks and POCs? We are faced with considering some of our customs taught by our elders to be out dated if not redefined due to our drastic sift in reality of whom we all are and who we are not.

So can people who have been taught a certain format that now has changed by our new reality of todays freedoms as a people?

Or are we faced with a struggle of not being as stuck as our elders of the past had no insight enough to expect a new image of who we are today as a people compared to what we had no ability to predict this amount of change.

We are not just stuck with the options that have been basic laws of reality. But we are now a bit too free to explore the amount of options that were in the past told is too much for our people to respectfully respect.

So how do you assist someone from the hip hop generation who wants to custom make a respectable lifestyle that has never been open to exploration as a whole?

Can the old guard learn from a new generation how to better live a new freedom that was never allowed to entertain?

That depends on our ability to adjust our own laws of morality as it pertains to our races of people who now are not prevented from exploring new options of a new reality.

This is NOT our grandparents lifestyle anymore.

So how can we respect our heritage without feeling that we are not the same type people as many of the people in the past have grown to respect as the way it is and who we are rather we like it or not.


That is our issue today.

And that is no easy task.

Explaining to the newer generation what they have today as better options than we have ever had in our American history.


How do we PIMP our lifestyle without offending the older generation who have deep seated issues with the use of the word PIMP as well as honor our ability to honor these lifestyles that have been examples of a little of the old with new adjustments pending.

All of this is too new to risk being too new to share a honor worth being connected to our own past.

But it is now what it is now.


We got work to do. And we may be the ones who need to learn what today is that is not what we were or were not.




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Obama wins a Nobel Prize! And it's only His first year...

For just being the First African American President.
For His stance on Nukes.
For His style and His class.

And for His ability to be respected by the world more than the past few presidents we have had thus far.

He won!

President Barack Obama wins Nobel Peace Prize

By KARL RITTER and MATT MOORE, Associated Press Writers Karl Ritter And Matt Moore, Associated Press Writers – Fri Oct 9, 5:25 am ET

OSLO – President Barack Obama won the 2009 Nobel Peace Prize on Friday for "his extraordinary efforts to strengthen international diplomacy and cooperation between peoples," the Norwegian Nobel Committee said, citing his outreach to the Muslim world and attempts to curb nuclear proliferation.

The stunning choice made Obama the third sitting U.S. president to win the Nobel Peace Prize and shocked Nobel observers because Obama took office less than two weeks before the Feb. 1 nomination deadline. Obama's name had been mentioned in speculation before the award but many Nobel watchers believed it was too early to award the president.

"Only very rarely has a person to the same extent as Obama captured the world's attention and given its people hope for a better future," the committee said. "His diplomacy is founded in the concept that those who are to lead the world must do so on the basis of values and attitudes that are shared by the majority of the world's population."

The committee said it attached special importance to Obama's vision of, and work for, a world without nuclear weapons.

"Obama has as president created a new climate in international politics. Multilateral diplomacy has regained a central position, with emphasis on the role that the United Nations and other international institutions can play," the committee said.

Theodore Roosevelt won the award in 1906 and Woodrow Wilson won in 1919. Former President Jimmy Carter won the award in 2002, while former Vice President Al Gore shared the 2007 prize with the U.N. panel on climate change.

The Nobel committee received a record 205 nominations for this year's prize.

In his 1895 will, Alfred Nobel stipulated that the peace prize should go "to the person who shall have done the most or the best work for fraternity between the nations and the abolition or reduction of standing armies and the formation and spreading of peace congresses."

Unlike the other Nobel Prizes, which are awarded by Swedish institutions, he said the peace prize should be given out by a five-member committee elected by the Norwegian Parliament. Sweden and Norway were united under the same crown at the time of Nobel's death.

The committee has taken a wide interpretation of Nobel's guidelines, expanding the prize beyond peace mediation to include efforts to combat poverty, disease and climate change.

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Associated Press Writer Ian MacDougall contributed to this report.

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The miseducation of our own mentality. Taking back our humaity.

I was chatting with a old friend of Mine.

We were talking about the current issues.
Mostly our people and our children.
And what needs to be done.

And he said:
I Just look at our babies and our homes, and thats the bottom line.
and with that said i also feel we as brother's have to fine more time being king's, treating, and reminding our women that they are Queens and not so called Diva's

And I replied;

Yeah...

But being Kings and Queens in theory is great.

I think the problem with that theory is the conduct of many Kings and Queens are not very impressive too. It gives off a Elitist midset that most can't handle humbly.

Ladies and Gents is better. Because you can teach the difference between what they are and what they should do.

The ROYAL mentality is KILLING our people.

*blank stare*

We have to get back to Humanity.

Being better humans to each other.

