Are black women too picky for their own good?

I was having a conversation with a woman who stated some very startling but real facts about why there is such a shortage of mates within their own race.

And this is My reply in short

*evil stare*

So according to THIS information:

__~If you read the whole link, You would see that sadly black males have not achieved as much higher education as black females. Most well educated black males pick white women. ( I don't agree with it, but those are the facts) I think being marginalized and the lack of opportunitys leads to a decreased ability to be successful. Add to this the rate at which black males go to jail or are not seen as viable mates. It is sad, and we all know something needs to be done about it.__

So what THIS says is;


*SMART Black Men marry white women...*

*Most Black Men are ignorant or dumb or under educated...*

*Because society respect black women more, they employ them more often than they would black men...*

*Black men with criminal records or look like they do are often looked over as viable mates for black women in general...*

*Something needs to be done about it...*


*blank evil stare*


__*WOW*__


And all of this info is recorded by the census bureau?

So when you really take a deeper look at these statistics from a cultural aspect?

It kinda shows a loss in the value of NOT the black man as much as the ability for black women to better support their own race and their chances of finding a certain caliber of black men that they are noted of having to raise into better black mates as well as men.

That's DEEP!

Because there is also a study that states that more black inmates are released from jail with degrees than graduate from traditional collages.

And that's like saying that black men are better able to concentrate on their studies of higher education in a environment without women around.

But it comes with a cost of not being viable to black women anyway.

So it sounds like the statistics are saying that black women are the victims of their own demise!

__*WOW*__


And there are MORE black females than black males of adult age who rather find a suitable mate within their moral and personal interest.

And THAT is just the facts!

That's not the personal opinions of the masses of black women who's reasons for not being able to find exceptable mates within their own race.

And only the REAL SMART black men know that reality to be true enough to not choose black women as mates for some reason other than the need to marry within their own race.


So it seems that black people hate each other so much that they are more than willing to cause their own race to become as extinct as they possibly can instinctually!

__*WOW*__


I wonder where they learned that?

I know they just didn't get it from their mother!

So in theory Any jaded single black man is within his own right to be up in his feelings at the state of the current population of black females and their lack of the ability to choose their own race as "soul" mates, partners, and love interest.


__*WOW*__


That changes this who thread!


*evil stare*





respect

Obamaism in kink? (what you say about my Mama?)

We all have been blessed to be living in a new day in this world
A new reality
A new lifestyle
A new freedom
A new openness of our sexualities
A new ability to reach further than ever before globally
As a vast amount of people of the world
And communicate and relate to others

And as a American
In this country
OUR People of ALL races and Creeds of the world
Have melted into new and very different genetic mutations
Of human beings of other races of people
From every other location of this earth

From the many we have become one

And it shows!

Obamaism I call it
*wicked grin*

The reality of the impossible
Change

We are different than every other race of people
Who right now
Are living somewhere else
In another place in this world
And they wish they could be where we are
Sometimes
But everyday we prove the impossible
We live together
As one united country
In theory

But just as the world is going though culture shock
We too are suffering from culture shock
But our suffering comes from times spent on this dirt
What we have grown out of having to be a part of due to the culture and race we are a part of in this land

Through the freedom of the WWW and mobile communication
We have freedoms that open up a new world to each of us
From the freedom of our own homes
As Americans

That in it's self is more than a small thing
That's culture shock!

Nothing like today has ever been this free for so many to indulge in freely by a mass amount of people in one country
We are very unique people as individuals of this country
No matter what race, creed, color, or kink we claim to be
We really are more free than we respect the responsibility
As a mass of users of these new sources of enlightenment

And I don't think we consider how deeply that can effect each others personal realities
And we should step back every now and then and reflect

Just how have these new changes in the history of our past?
Changed our realities of our own selves?
And why should we keep that in mind when we turn on these sources?

Maybe because if we take a moment to step back and prepare your mind for the responsibility of being a part of the World Wide Web with every key stroke we make.

And that is more important of a responsibility than just being bored and looking for trouble and entertainment.

*blank stare*

Obamaism in kink?

For the first time in the realities of OTHER people in kink
Of the world
POCs have become new members of many of these word wide sexual lifestyles in mass numbers
In some cases they have become bombarded with a rash of new POCs joining many sites and communities that normally was considered private to a few others of kink in the world.
Now
Anyone can make a profile and join these groups of secretly kinky people who are used to seeing others who look like themselves

Many of them too suffer from culture shock

Just for signing on line and noticing a overwhelming amount of POCs who have not just joined their site
But have connected to a vast amount of other who they consider friends in kink

That is a deep understanding of what we all are dealing with right now

Just like wondering how Obama showed up in our reality
And changed the possibilities of the image of our country as a whole

We are living a new day right now

But many of us are suffering from culture shock.
Finding it hard to adjust to the sudden changes.
Not being comfortable with not being in control over their own image of what these lifestyles are about personally.
Watching these lifestyles grow.
And wishing they could control the direction of it's growth.

