Showing posts with label reality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reality. Show all posts

Friday, December 25, 2009

How much old heritage can we apply to todays new reality out of respect for what it was?


The passing of the torch to a new generation.

How much of the past is relevant to what is available to us in the future?

Our history has been paved with good intentions.


But here's something that I have been entertaining in My head about this subject as of late...

My Brother spoke of a OATH and Promise of passing on what has been given to the Elders before us about these traditions and lessons of conditioning and respect for these styles of lifestyles that many of us now find more in open view for all to find and use for our cultural needs as who we have been in the past to be where we are right now.

But what I find to be a difficult twist to have to now reflect out of respect for our reality more than the expectations of a certain ORDER and PROTOCOL that our elders have been blessed with the duty of passing on to the next generations to come.

But THIS has been the FIRST year that I have found there is now a few twist that even our elders never foresaw.

First is membership and inclusion.

NOW, we are all faced with a conflict with the options offered by our past laws respected by our elders. That conflict first becomes as simple as our new realty.

I remember having several debates and conversations with many others including many of our respectable elders who boldly stated a reality that we as of this year are faced with a exception that was never offered. That option was the understand that as long as we are black or POCs in America. We will NEVER see in OUR LIFETIME a black or POC become elected to become the FIRST black and POC president of THIS country. And I remember hearing them honestly admit that this country is NOT ready to handle that kind of new found respect for their content of character and not the color of their creed.

They said humbly that we can not feel all is lost while we have to respect that NOT IN OUR LIFETIME will our people as well as America as a whole will NOT allow that image to exist without a severe revolt from the masses who have been conditioned to not allow such a reality to become our history.

And when I think back to many of the times I have had to respect My elders faith over their fantasies of a impossible prediction.

But look at us today.

We still have a Black or POC President of this country!

But we Never have been prepared for this amount of evolution into what we now are faced with as a country as a whole.

Not just black and POCs who have been defined as too unstable of a mentality as a people to not overly abuse our new found freedom and foundation from where we have come from our American past history.

And even non black and POC type Americans are suffering from a self imposed fear of the possibilities of a reality of others knowledge of the character of people they have been raised thus far to believe blacks and POCs are able to respectfully honor as NOW full members of this countries dynamic that was never expected to EVER become this multi racial and civil.

And this is the FIRST twist in a reality that non of our elders expected was in need of being more trained and prepared to not just respect but to honor without fear of being bamboozled by the "other man" who has grown to believe that our genetic structure as a race can not be trusted with such a responsibility when we have been persecuted so severe enough to expect a back lash because we may not receive reparations for past suffering of others who have now grown out of the need to be entitled as a oppressor.

And EVERYTHING right now is too extremely different from where our elders were conditioned to respect for the need of our own protocols and previsions custom made for what our race had been defined as.

But that slight reality and change of reality as we know it now has changed EVERYTHING that was made to not belittle our people as they have become.

So while I desire to honor My elders.

I am now stuck with a NEW reality. And I as well as everyone else in this country are also suffering from a unexpected twist in fate that has not fueled our fears that were once taught to be a need for caution as to how possible for blacks and POCs to become productive partners of the American way...

So that first reality is becoming a difficult twist in fate and reality to justify some of the customs that are put in place to better prepare our people to become more respectable citizens of a country that was formed under the reality of that time in history as a reason to consider the ability for blacks and POCs to become just as much of responsible and respectable partners in this countries importances.

Now...

The next image I wish to paint is something else that has not been considered as a need to be better prepared for being more free as a character of people as a whole from many others in our past who never saw the evolution of the blacks and POCs being able to not just mix or melt into one country undivided but the ability for us to genetically become considered equal.

But we are not just free. We are overly exposed to the same new reality and freedom that everyone has not found within the WORLD WIDE WEB.

So how do we now teach a tradition that was passed down from our elders when these new blacks and POCs are faced with a freedom that has just become not just a new reality but has become a contradiction to a rule that was shamefully taught to everyone at a point in American history.

So now comes the twist.

We as older adults who have had some education offered to us by our elders of our past generations and cultures.

How ready are we to be able to deal with being able to offer JUST WHAT the younger generation may desire to learn without having to deal with your conditioning of that past protocol of crawling before we walk when these new generations are faced with a reality that has never existed before in our genetic reality as a whole.

Meaning?

