The conflict of advanced adult sexual nature in the new world order of the ages.

The question was asked as to why POCs are so homophobic and even fearful of sexual polarities in general other than the basic homosexual polarities.
So while some were talking (in a swingers group) about male anal stimulation and the suspect nature of a man being on a DL if they fetishize about that act. I had to express a deeper explanation of sexual polarities in general and the general nature of common people in todays new world exposure...

Actually the issue here is education more than suspect nature.


In our culture as People of Color, we tend to be very miseducated in advanced sexual nature. So for many all they know is hetro or homo. And nothing in between or any exceptions. Part of that problem is because of the structure of organized religion culturally. Take Eddie Long for instance. While he KNOWS what he is doing to some degree, he also KNOWS that the structure that he is conditioned from demands that what he KNOWS and FEELS is NEVER to be exposed to COMMON MAN. Because up until this century, advanced sexual education was ONLY exposed to mystics and monarks of society. So all of these sexual lifestyles were secrets that were held as indulgences ONLY for the high and mighty. And that means everything above heterosexual missionary sexual contact. So everything including swinging to BDSM to descriptions of sexual polarities were all taboo to common man. THAT is the deep part of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Because the BIGGEST sin was sexual deviance and over exposure of ignorance as to the spiritual powers and responsibilities connected to the act of sex it's self and GODs desire to be included i ever act in a positive nature. So homosexuality was not as much of a sin unless the parties involved disrespected the basic laws of human nature. And ALL of that was too deep for common man to have THAT much air and opportunity to spitefully and selfishly indulge in sexual deviance without remorse. Kinda like the way we are NOW starting to indulge in sexual deviance today due to exposure of the internet but fail to respect the basic conditions as to why each act has a purpose ad conditions as to why they exist. So commoners are now jumping into these advanced sexual lifestyles with no respect or concern for anyone but their own desire to selfishly explore a act that it too spiritually powerful for them to handle and they are preying on others more than having any concern for the possibility that they may harm others in their quest for entertaining mindless deviancy.

So in short...

NO ACT between man and woman (loving partners) in a loving relationship is a sin in theory.

PROBLEM is?

Sex is a powerful act that creates the SAME effect as DRUGS in the mind and even in souls of human beings rather they have become upper metaphysically educated as to dangers and responsibilities involved with these evolutionary acts or not! And in the case of "prostrate milking" and male anal exposure? Up until as of late, THAT ACT was ONLY reserved for trained Doctors for medicinal purposes! And for the few advanced practitioners who can safely explore that act for entertainment purposes.

And it gets deeper!

Because even the POPE stated in his Christmas address last year that "back in his day sexual deviance including pedophilia was NO BIG DEAL".... And many found great offense in his statement without consideration of WHERE his views of recollection stemmed from. Mostly due to the basic moral conditioning that the common religious populace has been educated under.

Mind you, the history of the Egyptians, Romans and the Greeks to state a few, have ALL noted the ART of Erotic indulgence by Royals, Mystics, Nobels, Craftsmen and Socialites in the community. Even the gladiators and the military were recorded and even somehow excused for their homosexual conduct with each other WITHOUT judgement of being lessor of a MAN or Woman/lady respectfully.

While the ONLY recording in our history of the common people being exposed and engulfed in deviant sexual nature was in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. And in THAT example the moral of THAT story was how the masses of lower classes abused THAT freedom that was expected to include greater responsibility as well as Spiritual REASONING behind each and every indulgence and sexual act personally. And what resulted was a loss of social concern for anyone and a selfish corrupt nature by common man that resulted in the need for the whole populace to be destroyed due to the severity of blasphemy by the common people as a whole.

Not because of the expression of homosexual nature. But because of the lack of education and purpose of basic sexuality and the spiritual concern for positive relations between respectful partners as to cautious conduct with such a powerful act of sexual experimentation.

So in theory, the act of mindless predatory terrorism and premeditated sexual assault by the masses became the HOLY OFFENSE when the common people of Sodom and Gomorrah desired and even demanded the intent to RAPE the two angels that were sent to Sodom and Gomorrah to protect Abraham's nephew, Lot.

http://www.gotquestions.org/Sodom-and-Gomorrah.html

#### "The biblical account of Sodom and Gomorrah is recorded in Genesis chapters 18-19. Genesis chapter 18 records the Lord and two angels coming to speak with Abraham. The Lord informed Abraham that "the outcry against Sodom and Gomorrah is so great and their sin so grievous." Verses 22-33 record Abraham pleading with the Lord to have mercy on Sodom and Gomorrah because Abraham's nephew, Lot, and his family lived in Sodom."

#### "Genesis chapter 19 records the two angels, disguised as human men, visiting Sodom and Gomorrah. Lot met the angels in the city square and urged them to stay at his house. The angels agreed. The Bible then informs us, "Before they had gone to bed, all the men from every part of the city of Sodom — both young and old — surrounded the house. They called to Lot, 'Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.'" The angels then proceed to blind all the men of Sodom and Gomorrah and urge Lot and his family to flee from the cities to escape the wrath that God was about to deliver. Lot and his family flee the city, and then "the LORD rained down burning sulfur on Sodom and Gomorrah — from the LORD out of the heavens. Thus he overthrew those cities and the entire plain, including all those living in the cities..."

#### "In light of the passage, the most common response to the question "What was the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah?" is that it was homosexuality. That is how the term "sodomy" came to be used to refer to anal sex between two men, whether consensual or forced. Clearly, homosexuality was part of why God destroyed the two cities. The men of Sodom and Gomorrah wanted to perform homosexual gang rape on the two angels (who were disguised as men). At the same time, it is not biblical to say that homosexuality was the exclusive reason why God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah. The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were definitely not exclusive in terms of the sins in which they indulged."

#### "Ezekiel 16:49-50 declares, "Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. They were haughty and did detestable things before me..." The Hebrew word translated "detestable" refers to something that is morally disgusting and is the exact same word used in Leviticus 18:22 that refers to homosexuality as an "abomination." Similarly, Jude 7 declares, "...Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion." So, again, while homosexuality was not the only sin in which the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah indulged, it does appear to be the primary reason for the destruction of the cities."

I digress...

The REASON for My biblical inclusion of these quotes are to better express the actual instinct of the common people of Sodom and Gomorrah and why they were destroyed more than how many follow the cliff notes of the folklore they have been religiously conditioned to believe today...

Now why is THIS so important?

It's more important TODAY more than ever because THIS lesson has been FORBIDDEN to be explained to the commoners of society that BECAUSE of Sodom and Gomorrah it has been feared that IF religious practitioners were to attempt to explain this reality to the common populace? Solely because of their intelligence as a whole and their possibility to neglect such a freedom to explore these advanced sexual acts will cause the same massive corruption that occurred during Sodom and Gomorrah.

And up until this century and the invention of the World Wide Web?

This theory was demanded to be taboo to common man for their own good!

But NOW we are facing a new problem in our societies again.

NOW organized religion is not faced with a greater conflict.
The ability to enlighten ALL of the masses after suppressing so many advanced freedoms that have been ONLY reserved for upper metaphysically educated responsible may cause the total collapse of organized religion as a whole out of spite!

Thus the issue that people like Eddie Long, and The Pope, and so many others who have seemed to have felt excused in their conduct that they have preached to be sinful to the masses and yet been found out to have been following a conflictive inexcusable lifestyle that they are permitted to explain after exposed because THAT would mean that THEY would have to explain the deeper definitions of every sexual polarity and how and WHERE it is expressed and the conditions of ALL of it, to everyone. No matter if they want to believe it or not!

And THAT is not going to happen because that would mean that EVERY secret that many darker orders have hidden from the common man will also HAVE to be exposed as well.

And the common man in todays society can NOT handle THAT much enlightenment at this point in their impression of humanity as a whole. From what they have been manipulated to believe for their own safety in theory. But what many will consider a total insult to their intelligence.

Because SEX is the MOST powerful and unexplained act in humanity next to pain and death.