Culture shock!

• The "Honeymoon Phase" - During this period the differences between the old and new culture are seen in a romantic light, wonderful and new. For example, in moving to a new country, an individual might love the new foods, the pace of the life, the people's habits, the buildings and so on.
• The "Negotiation Phase" - After a few days, weeks, or months, minor differences between the old and new culture are resolved. One may long for food the way it is prepared in one's native country, may find the pace of life too fast or slow, may find the people's habits annoying, etc.
• The "Everything is OK" phase - Again, after a few days, weeks, or months, one grows accustomed to the new culture's differences and develops routines. By this point, one no longer reacts to the new culture positively or negatively, because it no longer feels like a new culture. One becomes concerned with basic living again, as one was in their original culture.
• Reverse Culture Shock - Returning to one's home culture after growing accustomed to a new one can produce the same effects as described above.

In some cases, it may be impossible to deal with culture shock. Some people will give up on assimilating into the newer culture and return to their own culture, and some become so magnetized to the foreign culture that feel they must permanently move there to relieve the stress.

We are living a new reality
It belongs to too many others you are not aware of.

That is scary!

Having no power to control how you define what you do.
Publicly

Deep huh?

And we are suffering from subtle differences unknown by others who look and act just like us.
But they are so different that we bump head more than normal.

Culture shock.

How do we cope with so much change?
We don't in theory.
But they say:

Experienced travelers tend to cope much better with the difficulties of travel. Some common strategies used to make the transition easier are:^[2]:

• Reading about the country and its culture before departing. This way, the country and its people are more familiar upon arrival. They then become aware of differences in the new country and are thus better prepared to deal with them when possible (e.g., differences in hygiene, culture, the water).
• Avoiding being offended, offending locals, or being engaged in any more general cultural misunderstanding; they familiarize themselves with local customs and language.
• Being open-minded about the culture they visit.
• Taking a 'time out' or rest apart from cultural exchange in order to reduce the 'shock' of adjustment.

Religions play an important part in this case. The culture shock feeling, in many circumstances, grows because of the different religions.

Some intercultural communication researchers claim that culture shock has many positive effects on intercultural sojourners, like increasing self-efficacy^[3] and helping improve self-motivation.

Culture shock refers to the anxiety and feelings (of surprise, disorientation, uncertainty, confusion, etc.) felt when people have to operate within an entirely different cultural or social environment, such as a foreign country. It grows out of the difficulties in assimilating the new culture, causing difficulty in knowing what is appropriate and what is not. This is often combined a dislike for or even disgust (moral or aesthetical) with certain aspects of the new or different culture. The term was introduced for the first time in 1954 by Kalervo Oberg

But I don't buy that.
That's too simple.

We are talking about a privately sexual lifestyle.
Publicly displayed.
Respected by others of like minds as to how they respect the whole realm of the BDSM lifestyle to some degree.

But we are talking about simple humans, right?

We all are just regular people with kinky desires, right?

So what's the problem?

CULTURE SHOCK!

Should a community have just one culture?
No?

So why should we have one way that we see these lifestyles should be or not be?

Are we really down for real change?

What if that change is not what you expect?

How much do you really respect as being a part of something you really respect?

Culture shock!



respect

Learning how to learn your Dominant deeper?

The number one cause for the failure of any type relationship is:

Lack of knowledge of each other enough to wish to care for them better than the need for selfish indulgence

But in a D/s, BDSM type relationship

It is the submissive that is most important

The submissive has the most important duty
Knowledge and concern for their Dominants health and welfare
First and foremost

The more the submissive is aware of the mental and physical condition and how to support the needs of said Dominant
The more possible it is to care and protect your Dominants health and welfare as the top and head of said house

I read and hear so many people claim that they are a submissive
And they may be submissive by nature or desire

But in real time?
The true tell of their abilities is how well they take care of the said Dominant that they have chosen to serve
Service to your ONE is a responsibility
The desire to honor and respect their importance and their need to be cared for too

Knowing how to better show compassion and concern for the value of your Provider is not just a good idea
But your most important duty
If you are concerned about whom provides for you
*blank stare*

I made a comment on a topic of why there are very few known POC Poly relationships

These lifestyles are still NEW to Black American people and others of color who deal with others of color.

They were still lynching Black Men for even THINKING of being with a white woman in the early 60s.

Polyamory was a secret in the black community.

