Showing posts with label conflict. Show all posts
Showing posts with label conflict. Show all posts

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Reality check or stay in the cheep seats... 2010 You have arived at the promise land.


It's 2010...

A new Decade.
The change has come.

Time to shake the bonds of insecurity and mental slavery and hit the bricks like everybody else!

The only thing stopping you now is yourself.

And that old slave mentality you think you still got to bitch about.

You got a Black President.
Rather you like it or not.
That means you aint got nothing to complain about no more.

Time has changed.

So get off your fat lazy ass and do something!
*evil grin*

It's just that simple!
Just listen/read what Ole Russel Simmons said:

Message For The New Decade


At the dawn of a new decade, we have arrived at a moment unlike any other in the history of our beautiful nation. We have endured the brutality of slavery, we have survived the pain of Jim Crow and we have overcome segregation to declare our dignity and equal rights. We witnessed and participated in one of the greatest achievements in the history of our country when we elected our first black president, Barack Obama. And here we stand, with great opportunity, this year, this decade, to once and for all, emancipate ourselves from the mental slavery that is limiting our society and our people from moving forward.

To remove these shackles forever, we must take advantage of the opportunities that we have created. To me, during segregation, the black community was strong, because we had black dentists, doctors, drug store owners, grocery store owners, and many other business leaders providing our community with care and services. Integration came and although it gave us much more freedom and liberty, it also presented new challenges that we continue to face.  New  cultural and entrepreneurial groups came into our communities and took over many of these businesses and destroyed potential economic opportunities. However, now more than ever, the 89% of this country that is not black, is thirsting to buy our products and follow our cultural lead. If we ignore this 89%, we will never be able to move forward. We should not limit ourselves to just interact and do business with each other. I don't want to address just 11% of the population. I want to speak to100% of America. If I had segregated myself and  my businesses when I started Def Jam, then I never would have brought Melle Mel, Kurtis Blow and Run-DMC to the Mud Club in the Village, which was a White club. Black people didn’t like rap music, they rejected it at first. It was the White press that made us popular…the first time I heard my record on the radio was in Amsterdam on a Dutch station! I say all this, not to criticize you, but to challenge you to recognize your power.

I am saddened by many of my peers who continue to perpetuate the notion that diversity is wrong. When  black TV executives compare the multiracial programming I produce to “black” shows on their networks, it reminds me that we are also responsible for limiting ourselves. When online “black” gossip sites make an issue of inter-racial dating it exhibits our own responsibility for not progressing forward. If you only interact with “your group” in university or the work place, you not only do yourself and your company a disservice, you diminish the possibilities of a generation.   We have nothing to fear from integration because our culture is the New American Mainstream, the entire world is embracing us.  It’s our time to be open to the world.  At this point in our history as a people, we must uplift each other and encourage each other to change how we see in the world. It is honest integration that the next generation is bringing and they are challenging the old guard to step down and stop their old ways.  Similarly, too many mainstream companies today are limited by their inability to honestly integrate some of the most powerful American ideas because of their lack of diversity.  To speak to the new America, you have to completely rethink your “diversity” approaches in an integrated, fast-forward way, or risk being overtaken by an unstoppable tide of demographic and cultural change.

So, as we enter this new decade, let’s practice loving everybody and everything. Let’s be proud of our diversity and make sure it means what the word actually is supposed to mean. Let us not be agents for others to co-opt, let us be the agents of change. It is the wisdom from having experience and inside perspective from the most important cultural phenomenon our country has ever seen that this new generation carries forward. And damn, it is exciting.

-Russell Simmons


OUT WITH THE OLD
In with the new!

So are you ready?

*blank stare*

I wanna say you are but I doubt it!

As I glance around at many of you and your words it's the same old sad shit.

Waiting on a handout.
Blaming the invisible white man.

Well all bets are off now.

The only thing stopping you now...

Is you.


You are standing on fresh new images of change.

You may not see them right now.
But it's here.