The upper metaphysical nature of such mystical power and responsibility as well as control and enlightenment would require everyone to be educated in the arts of Karma Sutra, Tantra, Chakras, and meditative yoga as well as martial arts as well as psychology and Biology JUST to be qualified to better understand the importance of respecting the act of sex to be NOTHING TO FUCK WITH in general.

And at this point in our awareness in this new world?
The basic conflicts that common man has with trying to understand their own personal sexual polarity and mental stability to be able to indulge in these advanced sexual lifestyles seem too difficult to consider studying FIRST before exploring the temptations of the flesh with a sound mind and a respectable responsibility to include their spiritual powers in a positive manner as to not harm each other or cause a act of extreem sin for abusing such a powerful act for mindless selfish reasons..

And being that todays general populace is NOT able to erase their personal impression of miseducated morality as a whole without the feeling of loosing their whole spirituality and identity?

The ability to inform and educate the masses of people who NOW find themselves drawn to these advanced sexual lifestyles that were once manipulated by their organized belief structure to enforce a MASS IGNORANCE for the common good of society is WAY TOO MUCH to handle without causing them to NOT include their spirituality as the driving force in their sexual desires.

And THAT means without judgement of others as well.

THAT is what BDSM actually is about in theory.
The respect and understanding of sexual polarities and every fetish known to mankind, respectfully.
(including the ones others find offensive and distasteful)

THAT is still too conflictive for the common man in society to excuse and respect towards others who may seem driven towards a darker and scarier personal fetish.

THAT is the difference in what the 1% of power feels empowered to indulge in that the 99% can not stomach to imagine how they can get away with such a privilege without feeling they are sinful to humanity.

And THAT includes polygamy, swinging, pedophilia, homosexuality, beastiality(sp), and every other fetish, sexual polarity and relationship dynamic that demands a different responsibility as to HOW they can afford to indulge into something that common man can not afford respectfully or have to explain to insignificant bystanders and low life's.

This new found investigative freedom of information of the masses of commoners and "normal" simple minded people is causing a great deal of corruptive nature to our basic family values as well as confusion to many common people in society who NOW feel the ability to indulge into sexual acts that were once considered TABOO in nature and even sinful by the standards set by organized religion as a whole.

So it's not as simple as homosexuality, bisexuality or heterosexuality now.
Now we have even deeper sexual polarities like Alpha, beta, and omega types.
We have Tops and Bottoms and fetishist.
We have mental conditions and tramas in our histories that are connected to our philia's and phobias.

All of these deeper identities demand that we KNOW exactly who and how we are and how we are not.

And NONE of these should change our personal image as whom we are.

So a man who loves his ass probed should never be questioned as to his sexuality no more than a man who cross dresses should never be questioned as well.
Nor should a homosexual, transsexual, lesbian or bisexual person ever be questioned as to their humanity or stability to be judged by their character no more than the color or culture.

And these adult sexual lifestyles SHOULD Be safe havens for all that understand and respect adult sexuality and sexual polarities and fetishes as a whole. So that no one has the right to judge another or feel uncomfortable being around others unlike themselves socially.

But this shit is TOO NEW and TOO DEEP for too many common people to understand WHY they have no choice but to keep their personal insecurities to themselves enough to embrace a sense of unity as a lifestyle community at large.

Just the over indulgence and temptation and freedom to explore so many of these sexual indulgences has cause too many simple minded people to abuse the basic concern for others for their own selfish desires and even ignorant selfish addictions and predatory instincts.

And THAT is and has been the Dangerous element of these Adult Sexual lifestyles today!

Because ignorance is TOO EASY to embarace but too uncomfortably shameful to admit when the pride of simple minds find themselves stuck having to face enlightenment and reality that is too strange to respect more than the risk of failure.

It's not JUST human nature.

It's because basic HUMAN NATURE is NOT what we have been conditioned to be allowed to believe as common people in todays society. Because OUR society as it has been STRUCTURED through organized religion that has manipulated the mindset of the masses of populations of civilizations for THEIR OWN PROTECTION respectfully has now become the most difficult conflict with our ability to enlighten ourselves enough to better explore these adult sexual lifestyles without guilt, shame, or fear of sin.

And we can not handle THAT much truth!

Because we can not handle THAT much responsibility to NOT rebel from the only spiritual faith base we have ever known to date.

And already too many people have grown to HATE organized religion for more reasons than they have the ability to excuse them for, now that they have the ability to see why they HAD to protect the masses from becoming another Sodom and Gomorrah!

And now here we stand together as a newly connected WORLD image still suffering manipulated ignorance and racism and folklore that once was for our own good in the smaller hoods we have evolved from today.

And the MOST uncomfortable truth and enlightenment that we all face in this civilized world as it stands today is sex and sexual polarity and how ONLY when we are able to educate ourselves fully into the deeper darker reality that has been hidden from us for thousands of years?

We MAY be able to better understand WHY Jesus Himself refrained from sex for a greater purpose in his teachings of spiritual enlightenment that ended up causing western civilizations to divide into conflicting beliefs in order to keep certain order and civil structure of the masses before we found ourselves where we all are in this New World Order of the Ages...

### "Enlightenment comes at a price. You have to shed your most profound beliefs, give up the props that keep you going each day, and arrive at a place where "you" does not exist. You are no longer playing a role in the theater, and you are no longer even in the theater because the theater too is an illusion. This is not a happy thing, enlightenment."

THAT price!
Is too deep and too dark for the civilized common man/woman to be expected to handle and respect over the reality that will no longer exist as soon as you become enlightened.

Sex is a act that creates a spiritual explosion of energy and light that can be the most powerful energy a human can posses or express once Mastered and understood.

If you can not include the highest form of your spiritual beliefs in your indulgence in the act of sex?

All your doing is fucking for no reason.
And too many of us have been created out of shame and ignorance of mindless sexual indulgence and selfish addiction that the basic product of such a act suffers more until it is able to do better for the next generation of blessings that are ONLY made by having sex!

The intent of the New World Order is to enlighten the masses so that they may peacefully evolve into a more enlightened state of a NEW WORLD REALITY of the masses respectfully.

But we can NOT learn enough from our history to no longer repeat it.
Because we have been too conditioned to defend what history we think has made us who we are today.

And we do not fully KNOW who we are as individuals because our sexual polarity is a part of our ever evolving DNA.

THAT requires a NEW MATH mentality.

What makes us most human is what made us and how we were made.

SEX is the most important part of our humanity.
And still the most uncomfortably taboo topic to handle as adults.

ta·boo   [tuh-boo, ta-] adjective, noun, plural ta·boos, verb, ta·booed, ta·boo·ing.
adjective
1.
proscribed by society as improper or unacceptable: Taboo language is usually bleeped on TV. Synonyms: prohibited, banned, forbidden, proscribed. Antonyms: allowed, permitted, permissible; sanctioned.
2.
prohibited or excluded from use or practice: In art school, painting from photographs was taboo.
3.
(among the Polynesians and other peoples of the South Pacific) separated or set apart as sacred; forbidden for general use; placed under a prohibition or ban. Synonyms: sacrosanct, inviolable.
noun
4.
a prohibition or interdiction of anything; exclusion from use or practice. Synonyms: ban, proscription, embargo, interdiction; no-no.
5.
(among the Polynesians and other peoples of the South Pacific)
a.
the system, practice, or act whereby things are set apart as sacred, forbidden for general use, or placed under a prohibition or interdiction.
b.
the condition of being so set apart, forbidden, or interdicted.
6.
exclusion from social relations; ostracism.

verb (used with object)
7.
to put under a taboo; prohibit or forbid. Synonyms: prohibit, ban, forbid, proscribe. Antonyms: allow, permit, sanction.
8.
to ostracize (a person, group, etc.): While he is tabooed, no one may speak to him.
Also, tabu.

### Sex between loving and caring adults should NEVER be taboo.


The story of Adam and eve revolved around the tree of knowledge.

With great knowledge comes great responsibility.