But it was communal living with a certain respect for the community social structure.

We all remember someone who had another wife in another state or city.

But todays People Of Color have been raised to "stay out of grown folks business" or "keep it in the dark" or "do as I say and not as I do". And in many cases, People of color were NEVER told the true histories of their genetic evolution or their secret lives and loves and how they lasted longer than most would believe.

People of color in these lifestyles were never told about the deeper struggles and realities of the sexualities and kinks that was respected for it's need to stay private but respected when done with respect for the social respect for the culture they were bound by.

So today we lack the ability to learn the shameful truths of many before us who lived their secret lives in kink and sexual differences.

We have been Straight, Gay, Bi, DL, Freaky, and Kinky just like every other human on this earth from almost the beginning of time in theory. But the proof could set us a bit more free. IF we could see how. But pride and shame caused our heritage to be loss in fear of being wrong and even sinful.

The only sin we have suffered from is the silence of a culturally rich race(s) of people of color that has evolved into a openly free race of people who NOW are sexually free to become more open and blessed to be blessed adults.

So how does the POLY issue seem to be as difficult for many POCs who now have the freedom to explore more openly their freedoms?

yet, for some reason, mostly cultural and religious conditioning and teachings, POCs have feared the ability to respect the advantages of a Poly Dynamic. And the few who have found some form of structure in this style of life seldom record what works for them and publicize it for others to reflect upon.

Thank GOD for the Net, huh?

Well, for Me and Mines...

I have found more peace in being Poly in My journey with others who have found this attractive to them as well.

The support of each others everyday issues and the support given to and for each other emotionally as well as physically...ect.

This is adult parenthood and everyone is considered important like a child is to the parent.

Sex, is and has always been a the most powerful action of the body. Likened only to extreme drugs as to how it can effect the emotional and mental stability and control over realities and truth.

Now when you are dealing with more than your primary mate in a sexual nature? EACH person will suffer from NORMAL human emotional reactions to everything.

FAITH in the direction and purpose of your union is helpful, but all parties have to be on the same page.

It's not what emotion can occur when your faith and insecurities effect your mentality.

It's what you do to alter the outcome and reaction to your emotional lack of control of your realities.

Poly is not easy, but can become a supportive force in your direction as a family or even a gang!

But for POCs?

We have become so emotionally neglected that many of us suffer from our own fear of abandonment. We feel a need to become the object of importance. And we fear competition for attention. Socially we are timid about being used and abused.

So the reason why so many others have found this style of life more interesting is because for many NON POC cultures. Is because they have a greater ability to conceal their sexual freedom to explore within their own cultures.

You hear us say in public, "White folks is some freaky people", and your right!

So why are we less freaky and even kinky?

Because we live our lives in discomfort of being TOO FREE, just due to past conditioning and fear of being titled Sinful and even dangerous POCs. We live for the exceptance(sp) from the general public. And for "white folks", they ARE the general public.

So being poly for POCs is the biggest obstacle to Master.

Just because we have to work harder to get it right.

And there are too many people who watching and waiting to ridicule you for being greedy and thinking you could get others to support your greed.

And POCs really do care what others may think about them.

So POCs are the LAST group of people to find these lifestyles in the masses.

They are the last people to indulge in these lifestyles.

And many of them have to learn how to invent their lifestyles to suit their culture and conditions they live by.

And it is harder for many POCs because with this amount of exposure to just finding so many people who are open to be sexually free. And THAT is a first for many POCs in general and in history.

And many fear never being able to experience new things and new people when all they have known for so long as been the few around them.

It's a big world out here.

And POCs are just finding more of it to learn more about.

A relationship is hard enough getting, let alone getting right together for any amount of time. With all the advertising and temptations we now have for the first time in history. POCs are stuck between wanting everything they can get. And wanting someone to love, respect and belong to who is down for being with them for life.

You CAN have it all and a few others to share with you in a committed relationship and partnership.

But a Poly relationship is a partnership that you learn how to relate to each other as a team.

And a team is only as strong as it's members and how EACH member supports the whole.

A Poly relationship for POCs with other POCs are built on faith that each other can assist each other in building more faith in each other.

Sex is a dynamic that brings the need to better control your faith that there is more importance in communal partnership and TPE than who's getting more sexual attention.

Communication and openness are task that we all need to master.

Emotions and selfish desires are learned traits we have to defend our minds from preventing us from ourselves.

Time and devotion are utilities driven by a better faith in a unified goal.

Being Poly is not about who and how many you can have sex with.

Being poly is being able to have more emotional support for dealing with everything that comes from sexual manipulation and mental instability and knowing that you have help from others who feel your pain and respect your company.

Playing well with others.