Now what you gonna do?






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Friday, December 25, 2009

We ALL owe Uncle Tom a apology. And everyone we have ever called his name in vain.


My Grand Fathers family are from Locus Grove Ga.

His Brother was named Tom Harris. He was also the spiritual teacher for that area and everyone would gather on his land in the back of the house and have "church"... They called Him Uncle TH and not Uncle Tom because of the "Bad rap" the name Uncle Tom was associated with.

I remember as a child asking Him why He didn't like being called Uncle Tom and He said because that was a "Bad Word" for black people.

*blank stare*

Now this last comment reminded Me of a certain ignorance that our people (Colored folks as they called themselves back then) seemed to still suffer from today.

I read the book Uncle Tom's Cabin. And I was moved by Uncle Toms devotion to his people and his character in that Novel. And I wondered how and where at what point did the name of that character become offensive to POCs. And all I could find was TWO issues. Ignorance and the fact that Uncle Tom was of lighter skin. But nothing else. And I even did a search for more answers today and all I found was others who questioned the reason why Blacks and POCs considered the name Uncle Tom to be a insult after all this time we have had to research this issue and READ the actual book!

Turns out that the problem is the folklore that is more powerful than the facts within our own race. Because the Phrase "Uncle Tom" is STILL considered a offensive word used by other blacks and POCs against each other.

And then I reflect back to My family back in the "Country" and the words and the image of My Uncle TH when He told me of that meaning. And I think of the amount of pain and ignorance that My own people have put each other through to such a degree that we can't even understand the importance of that book "Uncle Tom's Cabin" and it's influence on the WORLD at that time and the American people as well as blacks and POCs. THAT BOOK was one of the most POWERFUL Novels of it's time and was even noted as one of the influences that made the World view of this country's history and treatment of blacks and POCs in this country ring the alarm for protest of this country and even caused the call for Civil War. The Book it's self was outlawed in this country for a while and the image of Uncle Tom was manipulated to such a degree that even black folks and POCs who had the chance to LEARN the TRUTH about that folklore did nothing still to this day. And That Book is a very important part of our history too. And it shows that all the images of slavery during that time were not all ugly and we were not all useless and powerless even in slavery.

I remember a few college educated black folks use that word against Me in a discussion about our history that got heated over My impression of our history and their emotional instinct to find nothing good about our past. And even as I questioned had they READ the actual book Uncle Tom's Cabin and if they knew the history behind the book all they did was shut down and consider Me less than a honorable black Man in their yes.

I now relate that conflict with the same issues I have had with many of the so called educated blacks and POCs on this site and around the net who seem to have the same bigoted traits towards others who don't agree with their ignorance and emotional traits that are connected more to folklores they know very little about more than they care to find they may be Mis-educated.

I live in a city that was a focal point to the Underground Railroad and the first point of freedom for many in slavery. In a city built by both slaves and free blacks and POCs who are all on record for their contribution to this country's growth and history. Some of which is still unknown or ignored by many who claim to be educated to some degree. And many of them graduated from HBCU's without common knowledge of their own history enough to not consider our past as painful as they think and feel.

I remember being called a Uncle Tom by a black educated person for telling them that blacks fought on the side of the Confederacy and were Republicans in the south before the Civil war. And I was shocked at their ignorance as well as their consideration of being more educated enough to be right without having to do the research.

So when I read the title of this thread?

I think about how much and how little many people especially Americans know about their own history and the history of WHY race is such a big issue between so many people in this country.

And if you were to ask anyone who has a issue with racism "why" and how did it get to such a painful emotional instinct. The ONLY thing that can say is because that is what they were taught.

And then I wonder to Myself. What was My Uncle TH teaching all of them Colored Country people back int that day. And what effect did it have on the people today and how they deal with race and each other.

And why is race still such a issue to many people who never suffered the amount of racism that was penned as being racism in America.

And all I can come up with is ignorance is what ignorance does.