Know thy self.

First.


.


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The Black church and culture MADE Eddie Long how his is right now.

He is the PRODUCT of the black ministry!

And yet Eddie Long stated that:
"the Bible mentions three sexual sins—fornication, adultery and homosexuality"

Stop Playing!


"Even so hath the Lord ordained that they which preach the gospel should live of the gospel."
1 Corinthians 9:14


We ALL KNOW that the ministry teaches homophobia while many in the faith are conditioned to hide the truth.

And yet in this day and age we STILL allow the Christian structure to manipulate out morality.

And the Church would not let Eddie Long explain why and how they have allowed him to get away with the same thing he preached against.

"Do you not know that they which minister about holy things live of the things of the temple? and they which wait at the altar are partakers with the altar?"
1 Corinthians 9:13

And I'm NOT calling Eddie Long a fake teacher.

I'm calling him a PUNK for not breaking the cycle of ignorance in our community by being truthful.

"When this sex scandal broke last year members said they didn’t want to push the Bishop out until they knew all the details. Well now that he’s settled the case with the four victims, a growing group of church members say he needs to leave! A person close to the group says they believe his settlement means he’s guilty of sexually abusing the young men. They’re also claiming he settled to avoid talking about all the scandalous details in the case.
Meanwhile, Barbara Marschalk, who represents New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and LongFellows Youth Academy, tells the AJC.com that she anticipates “the lawsuits will be dismissed, with prejudice, by close of business today.”

B.J. Bernstein, who reps the 4 men who sued the pastor says neither side would talk about the settlement terms but BMS is on the case!

Settlement talks weren’t going so well for Atlanta mega church leader until the $$ got better. BMS told ya weeks ago church members close to the Bishop Eddie Long sexual misconduct case say the young men were offered $4 million dollars to settle the sexual lawsuit. But as we told you they were holding out for a public apology until more money hit the table.

Long and his lawyers upped the offer WITH an apology behind closed doors only. The apology had been the sticking point in the past. Some of them wanted a public apology.

The young men had been demanding $20 million dollars from Long & the church. BMS has been told the guys settled for $15 million…that’s $3.6 million each. Depending on the fee arrangements with the lawyers – the boys lawyers could get up to 50% of the settlement. The young men will likely take home $1.3 million dollars each. BMS has also been told the insurance company likely paid up to $13 million dollars. So the church is likely out of $2 million dollars.

As you may recall, 4 young men sued Long, New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and the LongFellows Youth Academy alleging Long coerced them into having sexual relations. Long has admitted to hugging and giving the boys money, but he claims he did not rape them. Last year all parties agreed to mediation. An agreement keeps a lot of the dirt from being played out in court and a costly trial.


The one major obstacle had been some “type” of apology to the young men in public. Long we are told was furious and panicked at the possibility of apologizing to the young men in public. Two of the young men were holding out strongly for a public apology. Long’s people in the end won by getting them to accept a private apology behind closed doors and more money.

Should Bishop Eddie Long Resign? Should the congregation ask for his resignation? Should we try to heal and leave things as they are now?"


I can forgive someone who admits the truth.

But I can't stand anyone who will stand in your face and pass judgement on others to hide their own dysfunctions.

Thou shalt not lie...

But the real issue is WHY!

Why can no one in the Christian faith find any scripture in their faith that can explain why so many of them have homosexual tendencies and yet they ca find no excuse why they can stand before their flock and manipulate a truth that they live by in their own walk as a Christian?

Why can they not find any excuse for polyamory or communal living that allows more than a monogamous and heterosexual mindset in their faith as it is written and understood?


This is where I am at right now...

I believe that GOD made everyone.
GOD knows why.
And for that reason, anyone who is born with ANY sexual polarity is ONLY required to obey GODs wishes.
Respect GOD
Respect yourself
And
Respect others who respect you.

I believe that the union between people who are committed to each other is blessed by GOD.

No matter what your sexual polarity is or your moral beliefs are.
As long as you are respectful within your dynamic to each and everyone included in your committed relationship.

There is no sin.

Only GOD is the judge.

What people do in the privacy of their own homes is between them and GOD.

If your gonna be who you are?

Be proud in your faith.

You can not hide from GOD.
So what do so many of these people try to hide their true nature from others who may feel the same and not know how to deal with it?

But most importantly,

Don't be a Hypocrite!

hyp·o·crite/ˈhɪpəˌkrɪt/ noun
plural hyp·o·crites
[count] disapproving : a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs.


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The DL issue revisited...

This topic keeps popping up in relationship threads all over the net.

And yet and still, the same comments result in the issue being first a issue with men who are DL and not equally yoked.

And most importantly the issue behind the stigma of being bi or gay but not open about it to your Hetro mates.

So first I want to paste a comment I offered on someone's post about this subject and then I want to get deeper on this subject.

Actually your giving these men too much credit.

*Evil Stare*

When you really look at the past generations of people we have not known of their sexual polarity? You will notice that our society seemed to have been structured in hiding their sexuality while requiring many of them to look and act perfectly Hetro.

They got married and even had kids in pairs of couples to hide their connection between the polarities. They formed social clubs for men and women for the same reasons. While today, we are more exposed to the need to know who is who solely because of the AIDS epidemic more than their sexual polarities.

So the REAL question is now, WHY other than AIDS and STDs is their a concern about the sexual polarity of other possible mates.

When in many cases what people have been taught in the past as to who is a good mate and how men and women should react towards each other has now forced many to question their ability to understand the sexual nature of everyone.

And here's the kicker!

Most women who complain about DL men seldom notice how attracted they are to Bi Men in theory.

Just like how they consider men to be Dominant by doing things that are more submissive than Dominant.

And the more vanilla people are? The less they know.

And even worse. The less they can handle if in fact they knew.

And we now know that being Bi or Gay does not make you any less of a person.

Other than your ability to be truthful or at least honest.

So it's just not as simple as single people being any more or less in danger of being with a bi or gay mate until you include both men and women into the math.

It's not as simple as finding out that your man likes his prostrate stimulated or even that your man likes to suck penis. And then wishing he would be open enough to let you do it so he don't have to lie or creep to do it with strange dudes.

*wicked grin*

Having bi or gay tendencies are not as simple as the acts of sex they get into more than it is about who as well. Some men lust for male contact just like some women. So saying you want to replace their choice is just like when men want to tell a lesbian that they don't need to get a strap on or have a woman eat her coochie.

And even the Craigs list "cruising" for strange fruit is just as much a part of their desires as finding someone. The thril of the chase or even the act of cruising is a lifestyle choice for some. Just like ladies night out with the girls or a anonamous bootycall.

If you can't understand that men are pretty much just like women and with that there are just as many women on the DL and men. Then you can not be fair enough to deal with the issue.

Even the Spartan soldiers were known to be at least bi if not gay and they were some of the most fears soldiers in history. Or how about the Greeks being known for the men having sex with each other as a way of not getting a woman violated...lol

So the problem here is somehow there is something that you (women) seem to not be able to deal with very well...

And this DL issue may be as difficult as HOW do you openly talk about men and women on the DL without assuming that what either of them like sexually with whoever may cause you to belittle them as a man or a woman just like Hetro men and women.

Maybe women can't handle the truth and that is why many of them are not told the truth?

So what if your a strong enough woman to be willing to handle being open with your possible mate and being able to earn their trust to be open with you?

Now peep this...

How prepared are you to first deal with the possibility of learning that up until that person met you, they may have HAD to live a double life?

How ready are you to openly communicate your concerns with JUST being concerned with your trust being violated more than being sexually different?

What are you ready to allow if you are told that their lust for others is something deeper than the ability to give up, even if they love someone they need to have that part of their life in their life?

Would you try to assist them in having that dual connection in their sexual nature?

Can you deal with providing communication with your possible mate in confidence that you will never out them?

How will that effect your image of that person's manhood?

How prepared are you to be nurturing and respectful of their ego, knowing what you may find out to be how they are?