POCs have never been around this many others in their lives. POCs have never known so many different cultures and lifestyles of others. POCs have never been this free to explore and invent their own life's path. POCs have never known the respect of being a individual because they are just now being able to call themselves People of Color.

And none of us are alike. But we are communal by nature.

And for American POCs.

We lack the positive images of how to better add style in our lives in these lifestyles because we have never lived this free to have as much company as we can respect.

And that is the bottom line to this lifestyle...

respect

The importance of DUTY and DEVOTION to each other is a key to getting any relationship right

And as a submissive
DUTY and DEVOTION
Are just as important as obedience

Earning a pride and appreciation for your submission to your ONE
Is your reward
If you are driven for that respect for your submission

The act of submission is the most powerful act preformed when mastered for a purpose other than your self

The ability to convince a Dominant that they are valuable
The ability to support a Dominants goals and needs
The ability to uplift a Dominants ego and self worth
The ability to command a role of support and protection
From the bottom
Without subtracting the need for a Dominants place in your life

Our issues as POCs are no different than many others
There are subtle cultural differences
But other than that?

The only thing that shows the value of your submission
Is how well it looks on the image and stature of whom you serve
And how well you are supported as a valuable submissive to your ONE


We all know that submissives have needs and desires

But seldom do we see why the needs and desires of a Provider are more important in a D/s relationship

If it was not?

It would be a S/d relationship
or
A dysfunctional vanilla relationship
With no direction

The choice is yours

No duty to serve and support for a Dominant?
No support and service for a submissive

Know your duty to serve and support a Dominant?
Know support and service for a submissive

We all have a job to do in this life

It's how well you respect your ability to respect the need to master your own skills and talents
And how well you support the goal of the whole

If all you want is some attention and service?

It's better to pay for what you want

At least you can demand your money's worth
For the service you desire

But if you want more?

You have to earn your worth to whom you seek

That is fair

If you claim to be submissive by nature?

Then know that nature
Respect what that nature is
And be true to that nature

To submit is to give and support

1.	to give over or yield to the power or authority of another (often used reflexively).

2.	to subject to some kind of treatment or influence.

3.	to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another or others: to submit a plan; to submit an application.

4.	to state or urge with deference; suggest or propose (usually fol. by a clause): I submit that full proof should be required.

5.	to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: to submit to a conqueror.

6.	to allow oneself to be subjected to some kind of treatment: to submit to chemotherapy.

7.	to defer to another's judgment, opinion, decision, etc.: I submit to your superior judgment.

The goal?

To complete a partnership between others who seek to become more complete with the assistance of others who respect their importance and needs to become more complete

Together

As a productive partnership

Submission is not about sex
Sex can happen
But it's more fun when you know your place
And respect why you have a place
In others lives
With you

And how they can not live as productive without you too

Submission is a gift
When given for more reasons than your own

But you have to work for everything you seek
And whom you seek

If you feel up to the task
Or
You know nothing comes for free

So who are you really?
And why do you want something you don't have?
And what would you do to have more?
Are you sure what you offer is worth what you seek?

What if it aint?






respect

Buiding a supportive partnership is work too

The D/s lifestyle is more than just kinky acts
For some people

And even in your vanilla lives
The more productive you are as a partnership in a relationship
The more productive you all can be as a partnership

"A couple who make moves together as a force, can only reap the results of their actions together "

Ass-sis-t-an-ce
(assist, your sis, to a "T", and watch it be, more than you wist to see)

An assistant is a person or electronic tool who or that assists another person accomplish his or her goals. Some assistants are strictly based at one's place of employment, while others assist with personal, sometimes home-related tasks. In cases where the assistant is heavily relied upon, the assistant may be known as a right-hand man or yes-man.

(Yes Sir or Ma'am, Master or Mistress)

The term yes man is typically used for an employee who agrees with every statement of his or her employer. Some synonyms of yes man are flunky, stooge, butt-boy, suck-up, kiss-ass, and sycophant; all of which have pejorative connotations.

Such a person may also be referred to as a lapdog.
(lap dog, ie: a pet)

Unlike yes man, the term right hand man has positive connotations. Some[who?] assert that the term is based on the fact that most people are right-handed. Understood this way, the term refers to one who has the responsibility, knowledge and understanding, authority and ability to implement a plan articulated by one in a position of authority.

The term right hand man may also be based on the idea of a king having his adviser sit at his right side. Understood this way, the term refers to one who informs and advises a person in a position of authority, instead of one who implements the plans of authority.

In Ancient Greece, soldiers typically fought in a formation called a phalanx, where co-operation between soldiers was vital. Each soldier carried his shield on his left side, while his right side was protected by the man standing to his right. Understood this way, the term refers to one who is indisposable; a protector.

