The Black church and culture MADE Eddie Long how his is right now.

He is the PRODUCT of the black ministry!

And yet Eddie Long stated that:
"the Bible mentions three sexual sins—fornication, adultery and homosexuality"

Stop Playing!


"Even so hath the Lord ordained that they which preach the gospel should live of the gospel."
1 Corinthians 9:14


We ALL KNOW that the ministry teaches homophobia while many in the faith are conditioned to hide the truth.

And yet in this day and age we STILL allow the Christian structure to manipulate out morality.

And the Church would not let Eddie Long explain why and how they have allowed him to get away with the same thing he preached against.

"Do you not know that they which minister about holy things live of the things of the temple? and they which wait at the altar are partakers with the altar?"
1 Corinthians 9:13

And I'm NOT calling Eddie Long a fake teacher.

I'm calling him a PUNK for not breaking the cycle of ignorance in our community by being truthful.

"When this sex scandal broke last year members said they didn’t want to push the Bishop out until they knew all the details. Well now that he’s settled the case with the four victims, a growing group of church members say he needs to leave! A person close to the group says they believe his settlement means he’s guilty of sexually abusing the young men. They’re also claiming he settled to avoid talking about all the scandalous details in the case.
Meanwhile, Barbara Marschalk, who represents New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and LongFellows Youth Academy, tells the AJC.com that she anticipates “the lawsuits will be dismissed, with prejudice, by close of business today.”

B.J. Bernstein, who reps the 4 men who sued the pastor says neither side would talk about the settlement terms but BMS is on the case!

Settlement talks weren’t going so well for Atlanta mega church leader until the $$ got better. BMS told ya weeks ago church members close to the Bishop Eddie Long sexual misconduct case say the young men were offered $4 million dollars to settle the sexual lawsuit. But as we told you they were holding out for a public apology until more money hit the table.

Long and his lawyers upped the offer WITH an apology behind closed doors only. The apology had been the sticking point in the past. Some of them wanted a public apology.

The young men had been demanding $20 million dollars from Long & the church. BMS has been told the guys settled for $15 million…that’s $3.6 million each. Depending on the fee arrangements with the lawyers – the boys lawyers could get up to 50% of the settlement. The young men will likely take home $1.3 million dollars each. BMS has also been told the insurance company likely paid up to $13 million dollars. So the church is likely out of $2 million dollars.

As you may recall, 4 young men sued Long, New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and the LongFellows Youth Academy alleging Long coerced them into having sexual relations. Long has admitted to hugging and giving the boys money, but he claims he did not rape them. Last year all parties agreed to mediation. An agreement keeps a lot of the dirt from being played out in court and a costly trial.


The one major obstacle had been some “type” of apology to the young men in public. Long we are told was furious and panicked at the possibility of apologizing to the young men in public. Two of the young men were holding out strongly for a public apology. Long’s people in the end won by getting them to accept a private apology behind closed doors and more money.

Should Bishop Eddie Long Resign? Should the congregation ask for his resignation? Should we try to heal and leave things as they are now?"


I can forgive someone who admits the truth.

But I can't stand anyone who will stand in your face and pass judgement on others to hide their own dysfunctions.

Thou shalt not lie...

But the real issue is WHY!

Why can no one in the Christian faith find any scripture in their faith that can explain why so many of them have homosexual tendencies and yet they ca find no excuse why they can stand before their flock and manipulate a truth that they live by in their own walk as a Christian?

Why can they not find any excuse for polyamory or communal living that allows more than a monogamous and heterosexual mindset in their faith as it is written and understood?


This is where I am at right now...

I believe that GOD made everyone.
GOD knows why.
And for that reason, anyone who is born with ANY sexual polarity is ONLY required to obey GODs wishes.
Respect GOD
Respect yourself
And
Respect others who respect you.

I believe that the union between people who are committed to each other is blessed by GOD.

No matter what your sexual polarity is or your moral beliefs are.
As long as you are respectful within your dynamic to each and everyone included in your committed relationship.

There is no sin.

Only GOD is the judge.

What people do in the privacy of their own homes is between them and GOD.

If your gonna be who you are?

Be proud in your faith.

You can not hide from GOD.
So what do so many of these people try to hide their true nature from others who may feel the same and not know how to deal with it?