If you find yourself being questioned by a younger generation that wants to better learn how to respect the beauty of what these lifestyles have to offer all of us as responsible adults, because they want to also respect their heritage and add their own style to what they already have been told is the ugly truth about what black people and POCs are capable of dealing with after all the abuse they have recorded as such.

But what about generation X,Y, and Z as well as these newly free babyboomer adults that are now finding themselves back into the populace of adluts just because they have found them selves of sound mind and body at a older age than they have been taught was possible.

So what do you offer someone who May not want to respect the structure of OLD GUARD protocols and mentalities that are out of date as a reality of what we are and what we have a options as who we are now in reality compared to what have been understood as what we can be if we are offered a fair equality as American people and now un_evolved animals and natives.

So if a young adult wishes to learn more about these traditions and cultural protocols of a different breed of human than what they have learned they are, but they don't want to respect everything they feel does not apply to their character. So all they want is a few pointers as a structure and not a all or nothing clause of what they have to be in order to be respected today as they reinvent their new dynamic as they are blessed to freely explore.

Like sex, and non emotional sexual conduct between casual partners without being shun for disrespecting the morality we have been raised with from our elders. So trying to tell them in their dynamic that they CAN NOT reinvent their own style or path without following a set of rules that were never considered the possibilities of being more free as a people than we have ever been in our American history.

So while we have been given a certain structure of conduct and morality to be our guide as blacks and POCs? We are faced with considering some of our customs taught by our elders to be out dated if not redefined due to our drastic sift in reality of whom we all are and who we are not.

So can people who have been taught a certain format that now has changed by our new reality of todays freedoms as a people?

Or are we faced with a struggle of not being as stuck as our elders of the past had no insight enough to expect a new image of who we are today as a people compared to what we had no ability to predict this amount of change.

We are not just stuck with the options that have been basic laws of reality. But we are now a bit too free to explore the amount of options that were in the past told is too much for our people to respectfully respect.

So how do you assist someone from the hip hop generation who wants to custom make a respectable lifestyle that has never been open to exploration as a whole?

Can the old guard learn from a new generation how to better live a new freedom that was never allowed to entertain?

That depends on our ability to adjust our own laws of morality as it pertains to our races of people who now are not prevented from exploring new options of a new reality.

This is NOT our grandparents lifestyle anymore.

So how can we respect our heritage without feeling that we are not the same type people as many of the people in the past have grown to respect as the way it is and who we are rather we like it or not.


That is our issue today.

And that is no easy task.

Explaining to the newer generation what they have today as better options than we have ever had in our American history.


How do we PIMP our lifestyle without offending the older generation who have deep seated issues with the use of the word PIMP as well as honor our ability to honor these lifestyles that have been examples of a little of the old with new adjustments pending.

All of this is too new to risk being too new to share a honor worth being connected to our own past.

But it is now what it is now.


We got work to do. And we may be the ones who need to learn what today is that is not what we were or were not.




respect

My Sundays...




respect

Monday, September 29, 2008

Help I'm stuck and I don't wanna stop...lol

Stuck





lawd


This lifestyle got me stuck between a rock and a hard dick


*snicker*


because I am sick of the normal bullshit


Of cat and mouse





I got a house


More like a condo


Ok


A room


With 9 walls


I call the Pimp Palace





A training post where I do the most


And host the brave and bewildered


Confused and horny


Never a day bore me





Because this lifestyle is a part of me


The heart of me





Finding new ways to define this world of mine


Learning how to respect the time


With no rhythm to the rhyme





I gets mine


And do just fine


But I'm stuck


Like Chuck on the back of a kinky truck


Suck


stuck play_w2("S0822000") (stk)
v.
Past tense and past participle of stick.

Stuck


stuck
Verb
the past of stick2
Adjective
1. Informal baffled by a problem or unable to find an answer to a question
2. be stuck on Slang to feel a strong attraction to; be infatuated with
3. get stuck in Informal to perform a task with determination



Suck


Adj. 1. stuck - caught or fixed; "stuck in the mud"
unstuck - free; "a man with a mule got my car unstuck"; "the gears locked in second and would not come unstuck"



2. stuck - baffled; "this problem has me completely stuck"
colloquialism - a colloquial expression; characteristic of spoken or written communication that seeks to imitate informal speech
perplexed - full of difficulty or confusion or bewilderment; "perplexed language"; "perplexed state of the world"