Being better partners to our mates.
Being better friends to each other.

And being better at not just knowing our selves, but knowing our deeper selves and striving for a deeper knowledge of our greater selves to be.

I think we are teaching with the wrong images and causing our people to compete and not relate.

That's what we have competitions and not relationships.

They don't KNOW any better.

If it takes a village? Then we have to find a better reason to respect the need of community and get back to being better people to other people.

We as a people have lost sight of what's right for what we have been learning right now.

And our children are mutants and not little animals. We have to learn how to help them learn how to better MASTER their mutations and not try to mimmic(sp) our inferior images of the past.

I was a prodigy child. Gifted.
But nothing as gifted as many of todays children are becoming.

We have to stop trying to make robots.

And make better humans who are trained to respect all of humanity

We as a people have been mis-educated.

We have been taught to be elitist and not humble humans.
We have been taught to be Diva's and not Ladies.
We have been taught to be Players and not Gentlemen.
We have been taught to be Royals without responsibility to whom you serve.
We have been taught it's Us against Them and not that we all are communal people in need of building better bridges and support and not barriers and enemies.

We have been taught a warped sense of reality.

And it's less important to mention who and why more than what we should be NOW and HOW.

Because we as a world of people are becoming a new world of new people who are in need of learning from each other and not trying to dominate over each other.

We need to take back our humanity.

And learn to become better humans with each other.

Because that's all we have left.

Each other.


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Help I'm stuck and I don't wanna stop...lol

Stuck





lawd


This lifestyle got me stuck between a rock and a hard dick


*snicker*


because I am sick of the normal bullshit


Of cat and mouse





I got a house


More like a condo


Ok


A room


With 9 walls


I call the Pimp Palace





A training post where I do the most


And host the brave and bewildered


Confused and horny


Never a day bore me





Because this lifestyle is a part of me


The heart of me





Finding new ways to define this world of mine


Learning how to respect the time


With no rhythm to the rhyme





I gets mine


And do just fine


But I'm stuck


Like Chuck on the back of a kinky truck


Suck


stuck play_w2("S0822000") (stk)
v.
Past tense and past participle of stick.

Stuck


stuck
Verb
the past of stick2
Adjective
1. Informal baffled by a problem or unable to find an answer to a question
2. be stuck on Slang to feel a strong attraction to; be infatuated with
3. get stuck in Informal to perform a task with determination



Suck


Adj. 1. stuck - caught or fixed; "stuck in the mud"
unstuck - free; "a man with a mule got my car unstuck"; "the gears locked in second and would not come unstuck"



2. stuck - baffled; "this problem has me completely stuck"
colloquialism - a colloquial expression; characteristic of spoken or written communication that seeks to imitate informal speech
perplexed - full of difficulty or confusion or bewilderment; "perplexed language"; "perplexed state of the world"



Stuck


stuck
adjective 1. fastened, fast, fixed, joined, glued, cemented
adjective 2. trapped, caught, ensnared
adjective 3. burdened, saddled, lumbered, landed, loaded, encumbered
adjective 4. (Informal) baffled, stumped, at a loss, beaten, nonplussed, at a standstill, bereft of ideas, up against a brick wall (informal) at your wits' end be stuck on something or someone (Slang) infatuated with, obsessed with, keen on, enthusiastic about, mad about, wild about (informal) hung up on (slang) crazy about, for, or over (informal) get stuck into something (Informal) set about, tackle, get down to, make a start on, take the bit between your teeth



There is power in words


Power is the use of words


Power in the definition of words





And I respect that





That's why I say I'm stuck





Like I can't get out of these ways


I can't ignore these days





Because these ways pays


In more ways


It stays


True to what you do


If you respect what you do


And stay true


To being stuck


In too deep


To creep back to the vanilla


I wish I will a way the way these ways pays


*snicker*





If you honor what you are and what you are not


Even if you forgot


Some of the rules to live by


I can't see why


These lifestyles can't improve more than just your sex life





But you have to have your head on right


Not just for a night


But tight


And ready to fight


For a better outcome


Even if you are not the one


You can be THAT ONE


And have some fun


Even when the fun is done


At least you had some





But to be stuck


Is the best poor excuse for giving a fuck


About doing more than fucking





This is adult parenthood


It can do any relationship some good


Not just the kinky brother and sisterhood


But even the people who should


Know how to grow


But alittle slow in the how department


Any part meant something more to masses


Who want to stay normal asses


But want to grasp this thing we get into a bit deeper





These lessons can help you keep her


Or keep him longer with honor


And not see a weak connection as a goner








So I'm stuck in one direction


I seek more protection


More construction


And less destruction





From idle misdirected seduction





Because I'm stuck wanting to do this a better way


Than any old way


I want to say


I am SSC everyday


In every way


All day





Even when I know it's hard to stay


Stuck





For learning how to get these lifestyles right


For getting my game tight


For getting through the bad nights


For surviving the bad fights





And enjoying more time to play


In a SSC way





I stuck


Trying to keep it real





But you know the deal


Some people would beg, borrow, and steal


Than be real


About the way we feel





About being stuck


Giving a fuck


About these sexual lifestyles





And how they these sexual lifestyles can add conformity


And respect for some normalcy





In my reality


In what ever style I wanna be





Stuck





Just being me















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Why respect service when there is reason to serve?