But most importantly,

Don't be a Hypocrite!

hyp·o·crite/ˈhɪpəˌkrɪt/ noun
plural hyp·o·crites
[count] disapproving : a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs.


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Why are we NOT asking better questions about what is going on with our young adults?

I'm sure many of you have noticed that there has been a great deal of popularity in videotaping fights by young people and posting them for everyone to see as of late.


Some of that I'm sure we can chalk up to technology and the internet.
But with that curent trend there is no end to the amounts of videos of young women of color fighting other women and even men.


Now most see these videos and just blame the parents or the person who videotaped the clip. But I wonder why so few people not only notice, but begin to question what is really wrong with so many young women of color?


It's not hard to find some good examples...


[Like This One]



*smh*


[Or This One]



And many more on this site and Youtube and facebook.


All trying to make you take a look.
And we do look.
And some comment.


[Like this One that makes everyone wish they could beat the parents and the people who filmed this clip]


But these massive amounts of shocking images of young POCs are only causing people to disown them more than cause a massive need to really notice that there is something very wrong with so many of our young adults to be. Especially young female POCs.


I didn't write this post just so we can shake our heads and more images of our shameful realities. More than start a dialog on what is really going on and is anyone claiming these red flags as a better need to pay attention to what is going on with out people.


This is much deeper than simple ignorance.


This is something else.


And these children don't care who's watching.
They just don't know how to deal with it civilly.


And we owe Many of them more than shame....


So the real question is...


Do you notice?
Wanna talk about it?



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Elderly advice...

When I was a child, I acted like a child and when I became a Adult I tried to be adult about life but NOW that I am becoming an Elder I have to learn how to deal with childish adults.


*evil stare*


It's like watching church members fighting in church.
And none of them can see fault in how they acted and why they was a part of said chaos.


And then have the nerve to try to blame Me for calling it as I see it.


Now as not only an adult but also a elderly candidate in age and experience?
I find Myself coming to grips with the harsh reality.


My mother never raised a fool.
And childish games are often played by adults with childish tendencies.
I'm a great target for others who wish to be challenged by occupation and so they feel the need to include Me in their lust for attention.


As a elder candidate I have nothing to earn but My own comfort.
I owe no one enlightenment.
I am not trying to be a role model to anyone.


I seek to Master My own Mastery.


Smart people do not question the Mastery of the Elderly.


But with the current state of adults children with very little home training, it's become harder to defend your own homes from foolishness.


And now that I am becomes a Elderly Man, I am now noticing the difference easier.


And more comfortable with people hating Me for calling it as I see it when challenged.


And childish adults still have not been holding ther dick as long as I have been holding Mine. And don't let THAT be the reason why I aint gonna let nobody piss on My boots and tell Me they are into watersports.


This is not a game.
Anymore.
For the elderly.


I just aint got My AARP card yet.
But it's in the mail.



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The DL issue revisited...

This topic keeps popping up in relationship threads all over the net.

And yet and still, the same comments result in the issue being first a issue with men who are DL and not equally yoked.

And most importantly the issue behind the stigma of being bi or gay but not open about it to your Hetro mates.

So first I want to paste a comment I offered on someone's post about this subject and then I want to get deeper on this subject.

Actually your giving these men too much credit.

*Evil Stare*

When you really look at the past generations of people we have not known of their sexual polarity? You will notice that our society seemed to have been structured in hiding their sexuality while requiring many of them to look and act perfectly Hetro.

They got married and even had kids in pairs of couples to hide their connection between the polarities. They formed social clubs for men and women for the same reasons. While today, we are more exposed to the need to know who is who solely because of the AIDS epidemic more than their sexual polarities.

So the REAL question is now, WHY other than AIDS and STDs is their a concern about the sexual polarity of other possible mates.

When in many cases what people have been taught in the past as to who is a good mate and how men and women should react towards each other has now forced many to question their ability to understand the sexual nature of everyone.

And here's the kicker!

Most women who complain about DL men seldom notice how attracted they are to Bi Men in theory.

Just like how they consider men to be Dominant by doing things that are more submissive than Dominant.

And the more vanilla people are? The less they know.

And even worse. The less they can handle if in fact they knew.

And we now know that being Bi or Gay does not make you any less of a person.

Other than your ability to be truthful or at least honest.

So it's just not as simple as single people being any more or less in danger of being with a bi or gay mate until you include both men and women into the math.