Stuck


stuck
adjective 1. fastened, fast, fixed, joined, glued, cemented
adjective 2. trapped, caught, ensnared
adjective 3. burdened, saddled, lumbered, landed, loaded, encumbered
adjective 4. (Informal) baffled, stumped, at a loss, beaten, nonplussed, at a standstill, bereft of ideas, up against a brick wall (informal) at your wits' end be stuck on something or someone (Slang) infatuated with, obsessed with, keen on, enthusiastic about, mad about, wild about (informal) hung up on (slang) crazy about, for, or over (informal) get stuck into something (Informal) set about, tackle, get down to, make a start on, take the bit between your teeth



There is power in words


Power is the use of words


Power in the definition of words





And I respect that





That's why I say I'm stuck





Like I can't get out of these ways


I can't ignore these days





Because these ways pays


In more ways


It stays


True to what you do


If you respect what you do


And stay true


To being stuck


In too deep


To creep back to the vanilla


I wish I will a way the way these ways pays


*snicker*





If you honor what you are and what you are not


Even if you forgot


Some of the rules to live by


I can't see why


These lifestyles can't improve more than just your sex life





But you have to have your head on right


Not just for a night


But tight


And ready to fight


For a better outcome


Even if you are not the one


You can be THAT ONE


And have some fun


Even when the fun is done


At least you had some





But to be stuck


Is the best poor excuse for giving a fuck


About doing more than fucking





This is adult parenthood


It can do any relationship some good


Not just the kinky brother and sisterhood


But even the people who should


Know how to grow


But alittle slow in the how department


Any part meant something more to masses


Who want to stay normal asses


But want to grasp this thing we get into a bit deeper





These lessons can help you keep her


Or keep him longer with honor


And not see a weak connection as a goner








So I'm stuck in one direction


I seek more protection


More construction


And less destruction





From idle misdirected seduction





Because I'm stuck wanting to do this a better way


Than any old way


I want to say


I am SSC everyday


In every way


All day





Even when I know it's hard to stay


Stuck





For learning how to get these lifestyles right


For getting my game tight


For getting through the bad nights


For surviving the bad fights





And enjoying more time to play


In a SSC way





I stuck


Trying to keep it real





But you know the deal


Some people would beg, borrow, and steal


Than be real


About the way we feel





About being stuck


Giving a fuck


About these sexual lifestyles





And how they these sexual lifestyles can add conformity


And respect for some normalcy





In my reality


In what ever style I wanna be





Stuck





Just being me















respect

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Total Power to exchange. The Dominant POC style of the lifestyle

Many of us play with these lifestyles in our everyday lives
But life is not always something to play with
When you play with others

And the ONLY way you can play in this lifestyle is with others

Or not!

And the most important act shared in these lifestyles is
TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE

An early use of the term "total power exchange" occurred in the newsgroup alt.sex.bondage on February 3rd, 1995 by Jon Jacobs.[1], who wrote of his "...contention that total power exchange is possible and, apparently, that the play-party paradigm is not real power exchange."

A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE.
Jacobs preferred to use the phrase absolute power exchange (APE), but both terms continued to be problematic for some people, including many who pursue these types of relationship, since the relationship is subject to the physical and the emotional limitations of the participants and therefore cannot genuinely be total or absolute. Partly as a result of these objections, the term internal enslavement (IE) was first used 2000 to better describe the state of mind of these kinds of "consensual slaves"

Maybe this is TOO simple a definition?

Especially for People Of Color
In a American upbringing

I'm speaking of a mass amount of people in this country
Who are able to explore sexual freedoms
For the first time in this countries history

So POCs first need to define their own
Power Of Control
And how to respect it's freedoms
In todays New World
In order for the ages to better respect the need for SSC

And that should apply to Every type of sexual freedom
Today

But I digress

POWER

People of color know a great deal about the way the words makes them feel
But they have seldom felt real power

In BDSM, the term power exchange refers to a relationship or activity in which the submissive partner exchanges his or her authority to make decisions for the dominant partner's agreement to take responsibility for the submissive's happiness and health. This can occur for any duration, according to the agreement of the participants, ranging from a single scene, to a proscribed period of hours, days or weeks, to a 24 hour a day agreement with no termination date.

On a psychological level, much BDSM "play" involves power and dominance, in particular power exchange, with one person willingly handing over personal autonomy. This can range from addressing another person as "master" or "mistress" for a ten-minute scene, to a witnessed, formal collaring with a lifelong agreement which micro-manages the submissive's life.

...
(personal sidebar)





"In 1963 on the March On Washington
My Mother pushed Me through the crowd to hear MLK speek
And he spoke

"1963 is not a end, but a beginning..."