A biblical explanation also exists; in the King James Version of the Bible, Jesus is said to be "at the right hand of the Father(God). see Mark 16:19. Luke 22:69. Acts 2:33. Acts 5:31. Acts 7:55. Acts 7:56. This reference, in light of the whole of the biblical narrative, casts Jesus as either or both an implementor of a plan and/or one who is indisposable.
(and some of you already know about the biblical "help-mate")

People with the Helper personality, at their best, are compassionate, attentive, generous and caring but they can also be particularly prone to clinginess, neediness and manipulation. Helpers want, above all, to be loved and needed and fear being unworthy of love.

*blank sadistic stare*


As a sub missive or just someone who wants to learn how to be more supportive to their mate and family

It's helpful for you to also learn many of the techniques of a supportive assistant in more than the bedroom

y/you are the the back bone of a D/s relationship
And that compounds it's strength when you add others as a house or partnership

And one book I feel can also be helpful to any supportive submissive is a Administrative Assistant's and Secretary's Handbook

Here is a overview of one of them kinds of books

http://www.amanet.org/books/book.cfm?isbn=9780814409138

The most thorough career guide for administrative professionals addresses the latest issues in a new third edition.

Between coordinating meetings, making travel arrangements, and running the phone lines, being a professional administrative assistant requires an astonishing and varied range of skills involving interpersonal communication, written presentations, and organizational ability.

Written in a down-to-earth style, Administrative Assistant's and Secretary's Handbook provides readers with information on subjects including record keeping, telephone usage, office machines, mail, business letters, and computer software skills. Now in its third edition, the book has been completely revised with expanded coverage of topics including electronic records management, interpersonal and communication skills, troubleshooting computer problems, time and stress management, customer service, event planning, web conferencing, math for office professionals, office management and supervision, transcription, and much more.

Comprehensive and completely up-to-date, this is the book every administrative professional should own.
About the Authors

James Stroman (Dallas, TX) has worked as an executive assistant to an army general, a governor, and the owner of an NFL football team.

Kevin Wilson (Acworth, GA) is Vice President of Videologies, Inc., a company that specializes in training administrative professionals in Fortune 500 companies.

Jennifer Wauson (Atlanta, GA) is President of Videologies, Inc.


Most of the books like this should look like this:



A dictionary

A factual handbook of helpful hints out of the bedroom

This is the reason why I advise some who wish to build a better support base in your partnerships

Here's some of the qualifications:

* This occupation is expected to be among those with the largest number of new jobs.
* Opportunities should be best for applicants with extensive knowledge of software applications.
* Secretaries and administrative assistants today perform fewer clerical tasks and are increasingly taking on the roles of information and communication managers.

Nature of the Work

As the reliance on technology continues to expand in offices, the role of the office professional has greatly evolved. Office automation and organizational restructuring have led secretaries and administrative assistants to assume responsibilities once reserved for managerial and professional staff. In spite of these changes, however, the core responsibilities for secretaries and administrative assistants have remained much the same: Performing and coordinating an office's administrative activities and storing, retrieving, and integrating information for dissemination to staff and clients.

Secretaries and administrative assistants perform a variety of administrative and clerical duties necessary to run an organization efficiently. They serve as information and communication managers for an office; plan and schedule meetings and appointments; organize and maintain paper and electronic files; manage projects; conduct research; and disseminate information by using the telephone, mail services, Web sites, and e-mail. They also may handle travel and guest arrangements.

Secretaries and administrative assistants use a variety of office equipment, such as fax machines, photocopiers, scanners, and videoconferencing and telephone systems. In addition, secretaries and administrative assistants often use computers to do tasks previously handled by managers and professionals, such as: create spreadsheets; compose correspondence; manage databases; and create presentations, reports, and documents using desktop publishing software and digital graphics. They also may negotiate with vendors, maintain and examine leased equipment, purchase supplies, manage areas such as stockrooms or corporate libraries, and retrieve data from various sources. At the same time, managers and professionals have assumed many tasks traditionally assigned to secretaries and administrative assistants, such as keyboarding and answering the telephone. Because secretaries and administrative assistants do less dictation and word processing, they now have time to support more members of the executive staff. In a number of organizations, secretaries and administrative assistants work in teams to work flexibly and share their expertise.

Many secretaries and administrative assistants now provide training and orientation for new staff, conduct research on the Internet, and operate and troubleshoot new office technologies.