*wicked grin*

It's not a easy road to travel with anyone. And it is only worth whatever you feel it is worth to you and how well you can connect with your possible mate.

Deep huh?  

"a great deal of men who live a double life are in denial and simply aren't willing to come clean because they haven't accepted their own reality..."

Great statement!

So peep this...

How can anyone accept something they have lerned from everyone to be shameful? Like being born gay.

Who else can you come out too?

Think about the amount of closed minded people who will NEVER allow themselves to be THAT open to accept homosexuality, bisexuality like they do heterosexuality.

Some people consider THAT kind of secret so deep and dark that they hide in plane sight in dark places many call respectable secret groups and orders just because...

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Ok

I want to bring up a point here...

I personally do not see any difference in DL women and men on the DL other than society allowing women to excuse their unstable sexual urges as just being a woman.

But what concerns Me the most is our ability to evolve past the negative image of alternative sexuality in a so called heterosexual world.

Our sexuality does not make us who we are.

But our ability to not allow our sexuality to define us is of big concern.

Just because even if you don't feel you are effected by this issue.

Think again.

Our homophobic mentality has caused a great divide between many who are out and others who are not able to be out in their lives just because society will not allow it.

And that is more dangerous than being on the down low and not having any way of finding safer practices to indulge in with others who wish the same.

Maybe we should question our own personal morality just like we question our spirituality?

Because our basic sexual polarities are as natural as our physical structure.

But we all have been conditioned to shun what we can't handle.

And maybe it's time to stop running from reality.

Even if that reality is darker than we wish it to be.

It's not just about us.

It's about everyone.

And respecting who we are no matter what our sexual orientation is.

It's better to know than to be clueless.

Or is it?

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Breaking the rules of the game to play fairly?

I been doing a lot of thinking about what I have learned about these sexual lifestyles and the different titles and types of sexual natures known as what you are as you do what it is you do.

(WIITWDish)

What we __DO__ know is that everything within the realm of BDSM as we know it, seems to be not only helpful but respectful for consenting adults to adapt within their relationship dynamics no matter what spiritual faith base or cultural balance you support.

So what I have figured out so far is that by the time we become sexual adult minded people, we are capable of finding and keeping fruitful and productive relationships and honor others as well.

But THAT has been a very new awakening in just the past 15 or 20 years or so. And many of us today have lost the FULL memory of how it really used to be. I mean before we were old enough to remember before computers or cell phones or Tv and radio. And I'm hoping that I am reaching a few of you who may still have been too young to really remember when the REASON why parents made us go play outside is because there was VERY LITTLE to do other than chores in the daytime of our past youth. And the truth about growth of our nation and reality as what we see from Sea to Shining Sea...lol

There are JUST AS MANY young new and not so new adults in these lifestyle communities as their are elder types who have worked very hard to carry on the memory of the way things really used to be in our history. Because there is a legacy of protocols and rituals that several cultures also have within their own genetic mysteries. From Leather and Old Guard to Blue Blooded slavery and servitude to shameful memories of genocide and supremacy.

We all can see a reflection of something that we all can desire to live and admire within our desired relationship dynamics, in theory.

But there is a constant scream of "but there is nobody who I can relate that lives in the same state as me...lol"

And that is a ONLINE reality.

So it's a wild kind of vision to envision the sight of everything that is right with the next generations of new adults as they try to mold THEIR evolution more than many of us that have a lifetime history of how these lifestyles used to be, only now this is more of their reality and we are just holding up the walls or trying not to have no space to play well with others who see you as their fathers and mothers, only kinda naked...lol

###*evil grin*

And there is no longer a reason to try to explain why there should be one true way because that is where you are today when others in other places never have to see the faces of your demons that keep you from being where they are in their heads more than in their words.

And WORDS have had more power back in time than it was expected to be law in the Cyber world. And there becomes yet another issue. Because now there are more politics groups and protocol groups on these social sites that are active than there are self help groups for young adults with no older adults in membership.

So life online is becoming hard to find subjects that people with relate too. Without shock value or drama and gossip that others can watch too. And always a need to read each others words as a debate and not a lack of the ability to relate to the OP.

And much of what we suffer from is generational gaps than culture shock from subtle words and strange attentions from people too far away from you to file a complaint...lol

This aint your grandmother and grandfather's vision of freedom of sexual expression in the public realm when the World Wide Web we weave if as dark and as dirty as we tip toe between TOS's and cultural blacklisting just for missing the meaning of a humorous statement at the wrong time. And not enough time to rewind and correct a outside observation and reply in their HO (humble/honest opinion)...

And our children are quickly aging just enough to want to know how to better do this kinky stuff us older folks seem to know a bit more of. And it's hard enough posting your real age. But when your real age becomes the fun age to put on a young persons page like 25, 35, 40ish or 88, it seems that by the time you find out how young these other profile people are and where they have run away from? It's hard to agree on good scene music when they have more songs on their iPod than you can remember good albums you used to listen too that sounds just like that...lol

And as I walk through a land that is more fantasy than reality per capita that the odds of being in a actual mixed crowd can be younger in age than in the ability to know how much more they could be doing if we were not cool enough to let them keep doing what they are doing and not trying to stop them from doing it wrong.


There is no right way.

But there has to be a better way for all of us to do these BDSM lifestyles WDWIITWD....

But this Metro shit is really hard to take when there are more Dominant masochist and submissive Sadist than their are people they like enough to get and idea of what they can deal with and deal with how it is in their street and in their style of life while others have no idea how valuable each person is to their social dynamic more than they are able to learn the one you live without having to write cliff notes for them to read as you flow together or not.

But what is really HAWT, is that somehow I can see a small place in black history for you and Me in the POC BDSM community.

And there is more than Me in this community that can be more expressive if it wasn't for our ability to communicate more civilly.

And I don't think none of yall are deep enough to really be feeling Me.

*pimpish grin*


And sometimes I sit back and think about the First Lady and The President in the White House getting kinky as they want to be.

And I want to be THAT kinky and still just who I be.


A POC in the BDSM lifestyle Community.



Without self-knowledge, we cannot go beyond the mind.

~J. Krishnamurti~



respect

Positive energy

The old folks used to say
"other than a few miracles, we all are just dirt and water"

Energy

The miracle we all posses but never learn to respect

The brain is a organ
The mind is created by our learned traits

So we have the power over our own bodies
Over our own thoughts
Over our own health
Over our own well beings

In theory

But how many people get any deeper into the many wonders of the brain, and how to better use your own mind in a positive manner?

Religion is not enough

So what more can you get into?

You talk about Karma Sutra and Tantra

You play with these lifestyles like they are mind games and freaky kinky things to get into when you are bored

You claim you know about the Egyptian and other Mythical cultures

You use symbols like
Yin yang
and many other eastern and western teachings

You claim that you can bone up on your chi and learn how to become more Zen

But how deep do you really get into it?

Why not?

Not enough time or guts to find something more that can assist you in your journey of self elevation

Yet you want what out of life?

Let's start off slow

Because most of you will never get any further than this:

Obtaining 'Positive Energy'

Methods To Get Body And Mind On A Healthy Track

If you find yourself always fighting off exhaustion and constantly in a rush, author Judith Orloff has written the perfect book for you: "Positive Energy." It offers advice for increasing vitality and happiness.

Orloff tells The Early Show co-anchor Harry Smith, “I believe there is an epidemic of exhaustion going around where so many are tired and tolerating it and don’t know what to do. I wrote the book to say we don’t have to feel that way.”

The author says she believes we all suffer from a lack of positive energy, because we are constantly bombarded with emails, cell phones, pagers and more, which causes people to feverishly work around the clock.

“We need more positive energy,” she says. “We need to turn the negative thoughts in our heads, when the fear comes up, when the lack of security comes up, replace those with positive thoughts and positive energy.”

She advises people to:

Live in the now
“The reason we get so exhausted is, our minds are way ahead of ourselves. Tune into the now,” she says. “Most people walk around in their head all the time but it’s about sensing things in your body, looking out at the beautiful flowers, looking up in the sky. Not rushing around so much that you forget to look at life.”