It's not as simple as finding out that your man likes his prostrate stimulated or even that your man likes to suck penis. And then wishing he would be open enough to let you do it so he don't have to lie or creep to do it with strange dudes.

*wicked grin*

Having bi or gay tendencies are not as simple as the acts of sex they get into more than it is about who as well. Some men lust for male contact just like some women. So saying you want to replace their choice is just like when men want to tell a lesbian that they don't need to get a strap on or have a woman eat her coochie.

And even the Craigs list "cruising" for strange fruit is just as much a part of their desires as finding someone. The thril of the chase or even the act of cruising is a lifestyle choice for some. Just like ladies night out with the girls or a anonamous bootycall.

If you can't understand that men are pretty much just like women and with that there are just as many women on the DL and men. Then you can not be fair enough to deal with the issue.

Even the Spartan soldiers were known to be at least bi if not gay and they were some of the most fears soldiers in history. Or how about the Greeks being known for the men having sex with each other as a way of not getting a woman violated...lol

So the problem here is somehow there is something that you (women) seem to not be able to deal with very well...

And this DL issue may be as difficult as HOW do you openly talk about men and women on the DL without assuming that what either of them like sexually with whoever may cause you to belittle them as a man or a woman just like Hetro men and women.

Maybe women can't handle the truth and that is why many of them are not told the truth?

So what if your a strong enough woman to be willing to handle being open with your possible mate and being able to earn their trust to be open with you?

Now peep this...

How prepared are you to first deal with the possibility of learning that up until that person met you, they may have HAD to live a double life?

How ready are you to openly communicate your concerns with JUST being concerned with your trust being violated more than being sexually different?

What are you ready to allow if you are told that their lust for others is something deeper than the ability to give up, even if they love someone they need to have that part of their life in their life?

Would you try to assist them in having that dual connection in their sexual nature?

Can you deal with providing communication with your possible mate in confidence that you will never out them?

How will that effect your image of that person's manhood?

How prepared are you to be nurturing and respectful of their ego, knowing what you may find out to be how they are?

*wicked grin*

It's not a easy road to travel with anyone. And it is only worth whatever you feel it is worth to you and how well you can connect with your possible mate.

Deep huh?  

"a great deal of men who live a double life are in denial and simply aren't willing to come clean because they haven't accepted their own reality..."

Great statement!

So peep this...

How can anyone accept something they have lerned from everyone to be shameful? Like being born gay.

Who else can you come out too?

Think about the amount of closed minded people who will NEVER allow themselves to be THAT open to accept homosexuality, bisexuality like they do heterosexuality.

Some people consider THAT kind of secret so deep and dark that they hide in plane sight in dark places many call respectable secret groups and orders just because...

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Ok

I want to bring up a point here...

I personally do not see any difference in DL women and men on the DL other than society allowing women to excuse their unstable sexual urges as just being a woman.

But what concerns Me the most is our ability to evolve past the negative image of alternative sexuality in a so called heterosexual world.

Our sexuality does not make us who we are.

But our ability to not allow our sexuality to define us is of big concern.

Just because even if you don't feel you are effected by this issue.

Think again.

Our homophobic mentality has caused a great divide between many who are out and others who are not able to be out in their lives just because society will not allow it.

And that is more dangerous than being on the down low and not having any way of finding safer practices to indulge in with others who wish the same.

Maybe we should question our own personal morality just like we question our spirituality?

Because our basic sexual polarities are as natural as our physical structure.

But we all have been conditioned to shun what we can't handle.

And maybe it's time to stop running from reality.

Even if that reality is darker than we wish it to be.

It's not just about us.

It's about everyone.

And respecting who we are no matter what our sexual orientation is.

It's better to know than to be clueless.

Or is it?

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A public message to Laurence Fishburne. From 1 father to another

Dear Laurence Fishburne...

As a Father and a fan I would like to ask you to do something that may at first seem unquestionable personally but I believe in theory may shine I different light on the whole public issue between your daughter and her antics and career and Your emotional disgust at the manner that it has been handled so far.

First...

Where ever You are now? SEND FOR YOUR CHILD. Just her, and if the young man she is seeing has the guts to show up with her, send for him with her. 
And the FISRT thing I think will be helpful is the first thing you do is give her a public hug and make sure the media knows you are not publicly disowning your child.