Specific job duties vary with experience and titles. Executive secretaries and administrative assistants provide high-level administrative support for an office and for top executives of an organization. Generally, they perform fewer clerical tasks than do secretaries and more information management. In addition to arranging conference calls and supervising other clerical staff, they may handle more complex responsibilities such as reviewing incoming memos, submissions, and reports in order to determine their significance and to plan for their distribution. They also prepare agendas and make arrangements for meetings of committees and executive boards. They also may conduct research and prepare statistical reports.

Some secretaries and administrative assistants, such as legal and medical secretaries, perform highly specialized work requiring knowledge of technical terminology and procedures. For instance, legal secretaries prepare correspondence and legal papers such as summonses, complaints, motions, responses, and subpoenas under the supervision of an attorney or a paralegal. They also may review legal journals and assist with legal research—for example, by verifying quotes and citations in legal briefs. Additionally, legal secretaries often teach newly minted lawyers how to prepare documents for submission to the courts. Medical secretaries transcribe dictation, prepare correspondence, and assist physicians or medical scientists with reports, speeches, articles, and conference proceedings. They also record simple medical histories, arrange for patients to be hospitalized, and order supplies. Most medical secretaries need to be familiar with insurance rules, billing practices, and hospital or laboratory procedures. Other technical secretaries who assist engineers or scientists may prepare correspondence, maintain their organization's technical library, and gather and edit materials for scientific papers.

Secretaries employed in elementary schools and high schools perform important administrative functions for the school. They are responsible for handling most of the communications between parents, the community, and teachers and administrators who work at the school. As such, they are required to know details about registering students, immunizations, and bus schedules, for example. They schedule appointments, keep track of students' academic records, and make room assignments for classes. Those who work directly for principals screen inquiries from parents and handle those matters not needing a principal's attention. They also may set a principal's calendar to help set her or his priorities for the day.

Work environment. Secretaries and administrative assistants usually work in schools, hospitals, corporate settings, government agencies, or legal and medical offices. Their jobs often involve sitting for long periods. If they spend a lot of time keyboarding, particularly at a computer monitor, they may encounter problems of eyestrain, stress, and repetitive motion ailments such as carpal tunnel syndrome.

Almost one-fifth of secretaries work part time and many others work in temporary positions. A few participate in job-sharing arrangements, in which two people divide responsibility for a single job. The majority of secretaries and administrative assistants, however, are full-time employees who work a standard 40-hour week.
Training, Other Qualifications, and Advancement

Word processing, writing, and communication skills are essential for all secretaries and administrative assistants. However, employers increasingly require extensive knowledge of software applications, such as desktop publishing, project management, spreadsheets, and database management.

Education and training. High school graduates who have basic office skills may qualify for entry-level secretarial positions. They can acquire these skills in various ways. Training ranges from high school vocational education programs that teach office skills and typing to 1- and 2-year programs in office administration offered by business and vocational-technical schools, and community colleges. Many temporary placement agencies also provide formal training in computer and office skills. Most medical and legal secretaries must go through specialized training programs that teach them the language of the industry.

Employers of executive secretaries increasingly are seeking candidates with a college degree, as these secretaries work closely with top executives. A degree related to the business or industry in which a person is seeking employment may provide the job seeker with an advantage in the application process.

Most secretaries and administrative assistants, once hired, tend to acquire more advanced skills through on-the-job instruction by other employees or by equipment and software vendors. Others may attend classes or participate in online education to learn how to operate new office technologies, such as information storage systems, scanners, or new updated software packages. As office automation continues to evolve, retraining and continuing education will remain integral parts of secretarial jobs.

Other qualifications. Secretaries and administrative assistants should be proficient in typing and good at spelling, punctuation, grammar, and oral communication. Employers also look for good customer service and interpersonal skills because secretaries and administrative assistants must be tactful in their dealings with people. Discretion, good judgment, organizational or management ability, initiative, and the ability to work independently are especially important for higher-level administrative positions. Changes in the office environment have increased the demand for secretaries and administrative assistants who are adaptable and versatile.

Certification and advancement. Testing and certification for proficiency in office skills are available through organizations such as the International Association of Administrative Professionals; National Association of Legal Secretaries (NALS), Inc.; and Legal Secretaries International, Inc. As secretaries and administrative assistants gain experience, they can earn several different designations. Prominent designations include the Certified Professional Secretary (CPS) and the Certified Administrative Professional (CAP), which can be earned by meeting certain experience or educational requirements and passing an examination. Similarly, those with 1 year of experience in the legal field, or who have concluded an approved training course and who want to be certified as a legal support professional, can acquire the Accredited Legal Secretary (ALS) designation through a testing process administered by NALS.