Observe masters of the moment
She explains, “Masters of the moment are people like Michelangelo or Yo-Yo Ma - people totally present in their bodies, with their music, with their passion. You want to emulate these people or watch babies and children. They’re in the moment. They’ve got this precious energy.”

Follow your breath
“It means don’t hold your breath,” she says. “Stop for a moment and breathe in and breathe out the tension. Breathe in clarity and light and gain to feel that centering. Throughout the day, you can do that many, many times.”

Check your pulse
She says, “You put your hand on your pulse. That’s your life force. That’s your pulse. As a physician, I learn to take the pulse all the time to see if someone is dead or alive. We can do that, too, to be in the moment, take our pulse, take a breath, and come back to the body. That replenishes our positive energy.”

Adopt a mantra
She explains a mantra is “a protective word, a sacred word. It could be anything like peace, Shalom, let it be.”

The two enemies of living in the now, she says are workaholism and energy vampires – “people who suck our energy dry to be around them. Their negative energy sucks us dry.”

The book is divided into 10 chapters. Each chapter represents a prescription to get your body and mind on a healthy track.

The 10 prescriptions are:

• Awaken Your Intuition And Rejuvenate Yourself
  
• Find A Nurturing Spiritual Path
  
• Design An Energy-Aware Approach To Diet, Fitness, And Health
  
• Generate Positive Emotional Energy To Counter Negativity
  
• Develop A Heart-Centered Sexuality
  
• Open Yourself To The Flow Of Inspiration And Creativity
  
• Celebrate The Sacredness Of Laughter, Pampering, And The Replenishment Of Retreat
  
• Attract Positive People And Situations
  
• Protect Yourself From Energy Vampires
  
• Create Abundance

Read an excerpt from "Positive Energy":

The First Prescription:
Awaken Intuition And Rejuvenate Yourself

Let me tell you a secret that will change your life.
It’s about energy, creativity, the rhythms of existence—how their compelling interconnection gives birth to an inner voice so sophisticated it’ll teach you to harness the positive and dispel negativity. Intuition brings magic to traditional wellness approaches, but also opens you to the intriguing realm of energy fields—vibes that radiate from people, places, plants, the night sky. Think of the contagious electric buzz of Tokyo or Rome; the mellow, cool groove of Coltrane’s sax; or the orgasmic surge of applause at Yankee Stadium when the home team wins. Each day you’ll encounter a wonderfully diverse but often unacknowledged range of energies. In this prescription you’ll see how intuition registers them and sharpens your sensitivity to your life force’s fire, showing ways to metabolize and protect it. By awakening your intuition, you can access your full energy. This is the true secret of secrets: I won’t be satisfied with anything less and hope you won’t either.

As a specialist in Energy Psychiatry, and personally, I worship my high-octane intuitions: I owe the blessing of becoming a physician to one. However, at twenty, when an unwavering inner voice told me I was going to medical school, it was the last thing I thought I wanted. Yes, I was the only child of two physician parents with twenty-five physicians in my family, from cancer researchers to gynecologists, a lineage I seemed ordained to join. But I’d never liked science, would get bored around my parents’ doctor friends. At the time I was a hippie living in an old converted brick Laundromat with my muralist boyfriend in Venice Beach. I worked in the May Company’s towel department. Still, as my intuition sank in, it gave me tremendous energy. So, dubiously, I enrolled in one course in a junior college just to see. One course became two, became . . . fourteen years of medical training—a trek that would’ve pushed Indiana Jones to the edge. But my intuition had staying power, provided all the oomph needed to propel me to my calling.

Similarly blessed, my patient Laura literally owes her life to an intuition about energy. A math teacher with moxie, at forty-five she began experiencing a terrible pounding in her ear, diagnosed by a top neurologist as a routine recurring migraine. Despite his reassurance, she kept feeling “an energy like a train roaring through my body screaming something was wrong.” As I heard the dire immediacy of this intuitive warning, I convulsed with chills. I was very afraid for Laura; she had to act. At my urging, Laura sought a second opinion.

I’m all for protesting when something doesn’t feel right. It’s foolish, even reckless to ignore such energy signals. An angiogram was ordered; dangerous blockages in her cerebral arteries were found. This new doctor told her: “The good news is you didn’t have a stroke or die. The bad news is you have fibromuscular dysplasia. You’ll need surgery to keep your arteries from collapsing.” Arteries collapsing? Of course, Laura was terrified, but also relieved to have a possible solution. Then, the medical machine kicked into high gear. Laura’s emergency brain surgery both cured her symptoms and saved her life. For a year, her angiograms have been fine. Now, Laura listens to her intuition like a fiend. She and her doctor agree: doubting it would have proven lethal.

In my Energy Psychiatry practice I advocate a “take no prisoners” style of intuition. This gut-centered voice is committed to your happiness, health, and survival. With practice, you can learn to tune into it. I want you to start listening. Really listening. I guarantee: your positive energy will grow. Why? You’ll be operating from a spot inside that’s juicy, core-felt, authentic—not from an impulse to conform or disown your strength. You won’t be seduced by what may look good but betrays your gut. Intuition is a truth detector. When you deviate even a nanofraction from your inner voice, your energy will wane, whether a subtle seepage or radical bottoming out. The more ferociously faithful you are to this truth, the more energized you’ll be.

Intuition offers a direct line to your life force and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. It’s the language of energy. You need to speak it to thrive, though our techno-crazed society doesn’t recognize this essential fact. At best it equates intuition with a woman’s trait (try telling that to Native American male shamans!). At worst, it’s considered a magic trick or fluff. No surprise there’s an epidemic of worn-down, confused people out there.

Our energy issues are solvable, but we can’t afford to remain deaf to intuition’s messages. Its expertise is energy; its job is to know every nuance of what makes you tick. A master at reading vibes, intuition is constantly tallying: what gives you positive energy, what dissipates it. Your intuition evaluates who you meet, where you go, your job, your family, current events—all crucial data this program will show you how to interpret and apply.

As an Energy Psychiatrist, I train patients and workshop participants to tune into vibes, a skill you’ll learn. I’ve watched thousands of people do it. Consider Gloria, who’s driven a sixteen-wheeler for thirty years: “I can sense the bad vibes of someone’s road rage and maneuver around the aggravation.” Or Janet, a homicide detective: “By shielding my energy, I’m not emotionally destroyed by gruesome crimes.” My friend serving in an elite naval team in Afghanistan told me, “An effective point man catfooting behind enemy lines has to use ‘Spidy Sense,’ like Spider-Man does. It means reading energy, attending to internal alarms beyond the five senses.” Whatever your field, you’ll benefit from intuiting energy too. Get ready to put the Positive Energy Program’s First Prescription into action.

Get in Sync with Your Life
Think of yourself as a spy whose mission is to detect how much in tune you really are with your life—the big picture and the details. Unlike more cerebral methods, intuition offers you the edge of having X-ray vision into all energy matters. Whether revealing the hard truth about toxic relationships, your exhaustion level, or a thankless job, intuition is always trying to communicate, though you may not hear. It resides in a quiet place obscured by the chatter of everyday thoughts. I will take you there.

Prepare to raise your antennae. You’re constantly having intuitions about energy, but may not realize it. Suddenly, bam! A gut feeling, goose bumps, or a flash affirm what fuels or depletes you. Intuitions can be positive. For instance, you’ll feel a burst of aliveness, clarity, or tension lifting about a new project. Or negative—your skin crawls or you wilt at the prospect of a sleazy business deal. In the Positive Energy Program, you’ll get in the habit of intuitively tracking your energy response. (Mine soars around full moons, puppies, and during uninterrupted days of writing alone, but shrinks at the thought of black-tie events, greasy food, and fast talkers.) As I do and teach my patients, you’ll identify information that zings and feels right. By noticing your energy’s fluctuations, you’ll get a jump on where you’re off-center—in relationships, health, and career—so you can change.