Secondly...
Try and invite her to a formal sit down and family chat. And in that chat understand that she is now a adult and all the things that have happened can not be changed. And admit that she has single handedly put her name and her image in a very large portion of the media's focus in a very short amount of time. And THEN I want you to offer her some help and assistance in being able to better control her image and her career PERSONALLY and Professionally. Even if that means going back to school and learning her craft or skill or whatever she see's fit.

Thirdly...
Don't let anyone think that You are trying to BUY back her favor with You.
But consider this act of fatherly assistance a way of fixing the family image that is not really soiled that much if you look at it from a Grown Man's perspective. So make the haters your motivators as well as hers. And show her the ropes of the industry.

And most of all...

Please remember that right now Your little girl is fighting for some kind of identity. No matter how you may think it looks now. She has more people wishing she does better than people waiting for her to end up in the gutter somewhere because nobody would offer her assistance and advice and not take offense at what she feels "OK" with being seen as right now. She is still your little gurl stuck in this big world with a lot of KRUDDY friends that have no home training. And while it may be too late to teach morality you can mentor her street skills and accept her as a strong woman that may need better resources.

She must love you a whole lot to make this big of a scene to get your attention.

And I think we in the black community really want to see You and her turn this whole media circus around and shine like You have been shining and hustling your craft from a child to a proud father.

Remember all the women we have met that were just like her only they had less resources than she could have if she had a better Friend than a father right now...

But please...

Go get your child from the media hounds!
She needs some public relations help.
Right now.

And that could make up for all the things that made her feel she was in this word on her own...

And we need to see at least ONE MORE image of a strong Black Father who is not afraid of defending his child. No matter what she is trying to do...

What would Jesus do?
Luke 7:36-50


Hey Fish...
We go back to School Daze in ATL.

Wake up!


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64 years of evolution in theory...

Subject: Fw: 64 years later

One wonders,,........,,,,Who really won the war? 64 years later Hi - thought you might enjoy this political satire. What is the story here? Be sure to view all the way to the end! What happened to the radiation that's supposed to last thousands of years?? HIROSHIMA 1945 We all know that Hiroshima and Nagasaki were destroyed in August 1945 after explosion of atomic bombs. However, we know little about the progress made by the people of that land during the past 64 years. HIROSHIMA - 64 YEARS LATER All those lights, still must be radioactive, or perhaps they are using nuclear power??? DETROIT - 64 YEARS AFTER HIROSHIMA..... What has caused more long term destruction .... the A-bomb or U. S. politics?

At this point in life... Who is to say how we will evolve? respect

What would Harriet Tubman say today?

Harriet Tubman

She never made excuses for who and what she was...

"I grew up like a neglected weed -- ignorant of liberty, having no experience of it."

She knew the task was difficult...

"I had crossed the line. I was free; but there was no one to welcome me to the land of freedom. I was a stranger in a strange land."

But I wonder what she would say about her people today?

“I freed a thousand slaves I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.”

I wonder what she would have said about MLK Jr's Dream?

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

She knew a new image of freedom found that became her reason to free others...

“I looked at my hands, to see if I was the same person now that I was free. There was such a glory over everything; the sun came like gold through the trees, and over de fields, and I felt like I was in heaven.”

If knowledge was a snake it would have bit more of us...

“Never wound a snake; kill it.”

I wonder how she would compare our President today to Presidents of her day...

“Forever Free: Abraham Lincoln's Journey to Emancipation.”

As we remember our American history.

What will our future say about how we left them a history of how we are today?

I'm sure her simple prayer was more than enough for her in her day as she would say...

"Lord, I'm going to hold steady on to You and You've got to see me through."

In GOD she trusted.

I wonder how she would see "us" as her people today as we have evolved from her day when it was most important to free as many slaves as she could risk her life for?

It's 2010.

We have all evolved into a new image that many in our past would be proud of if we could only believe that we are living today in a new image of life that is more fair to everyone.

Even if nobody gets reparations for the pain of our past treatment.

But what will so many people who have grown to feel they have been historically unfair for so long in our past that we can not feel our new found freedom as a people together with everyone else who can see the difference too?

How free are you feeling today?

United we stand...

Are you still waiting to be aloud to stand on your own today like it's a new day?

What's stopping you?

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