Service is different things to different people at different times
For different reasons

But whats the difference?

Why is there such a confusion of what is expected and what is worthy to give?

How do you see service if you are not actively serving anyone?

Not just in the manner of a D/s relationship
But in general as well

Doing things for the need of just doing something
Or doing something that has a purpose

let's check with the Sufi mystics:

He who does not know about service knows even less about mastership,
Tirmizi


Service is the performing of duty without either reluctance or delight.
The dutiful is neither an exploited slave not one who seeks reward.
People will get out of the performing of duty what they can get out of
it. If they put aside immediate enjoyment of duty and also immediate
reluctance to duty, they are in a position to benefit from the other
content of service. This it is which refines their perceptions.
Pahlawan-i-Zaif

The Sufi Law of Life requires:

Sincerity to God

Severity to self

Justice to all people

Service to elders

Kindness to the young
Generosity to the poor
Good counsel to friends
Forbearance with enemies
Indifference to fools
Respect to the learned,
Abdullah Ansari



Service to a Dog

It is related of Bayazid of Bastam that while on one of his many
pilgrimages to Mecca there was a drought. Bayazid came across a number
of people fighting over a pitiful amount of water. While this was going
on, Bayazid noticed a dog dying of thirst that looked up at him with sad
eyes and somehow seemed to say "You will gain great merit if you help
me, O Pilgrim!" Bayazid was fired with a sense of mission and began to
ask people "Will anyone buy the merit of hajj for a drink of water for
this dog?" Everyone ignored him so he offered the merit of two
pilgrimages, then three, four and so on until he was offering seventy
pilgrimages and at last someone agreed. But Bayazid fell under the spell
of his nafs at this point and became proud of his charitable act as he
placed the bowl of water down at the feet of the dog who looked up at
him with contempt and walked away without tasting a drop. Bayazid was
quick to learn his lesson and it seemed to him that he heard God speak
and God said "How many more times are you going to claim merit for one
thing or another when even a dog disdains your so-called service?" At
this point, Bayazid reached the station of Taubat - repentance. Until he
had reached that station, his Sabr or patience in persisting with asking
for water and his Khidmat or service to his fellow man were of nothing
and it only took a dog to teach him that because for someone with
Bayazid's capacity, anything can be a teacher and even service to a dog
can bring such a sincere seeker progress on The Path.

The Path is nothing other than service but it has to be service done in
the right way with the right intention. How formally this is worked out
is a matter for the individual.

Zoe

In the story of "service to a dog"
The moral is more about reason

What was the benefit of said service?

Sometimes we do things we THINK is worth being called service
Only to find the need not important
Or even needed

Yet some find just like the subject in the story the need to fight for the ability to serve
Without reason

What about Dominants?

Are they driven by the need to serve or be served?
Should it be a one way street?

Should it be more important for a submissive to be driven to serve their master
Yet
The Master is not driven to return the same degree of devotion to the submissive

Is service different for part time lifestylers who live regular lives elsewhere and seek Kinky play with a part time provider?

And what about the act it's self?

What if what is given is not as needed or important compared to what may be more needed and important to whom is being served?

Is sex considered service more than the actual act of something more non sexual?

And then there is the selfish need to serve

Selfless Service is a commonly used term to denote a service which is performed without any expectation of result or award for the person performing it. It is also sometimes used to denote a service performed with no apparent 'earthly' result, but which may accrue results in a spiritual or heavenly realm after death, although in the pure sense of the term that would not qualify as a strictly 'selfless' action.

Some sub missives seem to consider the need to serve for their own return more than the possibility of need by the Dominant or provider

Many complain about the demands of many Dominants of all types
They complain about giving too much or being taken for a fool

But what is the motivation to serve?

And is service a natural act or pre meditated?


Why serve if there is no reason other than the return for said service?

I know there are many who advertise the need for service
And others who advertise the need to serve

But why?
How?
When?

What kind of service are you driven to serve for or not?

In many D/s relationships
Many people consider what they do in a D/s relationship
To be driven more by S/M

How do you see it?

Service





respect

Hints to live by in a new BDSM relationship

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