NALS offers two additional designations: Professional Legal Secretary (PLS), considered an advanced certification for legal support professionals, and a designation for proficiency as a paralegal. Legal Secretaries International confers the Certified Legal Secretary Specialist (CLSS) designation in areas such as intellectual property, criminal law, civil litigation, probate, and business law to those who have 5 years of legal experience and pass an examination. In some instances, certain requirements may be waived.

Secretaries and administrative assistants generally advance by being promoted to other administrative positions with more responsibilities. Qualified administrative assistants who broaden their knowledge of a company's operations and enhance their skills may be promoted to senior or executive secretary or administrative assistant, clerical supervisor, or office manager. Secretaries with word processing or data entry experience can advance to jobs as word processing or data entry trainers, supervisors, or managers within their own firms or in a secretarial, word processing, or data entry service bureau. Secretarial and administrative support experience also can lead to jobs such as instructor or sales representative with manufacturers of software or computer equipment. With additional training, many legal secretaries become paralegals.
Job prospects. In addition to jobs created from growth, numerous job opportunities will arise from the need to replace secretaries and administrative assistants who transfer to other occupations, especially exceptionally skilled executive secretaries and administrative assistants who often move into professional occupations. Job opportunities should be best for applicants with extensive knowledge of software applications and for experienced secretaries and administrative assistants. Opportunities also should be very good for those with advanced communication and computer skills. Applicants with a bachelor's degree will be in great demand to act more as managerial assistants and to perform more complex tasks.

Now how this knowledge connects to this lifestyle is in many ways

In human sexuality, Service-oriented is a term used in the BDSM community to refer relationship dynamic.

In a service-oriented relationship, the focus is on how the submissive can contribute resources to the dominant partner, provide for some of their needs or advance their goals. These relationships may or may not also include romantic feelings.

A common example of such a relationship would be one in which the submissive and dominant were romantically attracted and the submissive is collared to the dominant, indicating that they are "in service" to that dominant. The collar may well be predicated on certain performance levels or the usefulness of that submissive in specific areas. If those things were to change or dissipate the couple may remain romantically linked but often the collar will be removed.

For the submissive in such a relationship, the collar is seen as a status symbol signifying the approval and acknowledgement of a person they wish to serve. They often take great pleasure and pride in their status and relationship.

For the dominant, the benefits are practical as well as emotional. Many take great pleasure in being 'served' in this manner, and of course having the additional resources available is of immense utility.
When you decide to live in a real time D/s,SM, BDSM, or just plain old vanilla relationship

It is up to each person to not only enhance each other's lives
But it is helpful to also be supportive in the direction of each other's life's journey

And just like at work
When you make the Boss look good and become a productive force in a company, group, family or partnership?

And there is no bigger pride in a employee
Than the respect from your Boss for a job well done

And when we are dealing with our everyday lives
Between the kinky moments
A few more well done jobs can free up more kinky time
With your favorite toys

*wicked grin*

Like making Daddy the proudest Daddy in the whole wide world
Just because
Daddy knows you will be at his feet
No matter how big or small they are
There is always room for the person who knows they have made them shoes more comfortable for Daddy to wear

Kinda like bragging about the little things your kids do
That brings out the pride and the joy of being you too
Because they are not just a part of you
They are your life's work
In progress

*an actual emotional grin*

Even Dominants fear tears of joy

The most powerful gift a submissive can ever give
The freedom to be more free to be more free together

And you don't have to role play the part of
The Secretary

But when you really look deeper into the mindsets of a well made kinky connection

Fewer words need to be spoken

For the reward of more respect






I'm not sure what you are in these lifestyles for

But when done with style
A better style
A inventive style
A passionate style
A lifestyle

Can be more than your wildest dreams
Together

And you really love your job
And your Boss

And even all of the employees that support each other





respect

Compassion for passion

They say most relationships fail for the lack of bringing your "A" game
When you desire passion from others

But that is not a rule
Just a hint

Passion

Personal positive powerful
P Funk

Not the group
The life and the light
The base kicking dat ass in the night
Right after you
FREE YOUR MIND
If your ass is gonna follow me
*sadistic smirk*

My passion?

I'm all over the place right now
Not that you would know
But so is everyone I know too

But I try to keep this shit simple

When aint shit simple to anyone I know
Yet when I say I got you bitch
BITCH
I aint try'n to marry you
But I will carry you
Free of charge
Custom work is extra
*wicked grin*

Passion
Passion (from the Latin patior, meaning to suffer or to endure) is an emotion of feeling very strongly about a person. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for anything. Passion often applies to lively or eager interest in or admiration for a proposal, cause, or activity or love.

Passion can be expressed as a feeling of unusual excitement, enthusiasm or compelling emotion towards a subject, idea, person, or object.

*blank stare*

I'm down for passion
But people don't know what it takes to have passion

It takes everything you got!