Intuition also involves picking up vibes. People and situations can give off welcoming positive energy that invigorates, or oppressive negative energy that repels. Our colloquial language reflects these intuitions. One patient affectionately calls his gangly, six-foot-five brother a “tall drink of water”; another says, “My boss shoots daggers with his eyes.” Sensing vibes provides instinctual gauges of your comfort level.

Techniques for Sensing Positive and Negative Energy

In the mid-eighties when I’d just begun to expand my traditional psychiatric practice to include intuition and energy, I did plenty of experimenting. My good buddy for the first few years of this exploration was Michael Crichton, filmmaker, author, and Harvard M.D. A towering six foot nine, Michael has a wicked mix of intellect and humor with a cynical edge. For me, he was the perfect companion to investigate a dimension of health I’d never heard of in medical school: our body’s subtle energy system.

My world has never been the same; this was my initiation into Energy Psychiatry. I want to share with you our discoveries, and what I’ve been learning since. Being able to sense and direct our life force gets positive energy going: we exude it, attract it, and can read it in others. Our subtle system is the engine that drives well-being. Acupuncture activates energy by placing tiny needles in meridian points in the body. So does exchanging good vibes with people. First, I’ll teach you what energy feels like, a sublime experience that intuition conveys. You may perceive it as colors, light, or positive and negative vibes. This program makes real for you what Energy Psychiatry is based on: that our bodies and spirits are microsystems of energy, and that health is about balance, which intuition helps us achieve.

Friends can be the best coconspirators in charting the unknown. Michael and I set out to experience energy, a real adventure given our “rational” medical backgrounds. We were the blind leading the blind, but so curious. Here’s what we did, an exercise you’ll try later: I’d lie on my back on the floor as Michael placed his palm about two feet from my head. Slowly he’d edge closer until he described feeling “a distinct contour of warmth” inches above me—the halo depicted in sacred art. We all have halos, not just angels. Michael used the same sensing technique to outline my energy field from head to toe. Starting a few feet away, he’d move his palm nearer until he definitely felt warmth, tingling, quivering or pressure, marking an invisible energy border inches to a foot from my body. Then we’d switch places, and I’d practice with him. Michael describes this process in his autobiography, Travels: “I was terrifically excited like a kid with a new toy, a new discovery I didn’t think about, I just kept doing it. I could feel this warm contour just as distinctly as you can feel hot bath water when you put your hand into it.”

As part of the First Prescription, I’d like you to try sensing energy too. This is important because the energy that people exude can profoundly influence your health and mood. Once you know how to read it, you’ll better determine who nurtures or saps you. Practice with a friend: be playful. See how his or her energy feels.

Make Changes Now
Experience Energy Through Body Scanning at Home

Sit beside your friend as she lies on her back on the floor or a bed. Together, take a few deep, calming breaths. Once relaxed, observe your friend’s eyes, hair, clothes, then look further. Picture a capsule of light surrounding her body, what Carlos Castaneda calls “a luminous egg.” This is the energy you’re going to intuitively sense.

Start by cupping your hand a few feet over her head. Then slowly come closer. With the palm as your sensing device, notice a point at which you hit a subtle border of heat, coolness, pressure, a hum or vibration—the outer rim of her energy field. Raise your hand, then lower it against the rim until you’re sure. It’s all about feel. You also may see colors. Similarly, continue to map the subtle energy around her entire body, without touching the skin.

When you’re finished, it’s your friend’s turn. Then compare notes.

What a hoot to realize we are more than our physical selves! Each of us radiates a palpable energy. In practical terms: Have you ever sat next to someone at a luncheon and were drawn to her immediately? It wasn’t so much what she said or did, but how refreshing she felt to be around. Or how about that coworker who seemed congenial, but you always left a conversation feeling run down? We are medicine for each other, sometimes good, sometimes bad. An exchange occurs whenever you interact with someone.

Certain people give off positive energy, others negative. It’s the quality of someone’s being, a measure of the love with which they’ve led their lives. It also reflects the inner work they’ve done, their efforts to heal anger, hatred, or self-loathing, which poison us like toxic fumes. Energetically these linger, precluding joy from shining through. It’s important to grasp, however, that once you undertake the process of healing, it changes the quality of even the negativity that remains. Don’t be too hard on yourself—we’re all works in progress.

Signs of Positive Energy in People

They exude an inviting sense of heart, compassion, and support.

You intuitively feel safe, relaxed, wanting to get closer.

They emanate a peaceful glow.

You feel better around them. Your energy and optimism increase.

Signs of Negative Energy in People

You experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted, or attacked.

You intuitively feel unsafe, tense, or on guard.

You sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can’t wait to get away from them.

Your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill.

Beginning to differentiate these energies, I was able to name something I’d always intuited: why as a child, within seconds of meeting someone, I knew whether or not I liked them. This knowing wasn’t about looks or how nice a person seemed. Rather, I could sense invisible tendrils reaching out to me from a person that transmitted information about them. It would happen before we exchanged a word. The confusing part for us is that people aren’t always as they appear. Sensing energy reveals a fuller picture. I don’t care how intelligent or attractive someone is on paper, if he zaps your energy, he isn’t for you. True chemistry is more than intellectual compatibility. Beyond surfaces, you must be intuitively at ease.

Make Changes Now
Experience Energy Through Body Scanning In The World

You can practice sensing positive and negative energy everywhere. Have fun. See what you find. The secret is to stand within two feet of someone—whether a coworker or shopper in the mall—and notice how he or she feels. Ask yourself: Am I attracted? Repelled? Unsettled or at ease? Honestly assess: Do I feel more robust or worn out?
Establish a baseline for each person. You’ll quickly know who nurtures you. If a loved one is in an arduous phase, try to cut him some slack. But also pinpoint those who consistently drag you down. Then, with a more realistic understanding, you can take better care of yourself.

I’m a big fan of being proactive in generating positive energy. The First Prescription’s formula for success: Do whatever makes your inner light brighter. In other words, try to treat yourself and everyone else with love. It’s a constant process of tuning in: finding people who support your spirit, trusting your gut-centered decisions to guide you. Then you won’t end up in a relationship that looks right but feels wrong. Or miss the chance to meet a loving man or woman because he or she doesn’t fit some preconception. When you’re with trying people, aim for the high road; find common ground rather than inflame negativity (more to come in Chapter 4). The care with which you approach life is intuitively evident in your energy field. We can feel each other’s love: that’s the great attraction. Spread openheartedness around. Stay true to your intuition. Your positive energy will blossom.

Intuitive Empathy: How to Stay Open and not Absorb Negativity

In Energy Psychiatry, my patients use intuition to understand their energetic health, and also to scrutinize their reactions to positive and negative vibes. So much happens to us that remains subliminal—the smile of a coworker; witnessing a devastating three-car pile-up while driving to work; the sight of children skating on Christmas Eve in Rockefeller Plaza—all pass through our consciousness so fast we may miss how each registers. Intuition is a master at bringing our attention to interactions, large and subtle, that modulate our energy.

For many patients and myself, staying receptive to positive energy has been the easy part. This openness I adore lets me live with more gratitude—for intimates, but also for Rick, my wisecracking Bronx-born plumber, and Khalsa, the white-turbaned mail carrier who, rain or shine, delivers packages to my door. The energetic quality of all our connections matter. Every moment seems wildly extravagant. Sipping morning coffee or gazing at the galaxies above, appreciation of positive energy instills wonder in the days we so casually inhabit.

For me, negative energy has taken more getting used to. An intuitive empath as a child, I was so attuned to people’s feelings, positive and negative, that I unknowingly absorbed them. Normally, when you have empathy, your heart goes out to someone in distress. When you’re an intuitive empath, you take on their tribulations. If a friend was upset or physically hurting, in a flash her discomfort would lodge in my body. As I’ve explained, crowded places intensified my empathy. Whereas shopping malls are havens for some, for me they were war zones: I was bombarded by the swarms of people, but couldn’t explain why. An angst-sucking sponge, I coped by shutting down. A teenager in the sixties, I numbed myself for a few years by taking drugs. Finally a wise therapist referred me to a UCLA lab that studied intuition, where I could meet other empaths. What a relief not to feel so out of control or alone. With their support, I developed ways to handle my empathy, to see it as a potent type of intuition, an asset.