Here's one of the best post I have read on this subject...


http://evz-yoyo.blogspot.com/2009/08/irony-of-uncle-tom.html

The Irony of Uncle Tom.

Boy, Uncle Tom's Cabin has really gotten a bad rap.

Many Black folks cringe when the subject is brought up.
Not to say that Black folks are so literary, whether they hail from the Ivy league or the ghetto, that their taste for fiction has lead to a unanimity in distaste for the 19th century work.
Far from that. The main ingredient in their taste is the name of the book and it's connotation to kow-towing Blacks.

I can speak personally about that same feeling for it resided within me.
I've always been hesitant about the book.
As an analogy, it's as if I had never tasted honey and for the first time, I stood by a beehive in a net mask, as angry bees buzzed and attempted to sting and kill me, as a tender pulled honeycomb from deep within the bowls of the insects lair and then implored me to taste the golden sap of the bees vomitus.
Well, taste I have, and I love it.
Harriet Beecher Stowe's book is much the same.
What on the surface may appear, sound like and feel racist, is but the most sweet delicacy of thought and exposition.

I never really understood the role of Uncle Tom's Cabin on the history of the United States.
It was always included in discussions of abolitionist movements, and as a seminal piece, but the impression formed within my mind was that this novel was blaxploitation, and that it's success was, rooted in the same vein as minstrel shows, stepin fetchit, hattie mcdaniel, bill bojangles robinson and a host of other negative depictions of Blacks.
Seeing drawings from the book, or posters, they were all in a manner of Black supplication to Whites.
Uncle Tom is often pictured with a young white girl, much the same as "Uncle Remus"
And there you have it. The old, aged, supplicating, Black slave, and the golden, beautiful flower of humanity, White girl.
There is much more to the relationship, but just as a picture tells a thousand words, the words of love and love of Christ were not words told in that picture.

The folks who have damned Uncle Tom, could have chosen another character to hold forth as a champion of the novel. They could have chosen Eliza's husband George.
Light skinned from several generations of plantation rape and sexual exploitation of Black women,
George was proud, held himself in a princely manner, was intelligent, industrious, proud and willing to fight to the death in order to achieve his freedom. A man who once he got his freedom, he relocated to France with his family and earned a College education. Then returned to America with his family before heading off to Liberia to take part in the great experiment of creating a free, new and world recognized nation and home to a new generation of Black power and self-sufficiency. This man was a production of Harriet Beecher Stowe's immense faculties, and he was a model for the future coming of Frederick Douglas, W.E.B. DuBois, A. Philip Randolph, Marcus Garvey, Paul Robeson, Robert F. Williams, E.D. Nixon, Malcolm X, Martin Luther King and Huey Newton.

And yet in this, many Blacks could find fault. For his light skin would be seen as a commentary on his intelligence and worth, despite the fact that George himself states his own wish that he were "two shades darker, rather than another shade lighter". A man who was Black, suffered as a Black and was proud and loving of his Blackness. Yet in this character, Stowe did not use him to comment on in-race hierarchies. He was a man, complete and whole and an undeniable product of years of the parallel track of sexual bondage and sex trade of Black women that sat squarely and equally protected within the evils of Slavery itself. how many Blacks in the south, after 200 years of rape and sexual exploitation, did not have White blood? Was there not much debate about the "percentage" of blood that made one Black? 1/32nd Black was "Black" that's if you had a single Black great-great-great-great-grandfather... And bottom line, if your mother was "Black" it made no difference, you were a slave. Surely there were probably many children that were so white in appearance, that it would have been "unconscionable" to place them in the field among those that look obviously Black. but such occasions were rare. There are more than a handful of U.S. Presidents that have had offspring with Black mothers and it is alleged that 5 U.S. Presidents (not counting Barack Obama) were African Americans.

And so race, is the history of the United States.

I assumed that the books popularity and oblique role in abolitionism was in perhaps the anger and rage it caused within abolitionist.
I didn't understand it fully.