But only if you know how to...

GIVE IT ALL YOU GOT
(kinda like shouting for yall Baptice folks)

That passion?

Shit!
That is by far one of the most frightening journeys a human can go through
And to be SSC is a fuckin plus
But what GOD do you trust?
When one rides the short bus and the other drives a whip

Did I slip and say something that connects to some deeper shit?

*snicker*

But back to passion

I like to fuck with words
I like to find ways of sending light between the words
I like seeing changes
I like hating change
I'm Loki
The GOD of Mischief and some moe shit
Sometimes
Luke Cage Power Man, hero for hire
(pack of Newports, a Pepsi, and some chicke wangs with hot sauce)

My passion?

I love playing music
I been playing on union stages since I was 7 years old
And culturally I have played with a great deal of famous people
For free
Kinda like I have a vow of poverty
Not that I am broke
But I stay woke
*blank stare*

My passion?

I play drums and kinda lead the drum circle event that has been in that park so long ago that I once played here when I was 5 years old with my Dad
And every second of every beat
Has been more than fuckin sweet!
It has been my therapy
And a service to the universe
On a very interesting piece of dirt
With hundreds of drummers and dancers
EVERY SUNDAY
Rain or shine
For more than 5 years now
I spend more time playing my drums in devotion to positive energy
Than most people spend in church in their lives

Passion?

I really am into some spooky shit to most people
I am into that dark spiritual shit
I respect where I am at
And whom I sleep with
*grin*

The Sun, moon and stars guide more than my vision
And all that is not heard or said

I am a Ghetto Sufi Master In Training
In Hell
For advanced citizens of the World

Raised so deep in the civil rights movements of the past
That I remember what most people forgot to write about
And I have references
lol

Passion?

I'm a DC Nigga
From da south
Born in the land of power and culture
Where the 3 rivers flow
In a era in time when this country was growing
And the change we live with today
Was dreamed about back then by the masses

And this country has been changing for all of our asses
From then till now
As I have watched the word passion change
In the minds and mouths of my elders and friends

My passion have been that I have been awake all of my life
And I have had no choice but to be driven with passion
For what ever reason I have been blessed with to do
Even if that shit aint cool for you

What I eat you do not shit

So how can you know where you fit
In all the shit
I spit

Damn right I'm stuck being who I am
And will be with or without anyone else
My passion to live
To respect the power of the universe
And to find better ways of keeping good friends
Friends
With more than benefits
With permission
Through submission
Some have found admission
To a deeper mission

A better style of a better life
Not alone
In your dirt
*wicked grin*

Passion

I like pussy
But just like dick
It's attached to someone with a different mindset

And if you want more from them?
You have to put in the work

But just like work
"Everybody don't need this fuckin job!"
So you can only work with what you got
When you got it
Even if you got them
It only works well when they got you too

All the time
And GOD said that!

And speaking of passion

Why is it that the people who want more of it
Fear finding it?

Passion

It is my passion to get into the mind of todays mindsets
I don't try to define it
I try to respect why it is what it is
And try to learn how to earn a better respect from it too
As a Grandfather of a very Gangsta Daughter

My passion has been women
From my mother
To every woman worth my passion

Not that I have bad taste
But I am more picky than most think
And I do not think like many others
So even if they value my values
They still have issues with my issues
And I am ok with that
I'm the Bastard Son of the O'Kinks

And that is some new shit
But this is the new world order of the ages
And we are living in it
With the whole world
And yet
Many of us don't even have the passion to treat this freedom
With passion
For being so blessed to become so easy being blessed

("let the church say Amen...")

But we still talking about these sexual lifestyles too
Aint I?

That's my passion too

Maybe I have a passion to try to say some shit that makes sense to many of you
Who do what you do
And stumbled up on my post
And stayed a while

Sharing our passions
Our prayers
Our problems
And our beds

With a desire to learn how to find more passion
In their lives
And lifestyles

And still as I write this
Many others are still suffering from a lack of passion

I only have more than enough room for whom wishes to bless me with their faith in the path we take together being worth the ride
Or not

And I am passionately seeking a few passionate people

But maybe that is the most important word?


Passion





respect

DRUM

I often drift back in my memory of days past
In my young adulthood
When times were good
In the hood

And I remember the celebration of realities of our culture
And the "what if's" of that reality

Being a Alpha Dominant Black Man in America

And I remember

Drum





http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQXVUutxD2w

http://video.aol.com/video-detail/drum-ken-norton-blaxploitation-excerpts-mandingo-sequel/3031813701

What if there were no niggas, just Master teachers...?

I stay woke!

EB





respect

Hints to live by in a new BDSM relationship

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