Excerpted from Positive Energy by Judith Orloff, M.D. Copyright © 2004 by Judith Orloff, M.D.. Excerpted by permission of Harmony, a division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

For more information and lecture schedule: www.drjudithorloff.com

This is just one article that I could post
Because I know that many of you have no love of long post
No matter what the content

So I will try to keep it brief
But why?

We posses the power in ourselves to cure anything that is in us
and of us

But only by our faith and positive energy
So why do so many suffer?

Maybe it's because they don't notice how they cling to negative energy

You don't want to know any better!

You see me state on my profile that I am a
Ghetto Sufi Master in training

But most only see the ghetto

And that's cool

Weak people fall for weak game

But when you find that your life is more out of control than you have a clue how to get a better understanding or control over it?

You have only two choices

Learn more
or
Live as you are
Right now

These lifestyles are only starting points to enlightenment

But most never get past the sex

Because sex is a drug

And many will never understand my reasons for the use of the word
RESPECT

Because you are not ready to find out more

Your lives are just fine as they are

It's too much work to change

But maybe a simple prayer will help

"Let’s make a prayer: As one family, hearts joined, let’s keep saying a prayer for the world: “May our people and planet be healthy. May our people and planet be happy. May suffering be lifted. May we know enduring peace.”

But when you get up off your knees?

It's time to put your words into action

If you are ready to change

Because we all deserve



respect

Has the internet changed our faith or our failure to be content?

I don't think we can blame the internet. That's too easy!

I think we give the internet too much credit for what WE DO. Or should I say what people on the internet are doing that is causing a unfair social condition in people who now are using the internet.

People are blaming the internet for their own abuse of such a powerful tool. Where in fact it is masses of people who are changing their own fate by the misuse of this powerful tool.

At one point these lifestyles were more private and not available to everyone to just explore out of boredom and lust for something new and exciting. People had to make physical contact and then communicate with each other before entering these many acts of these lifestyles. And that took trust and planning and respect in whom invites them into their realm of life and lifestyle. So learning of these lifestyles were not descriptive and instructional as they have become now on the internet.

Also, the internet created the ability to abuse basic reality. So people could be whoever they choose to be and gave people the ability to hide behind images and words that in person may not reflect the reality of truth as to who and how they really are. So people on the internet changed their basic morality as to fairness and responsibility to be open and truthful as to who they are and what they are about.

And internet sites and communities became open for corruption of intent. And people started to change the way they related to others and the amount of choices they have available. And the Bootycall was invented and the dating scene changed people and the way they treated others. And people became more blinded by a reality that had too many choices and too many options to devote to any chance acquaintance they made. And greed and confusion became more of a temptation as the internet became more available to masses of new people who found it easier to chat and search for anything and anyone they stumbled upon. And drama became a new word for unstable realities and a lack of the ability to communicate and be honest.

Thus, these lifestyles began to also suffer from mass abuse of honor and trust. And THAT is what so many claim they are lacking in being able to respect these relationship based lifestyles.

And people who NOW treat the internet as a means of communication have lost the ability to communicate and relate to others all because so many people abuse this realm of communication and exploration. And it has become too easy to loose sight of what they are searching for and why.

So now we try to blame the internet for causing the corruption of masses of people who now are not able to form stable friendships and fruitful relationships when in fact each person has no idea how so many people have changed the way they live and relate to each other respectfully.

So we can't out of all fairness blame the internet because it is just a means of communication and exploration.

We have to blame ourselves for loosing our own ability to respect each other as people who deserve the same. And we have all become addicted to not just choices that the internet offers everyone, but our addiction to finding better choices at a click of a mouse. Thus we now have lost our faith in our own reality. And it has become too easy to make the wrong choices of what we desire over the possibilities that something else or someone else is just advertising a better product or promise of being just what we need. So we have now become unstable people with too many choices and too many options that are possible.

And nobody wants to take the blame for having lost their faith to the internet. Because we are just simple people with too many choices to make just ONE and stick with it long enough to respect it.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the screen.

And these lifestyles are not unstable temptations caused by too many people being able to indulge in whatever they find interesting.

We just don't want to respect that other people are addicted to the internet and what it offers. Just as we are addicted to false advertisement for the need for something we can't have.

And that is a life that is not based on what we do online but what we have truthfully offline that is worth more than a better advertisement.

That's why we have more people in the history of this country that are single and looking for someone as a life partner or people who are just looking for something better to do with their lives that they see advertised.

These lifestyles are relationship based sexual lifestyles that were made to enhance what we choose to respect. And the only thing we respect is our connection speed and greed.

 
respect

Sex is a drug that is in need of more respect than a nutt! Know the difference?

YOU CAN CHANGE WHATEVER IS WITHIN YOU!

But first you have to do more than ask questions and consider yourself doomed to what you may find around you to be failure and pain.

It's really a bit more basic. Just as the laws of attraction and the understandings who you are and what is within you to control. And until you better find ownership of your own inner being and a better control of said being? You will not be more able to defend your own self from what you FEEL to be...

Chakras are a great place to start as well as meditation.

Understanding that the energy that flows within all of us is absorbed and transmitted from 7 points in our body that are not physically seen. Chakras are where your hidden powers reside.

Find them.

Learn what they are and what they do.

Condition them by owning them first and then controlling the flow and transmission of them.

The mind is not the ONLY point that controls your emotions or desires.

But the mind is the sum of all 7 points and not the organ in your head.

Try this site and then find others to better explain these 7 points of your mind and where they are.

http://www.sacredcenters.com/chakras

Chakra Seven: Sahasrara

Thought, Universal identity, oriented to self-knowledge

This is the crown chakra that relates to consciousness as pure awareness. It is our connection to the greater world beyond, to a timeless, spaceless place of all-knowing. When developed, this chakra brings us knowledge, wisdom, understanding, spiritual connection, and bliss.

Chakra Six: Ajna

Light, Archetypal identity, oriented to self-reflection

This chakra is known as the brow chakra or third eye center. It is related to the act of seeing, both physically and intuitively. As such it opens our psychic faculties and our understanding of archetypal levels. When healthy it allows us to see clearly, in effect, letting us “see the big picture.”

Chakra Five: Vishuddha

Sound, Creative identity, oriented to self-expression

This is the chakra located in the throat and is thus related to communication and creativity. Here we experience the world symbolically through vibration, such as the vibration of sound representing language.

Chakra Four: Anahata

Air, Social identity, oriented to self-acceptance

This chakra is called the heart chakra and is the middle chakra in a system of seven. It is related to love and is the integrator of opposites in the psyche: mind and body, male and female, persona and shadow, ego and unity. A healthy fourth chakra allows us to love deeply, feel compassion, have a deep sense of peace and centeredness.

Chakra Three: Manipura

Fire, Ego identity, oriented to self-definition

This chakra is known as the power chakra, located in the solar plexus. It rules our personal power, will, and autonomy, as well as our metabolism. When healthy, this chakra brings us energy, effectiveness, spontaneity, and non-dominating power.

Chakra Two: Svadhisthana

Water, Emotional identity, oriented to self-gratification

The second chakra, located in the abdomen, lower back, and sexual organs, is related to the element water, and to emotions and sexuality. It connects us to others through feeling, desire, sensation, and movement. Ideally this chakra brings us fluidity and grace, depth of feeling, sexual fulfillment, and the ability to accept change.

Chakra One: Muladhara

Earth, Physical identity, oriented to self-preservation

Located at the base of the spine, this chakra forms our foundation. It represents the element earth, and is therefore related to our survival instincts, and to our sense of grounding and connection to our bodies and the physical plane. Ideally this chakra brings us health, prosperity, security, and dynamic presence.