My curiosity has been in this way pricked and sedated over the years.
I was ok with the book, and it's legacy being so closely identified with the black struggles and sufferings during slavery.
None of us had any choice in it's history.

But reading Frederick Douglas' "My Bondage, My Freedom" he spoke in a neutral tone about Uncle Tom's Cabin." He may have praised it a bit. He did not shrink from it, nor feel offended by it. The subject matter was distasteful, but it seemed more from the subject matter itself, rather than the perspective or wounds inflicted by the piece.

And so, If Frederick Douglas, as intelligent, acute of mind, a former slave, and leader of the Black abolitionist movement, was fine with Uncle Tom's cabin, then what right have any present day Blacks to object? In fact, it would seem that the proper course would be to read the book.

And read it I did.

could a more beautiful book be written?
In the world there are in truth, two kinds of books.
Truth and Fiction.
In my experience the most powerful Truth has come from those who have survived incredible situations, such as memoirs from Treblinka, Sudan, slave narratives, shipwrecks, natural disasters, people against the odds who miraculously survived. In these stories, the only thing to be done, is to tell the tale. circumstance provides all the drama. The experience is the setting. The task, is to survive. These stories are the most powerful. Not the dramatized.

"Uncle Tom's Cabin" captures the power of such truth and tells a story built upon innumerable stores of Truth, reinterpreted and woven together, by Harriet Beecher Stowe. Her intent, her history, her family, the time, the circumstance, the reception and it's importance all play but minor roles to the overwhelming beauty and skillfulness of the prose.

All of which adds up to the inescapable conclusion that to call someone an "Uncle Tom" is so completely backwards and misbegotten to the Truth of Uncle Tom.

Even the Title, "Uncle Tom's Cabin" is a reference to a line by George Shelby, a soon to be ex-slave owner, who frees his slaves, and allows them to work for wages, free from the capriciousness of death and re-sale. He tells them to look upon the cabin of Uncle Tom and let it forever be a memorial to the man, his beauty, his immense love and faith, as well as the preciousness of freedom.

All of this must be contrasted with the reality that today, to be called an Uncle Tom is to be called less than a man..
in reality, Uncle Tom was Christ-like.
He endured his fate like Christ.
refusing to do wrong. refusing to hate, refusing to betray trust and loyalty. shielding others, being selfless, and always in the bountiful grace of his lord and savior.

Uncle Tom is surely one of the most beautiful, moral and meek martyrs there ever was or could be.
He in fact gave his life and was beaten to death for not divulging the whereabouts of two female runaway slaves.
He even told his "Masser Legree" that he knew where they were, but the regardless of what happened, he could not, would not ever betray them. and for this he was beaten to death. and with his dying breath, he forgave his attackers and prayed to God for their salvation.

And now we call "Uncle Tom's" the guys who have the exact opposite of the qualities of the original.

And Harriet Beecher Stowe, hastened the end of slavery and struck one of the mightiest, if not the mightiest blow against the entire system of slavery. A staunch abolitionist, daughter of a preacher, sister of a preacher, from a family of abolitionist. she did everything she could to lay the thing bare.

This book was the second best selling book in the United State in the 19th Century, right behind the bible. You'd be hard pressed to find any book, by any author, written at any time that was more respectful, more praising of Blacks, more condemning of slavery than Uncle Tom's Cabin.

it is truly an irony, that as we've matured in the battle against discrimination, we have trampled this holy book underfoot, and declared it a racist artifact, despite it's power, it's beauty, it's intention and the vast work that it achieved in the struggle for freedom.

And if there could be any doubt in the minds of any as to the motivation, intent, truth, morality and ethics of the author, then they should forsake the reading of the book, and read chapter forty-five (45) the last chapter. There, plain and simple, is where the truth lay for all those who have any desire to know of it, and once having read it, there should be no need for speculation, interpretation, analysis, debate or deconstruction.

The real issue now is not who is at fault for the mis education of not just the negro but of the American people?