And for the FIRST time in the history of People Of Color
We had hope that freedom was just over that mountain top
And it was
It was 2008

And so many things are so different
Sexually
We are still in shock
Culture Shock
Not personally but generally

POWER TO THE PEOPLE!

Even Moses people are more free today than ever in history
We got BET and MTV

But sexually?

We have not been free long enough to be this free with everybody

And that is what it means to be free
Sexually

And there is a lot of
Sex in the City
But in the country and the community
We still don't know how to be free civilly

All of this new open sexuality
Is new for a few of you and Me

And TPE
Is a mystery

As a POC
Looking for respect as they try to protect their own sexuality
In a community in it's infancy

But what about us?

All of us

Not just the kinky and the think they kinky
But the lurkers of the community
The ones who want to be
SSC
As a
POC


And they are not you and me
A bit more open for them to see
How kinky we want to be
And free
To make more than a community
But even you and me

Don't have to prove who we be
Sexually
When they aint got a clue who knew me

Or TPE
Not everybody
But everybody else
Who is less in the know
And first need to grow
Before they can show

How to learn what power you have know

But what about the "D" word?
*wicked grin*

The principles are that BDSM activities should be:

  • safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health
  • sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind
  • consensual: all activities should involve the full consent of all parties involved, but note that legal consent may not create a defence to criminal liability for any injuries caused and that, for these purposes, non-physical injuries are included in the definition of grievous bodily harm in English law.

Other people in the BDSM community do not consider SSC to be an accurate term for these relationships/activities. The term Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is sometimes used as a substitute description.

For those who dissent, issues generally arise from the subjective nature of each term in SSC when using the term as a yardstick to evaluate activities. It can be argued that the terms in RACK are equally subjective. "How safe is safe enough" is a legitimate question, and "how aware is aware enough" is an equally legitimate question.

Most attribute the term to David Stein who coined it in 1984 for GMSMA. More information can be found in the essay titled Safe Sane Consensual: The Evolution of a Shibboleth, in which he states that the term was developed "to distinguish the kind of S/M I wanted to do from the criminally abusive or neurotically self-destructive behavior popularly associated with the term 'sadomasochism'."


The "D" word

Is dick Dominance?
Yes!

Everybody uses one some time or another
And it's not important if it's yours or another's
Or does it?

"It's not about the dick Sir..."
"Yes, Ma'am I love Your dick Ma'am..."
"Take this dick!..."
"Ahhhhh... give me that dick!..."

Is dick the D we confuse?
Or
Are too many people confused ?

Why is Dominance harder for People of Color
To control and command
Culturally
In their personal community
JUST
Because of the dick?

Or because Dominance of said dick is dangerous
Real or fake
You can not wake someone
Or shake someone out or off of some good dick

*snicker*

But the images of the memories of how we have come to be
Who we are going to be in a new history
Is not clear enough to fear for us to find harmony
And I'll be darn if we aint in the promise land
Now how do you do the countryland
And
Stand by your man...
(dick optional)

But Dominance?

People of color are the last ones to admit some real shit
If we wanted freedom
Well this is it
Not all of it
But if you are not a part of it
Then why start some shit
And forget


Ok
Here's some important information about what I mean
When I mention People Of Color

I have a certain respect for Hispanic and Arabic cultures
Nothing personal
But as many times I spoke about something that made some of YOU feel I was blaming you for real
And the real deal is a bit deeper than dick

I am and will always be Me

And there are more like Me that can not speak
There are more like Me that can not write
There are more like Me that can not be understood

When many of you people of color have NEVER been this free
Ever!

Maybe it's not the Obama in me
"...what you say about my Mama?"

Yes we can change!

But it's going to feel a bit strange
You will not be comfortable
You will not have any control
But you can not have half and not be whole

Because FAITH is the POWER

In Total Power Exchange

And as a culture who is NOW living with another culture
NOW living with other cultures NOW

In America
I think we need to first thirst for
The American Me
Yeah, like the movie
*grin*

How do a NOW mixed community of cultures of adults
Vanilla and kinky alike
And not fight for the right
To wake up
Get up
Stand up
And find more faith to guide your TPE

Too Powerful Energy
To exchange for no other reason
Season
Or lifestime
This lifestyle is deeper than a booty call
This is for all the marbles every time we fall
For being more free
Sexually

Not as some community
I mean everybody

But understand
That in this land of the NOW free

We have not come this far
To leave thee

LOL


But 1963 was not a end
But we have passed the time to say

What do you mean?