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So now, think of how easy it is to better control them and keep them healthy by meditation, exorcise and respect.

Your emotions do NOT come from your brain or any other organ other than the 7 points within your spiritual body. But more directly from the first 3 lower chakras in your body. The others are just as connected but all have different uses and powers as well.

So what I'm saying here is...

No matter how fucked up you may feel. You are alive.

Others around you may never understand what I am speaking of.

But that is no excuse for you to allow them to be blamed for your emotions and your mental health.

Start there first.

And ease up on the desire to look for pleasure to sooth your boredom.

Sex is also a drug if you do not respect the power it creates within you and the others around you.

You can not protect yourself from negative energy if you don't know what it is or what it aint.

Everything around you has both polarities.

Learn to choose more wisely.

And to treat your mind and body better and you will feel better, even when the shit hits the fan. At least you will know how better to define your own worth.

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How much old heritage can we apply to todays new reality out of respect for what it was?

The passing of the torch to a new generation.

How much of the past is relevant to what is available to us in the future?

Our history has been paved with good intentions.


But here's something that I have been entertaining in My head about this subject as of late...

My Brother spoke of a OATH and Promise of passing on what has been given to the Elders before us about these traditions and lessons of conditioning and respect for these styles of lifestyles that many of us now find more in open view for all to find and use for our cultural needs as who we have been in the past to be where we are right now.

But what I find to be a difficult twist to have to now reflect out of respect for our reality more than the expectations of a certain ORDER and PROTOCOL that our elders have been blessed with the duty of passing on to the next generations to come.

But THIS has been the FIRST year that I have found there is now a few twist that even our elders never foresaw.

First is membership and inclusion.

NOW, we are all faced with a conflict with the options offered by our past laws respected by our elders. That conflict first becomes as simple as our new realty.

I remember having several debates and conversations with many others including many of our respectable elders who boldly stated a reality that we as of this year are faced with a exception that was never offered. That option was the understand that as long as we are black or POCs in America. We will NEVER see in OUR LIFETIME a black or POC become elected to become the FIRST black and POC president of THIS country. And I remember hearing them honestly admit that this country is NOT ready to handle that kind of new found respect for their content of character and not the color of their creed.

They said humbly that we can not feel all is lost while we have to respect that NOT IN OUR LIFETIME will our people as well as America as a whole will NOT allow that image to exist without a severe revolt from the masses who have been conditioned to not allow such a reality to become our history.

And when I think back to many of the times I have had to respect My elders faith over their fantasies of a impossible prediction.

But look at us today.

We still have a Black or POC President of this country!

But we Never have been prepared for this amount of evolution into what we now are faced with as a country as a whole.

Not just black and POCs who have been defined as too unstable of a mentality as a people to not overly abuse our new found freedom and foundation from where we have come from our American past history.

And even non black and POC type Americans are suffering from a self imposed fear of the possibilities of a reality of others knowledge of the character of people they have been raised thus far to believe blacks and POCs are able to respectfully honor as NOW full members of this countries dynamic that was never expected to EVER become this multi racial and civil.

And this is the FIRST twist in a reality that non of our elders expected was in need of being more trained and prepared to not just respect but to honor without fear of being bamboozled by the "other man" who has grown to believe that our genetic structure as a race can not be trusted with such a responsibility when we have been persecuted so severe enough to expect a back lash because we may not receive reparations for past suffering of others who have now grown out of the need to be entitled as a oppressor.

And EVERYTHING right now is too extremely different from where our elders were conditioned to respect for the need of our own protocols and previsions custom made for what our race had been defined as.

But that slight reality and change of reality as we know it now has changed EVERYTHING that was made to not belittle our people as they have become.

So while I desire to honor My elders.

I am now stuck with a NEW reality. And I as well as everyone else in this country are also suffering from a unexpected twist in fate that has not fueled our fears that were once taught to be a need for caution as to how possible for blacks and POCs to become productive partners of the American way...

So that first reality is becoming a difficult twist in fate and reality to justify some of the customs that are put in place to better prepare our people to become more respectable citizens of a country that was formed under the reality of that time in history as a reason to consider the ability for blacks and POCs to become just as much of responsible and respectable partners in this countries importances.

Now...

The next image I wish to paint is something else that has not been considered as a need to be better prepared for being more free as a character of people as a whole from many others in our past who never saw the evolution of the blacks and POCs being able to not just mix or melt into one country undivided but the ability for us to genetically become considered equal.

But we are not just free. We are overly exposed to the same new reality and freedom that everyone has not found within the WORLD WIDE WEB.

So how do we now teach a tradition that was passed down from our elders when these new blacks and POCs are faced with a freedom that has just become not just a new reality but has become a contradiction to a rule that was shamefully taught to everyone at a point in American history.

So now comes the twist.

We as older adults who have had some education offered to us by our elders of our past generations and cultures.

How ready are we to be able to deal with being able to offer JUST WHAT the younger generation may desire to learn without having to deal with your conditioning of that past protocol of crawling before we walk when these new generations are faced with a reality that has never existed before in our genetic reality as a whole.

Meaning?

If you find yourself being questioned by a younger generation that wants to better learn how to respect the beauty of what these lifestyles have to offer all of us as responsible adults, because they want to also respect their heritage and add their own style to what they already have been told is the ugly truth about what black people and POCs are capable of dealing with after all the abuse they have recorded as such.

But what about generation X,Y, and Z as well as these newly free babyboomer adults that are now finding themselves back into the populace of adluts just because they have found them selves of sound mind and body at a older age than they have been taught was possible.

So what do you offer someone who May not want to respect the structure of OLD GUARD protocols and mentalities that are out of date as a reality of what we are and what we have a options as who we are now in reality compared to what have been understood as what we can be if we are offered a fair equality as American people and now un_evolved animals and natives.

So if a young adult wishes to learn more about these traditions and cultural protocols of a different breed of human than what they have learned they are, but they don't want to respect everything they feel does not apply to their character. So all they want is a few pointers as a structure and not a all or nothing clause of what they have to be in order to be respected today as they reinvent their new dynamic as they are blessed to freely explore.

Like sex, and non emotional sexual conduct between casual partners without being shun for disrespecting the morality we have been raised with from our elders. So trying to tell them in their dynamic that they CAN NOT reinvent their own style or path without following a set of rules that were never considered the possibilities of being more free as a people than we have ever been in our American history.

So while we have been given a certain structure of conduct and morality to be our guide as blacks and POCs? We are faced with considering some of our customs taught by our elders to be out dated if not redefined due to our drastic sift in reality of whom we all are and who we are not.

So can people who have been taught a certain format that now has changed by our new reality of todays freedoms as a people?

Or are we faced with a struggle of not being as stuck as our elders of the past had no insight enough to expect a new image of who we are today as a people compared to what we had no ability to predict this amount of change.

We are not just stuck with the options that have been basic laws of reality. But we are now a bit too free to explore the amount of options that were in the past told is too much for our people to respectfully respect.

So how do you assist someone from the hip hop generation who wants to custom make a respectable lifestyle that has never been open to exploration as a whole?

Can the old guard learn from a new generation how to better live a new freedom that was never allowed to entertain?

That depends on our ability to adjust our own laws of morality as it pertains to our races of people who now are not prevented from exploring new options of a new reality.

This is NOT our grandparents lifestyle anymore.

So how can we respect our heritage without feeling that we are not the same type people as many of the people in the past have grown to respect as the way it is and who we are rather we like it or not.


That is our issue today.

And that is no easy task.

Explaining to the newer generation what they have today as better options than we have ever had in our American history.


How do we PIMP our lifestyle without offending the older generation who have deep seated issues with the use of the word PIMP as well as honor our ability to honor these lifestyles that have been examples of a little of the old with new adjustments pending.

All of this is too new to risk being too new to share a honor worth being connected to our own past.

But it is now what it is now.


We got work to do. And we may be the ones who need to learn what today is that is not what we were or were not.




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