But HOW are we going to Re educate the American populace who now suffers from the ignorance of a mis quoted history of their own past?



respect

Chuuuchhhh...Tabernackle. *snicker*



I am Arch Bishop AMP Sir EZ

Of da Chuuchhhh

Ove da Ever Cummin.

*evil grin*

And Before We Be-gin to dig into tonights "eric" sermon

Wezz gonna have a song frum our guest band



Now understand that these kind of Church socials don't pay for them selves.

So I want all of yall to dig deep in your finances and grant us your LOVE offering for the kind host of tonights gathering.

Now give till it hurts.

And don't be shammed because we don't mind the kind that jingles but we would rather the kind that folds!

Da LAWd says NOTHING says that you like CASH!

*snicker*


Now anyhoe...


I want to start off this sermon with a short quiz.

will da chucchhh say amen?

...


Now I got a letta frum da HNIC at da Big White House tiday

And what He told Me was...

He said...

Brother EZ

Because THATS what He callz Me

He said

Brother EZ

And I said to My self

I said

SELF!

Because thats what I callz Myself

I said

SELF

Whatever He iz about to tellz Me must be impoetint

And I reads on in da letta

He says

Brother EZ

It is with Humble Gangsta Dom that I send You this message

I want to bless You with some Game I been wurkin wit lately

And I reads on


He says Brother EZ

And I pay close attention to what He wrightin hur cuz I can FEEEEELLL

It's gonna be heavy!

He says

Brother EZ

"What a difference a few beers amungst menz can make"

After pride puts a bitter taste in your mouth.

And I stop right thh-air!

And reads it again

He says

Brother EZ

WHAT

A

DIFFERENCE

A few beers can make!

Just cillin with the menz over cigars and crackers

Crackin jokes and keeping it real

Face to face

On My Back Pad-eyo

Mano e mano

*evil look*

And I reads on...

He says

Brother EZ

Because thats what He callz Me

Nevah Mind what I call Him

DATz My friend

And we aint kin

Be He's My folks!

And that Brother got mad jokes!

Anyhater

I read on...

He says

Conflict resolution


Let Me say this again cause sum ove you aint listenin

He said


CONFLICT RESO_LUTION

Is no substitution


For restrain

And

REALITY


Nowwww


Let Me break this DOWN fore ya

"because this is very impoetinit"

He said

CON- FLICT

Now stop right there!

Now

Even a ex con no better than to flick off some real talk

If it's gonna save him some time

Now let Me keep going here and I'll get back to this word right here...


He says

Conflict

Rez-oh-lew-shun

Resolution

Not substitution

Not revolution

He said!

Rest a too shun

Now we all know

We all can use a little moe rest!

Amen?

Ahhh Ahhh

And To SHUN

Anything you turn your back on shall tap you on the shoulder
And smack you like a bolder

If you don't think!

Like Areatha Franklin

Think!

About your actions and what they may cause you to do to somebody else that may not have done no harm to you

So Conflict Resolution

Is the key words of this message


Now let Me get back to this letter I got from My HNIC!

Addressed to Me

Arch Bishop AMP
Sir EZ

It says

Conflict Resolution is as simple as taking the time to talk it out over a beer or two

As long as you can keep it real.

And I reads that and says

Lawd Have Mercy On My Soul

I have enlightened

But so few words.

And

Now church

For the matter of time

Because I see that sister So and So has to go get the dinners we are selling down stairs

Directly after we finish here with the lawds work.

Now

Let Me get back to why this letter

Was so enlightening to your Pastor.

I said to My self I said Self!

because that's what I callz My Self

I says

Self!

How

CAN I

Bring this message

BACK

To My Flock

and so I meditated on these words in this message

Over some spiritual herbs and elixirs

And this is what came to Me

While I was in tranced

In deep meditation

And

Contemplation

Of

this message


It hit Me like a orgasm!