If MLK was a Poly Dominant with a white sub/slut/slave
He would not be remembered the same way His is today

But today
We all have more freedom to role play
All day

But first we have to admit
That respect for open sexuality
For all the masses
Got they asses playing with some bullshit
All up in it
And it aint been invented

What we do have not been invented yet

Not invented yet

Where we are today has not been lived yet!

And tomorrow is a mystery

But today
These lifestyles are more a part of me
Than I can start to be
Some community

So excuse me please

I Am
Alpha Master Pimp
Sir Ez
The Lord GOD Loki

Po Pimpondatass
Whodathunkit01

Semperfi2000

Dj Hafez

Mr Motherfucker


And your not

In this lifestyle
TPE
For
POC
Is all we got
But
FAITH
Maybe not

But that is the POWER in that ENERGY

We learn to live from what is given
We give to give back
And lack

We learn to let go what is taken
We give to give back
And live


Power is energy
Energy is light
Light is voltage

But it's that Amps that can kill you

If you do not have respect

But we all were made by Amps
Concieved in lust
From a new found freedom

We as a people of color
Have come a long way

But today
Is such a new day
That the only way
For us to learn how live more free together


You can not wish for something you never had
Until you want it that bad
To pray that some day
You could do life the right way

Well today is your lucky day

Tomorrow has not been invented yet
Wanna bet you can get some kinky shit?


Scared money don't make money

Scared faith don't make no change

Fear don't make no respect

What does all of this mean to these lifestyles
And people of color in kink or not?















respect

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

A friends poetry..."Spank"


Spanking that ass like a big drum
What fun that can be
Rhythmically
"Getting her done"

As a percussionist and a provider
I found this poem from a old friend of mines
HOT!

So I wanted to stop

And post it here
So you may find him there
If you care


Spank
by Vince Vanguard Vainglorious



Whenever I hold the double bongos, I can’t resist playing



I love to hear that sound



I can’t wait to get started and sometimes must be told to stop



It’s such a beautiful instrument, round and firm with its beautiful skin stretched ever so tight



My hand vigorously strikes one side repeatedly until its time to strike the other



Sometimes I am inspired to improvise and play both sides at one time



It’s more about the technique than the actual melody



Remember the drummer’s main duty is to keep the beat



The drummer’s inspiration must always be the rhythm



To keep the drum in good working order, it is best not to bang it too hard



It is suggested that you oil the drum well to improve its condition



Even a fine well made tight drum can only take so much banging



There’s an art to beating the drums well



You must strike the skin firmly but not too hard



On occasion though your accompanist may request you beat the drum harder



Such a request is rare, so when offered the chance you must oblige



Like all fine instruments good drums are all delicate and each quite different



The smaller brown ones can produce an excellent honey sweet tone



Their smooth shiny skin is a pleasure for the eyes and a treat for the ears



Personally I prefer the larger deep dark tight firm round ones with an earthy tone



They inspire a primal emotion in me that reminds me of real African Drums



If you select one of a lighter hue, you may need to oil it well so as not to bruise the skin



The light ones come in many sizes like the others, but may require a higher level of maintenance



Playing the drums is a special talent and requires the right amount of skill and restraint



Not everyone will be pleased with the results or able to appreciate your talent



Learning to play can be a noisy and painful undertaking,



so it is suggested that you request permission before starting.



If you learn your craft and do the job well though,



a good time will be had by all and you will be rewarded with tears of joy





Spank by Vince Vanguard Vainglorious
© Copyright 2006. All rights reserved. No portion of this work may be duplicated or copied without the expressed written consent of the author.






We go way back
I sold him a couch back in the day
A loud green sleeper
And
He just got rid of it damn near 15 years later
*blank stare*

I would have bought it back
*wicked grin*


But what also humbles me as I write this post
Is how many other good friends I have this close
To me

After over 10 years
11 tours
12 states of sanity
And
13 colonies

One baby's mother
One Baby Gangsta
One Grand Baby Gangsta
T-Money
And a cool baby daddy

And I'm blessed to have had them all
Than many of them have had me
But we all are glad we
Are still around
Holding it down

And what I want to say the most?
Is that I know a few people who are reading this post
Personally

And they know a better part of me
Than most of you know about me
Because
We are all still friends
And family




After all these years
We never stop amazing each other





My brother from another mother
My motherfucker
Shake Speare Chucker
My motherfucker




I owe him my

respect






respect