Or maybe that was sister charles

Who was on her knees

Praying with Me

Anyhead


I heard the words come down upon Me from GOD himself

He said


AMP

Because GOD likes to call Me AMP

Yeah,

Alpha Master Pimp

AMP!

He says AMP


Tell them

And I listened while GOD spoke because

GOD

Don't like to say things TOOO many time

he says


AMP!

Tell

Your

People

Let that ISH go!

Just stop!

Get control of your emotional triggars

Pump your brakes!

And

THINK

About what may you be missing

That may sound like your dissing

Your fellow man

Because we may be human

But we don't have to understand

Every custom and quirk

That causes feelings to be hurt

Or remind them of some dirt


They may have wanted to forget


He said

Tell them to STOP

And watch what they may not notice somebody else

May not understand why you said what you said they way you said it.

And I said

Lawd...

Now you know My heart!

So when I ask you this question

Take it easy on Me with the lesson

I may have to learn

Because I don't want to burn

Over some mis understanding

And the Lawd said

Ok

Deal

And I said

Lawd

If it be thy will

How can we still have such a problem with not wanting to learn how to better respect

Conflict Resolution

AND The Lawd Spoke

And He said

Stop

Focus

Listen

Step back

THINK

and then

React


And I cried real tears because My fears were no more!


Because it is that easy

Sometimes


Hello church!

I said

SOME

TIMES

We all have to stop!

And then focus on what seems to be missing in your words

Then listen to their reaction

Try to add and don't play subtraction

In your interaction

And then

STEP BACK

And

THINK

Before you react


And it's just that simple

Don't hate the player

Don't play the haters game

There is no shame in conflict resolution

You have to have faith

That they aint that damn stupid


*evil grin*

And that part was in

The letter I got

From The HNIC

Too


So I'm telling you tonight

Don't always be more ready to fight

Than you can be

IF

You can see

We are having a lack of communication


And with that chuchhhh.


I'm gonna leave yall with words in song

Frum are guess choir





And while the choir is playing we will be passing around the plate.

We ask that you give till it hurts

We ask that you make a down payment on your blessings to come

And we will keep you cummin

Let the church say


Amen

Amen


Aye man

 




And before I forget again


Don't forget


The Kitchen is now open

We only take cash for the food

And there are plenty of ATMs for you to use


Now with the words that come from My mouth

And the blessing that flow from My heart

Let the church say again


Reach over to the person next to you and say

Neighbor

NOTHING

SAYS THANK YOU


Like Cash!


Amen?


*wicked grin*



respect

Arguing is a red flag or a reality check. know the difference.



Conflict in communication is a red flag.


I will call that conflict arguing for the sake of the OP.

The MOST Important issue here is WHY there is a conflict in respect that is supported by a certain faith in whom you serve.

Arguing is allowed in certain circumstances.

Self preservation.

Deal breaking.

A break down in trust of judgement.

Consideration of becoming ignorant.

And confusion.

*blank stare*

If you admit yourself to a hospital?

The ONLY reason to argue with your Health Care Provider is all of the same so this is not about BDSM.

And the law allows you to get a second opinion.

But it's a crap shoot if you get a different result.

So if the same is proven from the 2nd and even 3rd opinion? Then the first should be given a apology out of respect. But that's not important because that involves personal ethics.

Arguing in of it's self is a red flag between each who finds enough conflict to protest.

Now...

Conflict resolution is a hard pill to swallow because the FIRST person who has hat duty is the Dominant in that dynamic.


Because something has become lost to such a extreme that the submissive has loss the ability to trust in your opinion.

What's all of this mean?

Arguing is a red flag that is ONLY respected when there is a sign of concern for the reason why the submissive felt the need to dispute and even disagree with your logic or Dominance.

And each person owe it to the other or not to consider the INSTINCT a red flag as soon as it becomes realized.

It's a important human instinct that is more of a red flag than a insult.

Until we know the difference?

We have no control over the emotional need to defend our emotions with conflict.

*blank stare*

Maybe THAT was too deep for yall?





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