My 9/11 Story... The day My life changed too.

Everyone has a story
9-11

The day everything changed
Including
"We the people"

...

I have my own memories about that day
And the many days after that day

And how my life changed

Because of not just the event
But the actions of many of you simple people

And I do mean many of you people

Do YOU remember how YOU acted towards other people?

Let me re-paint that picture for you

Two days before 9-11
I was on a mini tour with Gladys Knight
I was the "Back line tech" for her band
She was one of my principle groups I teched for often for about 5 years
The others included The Isley Brothers, Tina Marie, and a few others

I set up their band gear for them and did some lite production
As well as other clients I worked for as a A/V tech and Sound tech and a Stage Hand
I had been doing that kind of work for over 15 years
As well as being a party promoter and percussionist and a DJ
Based in the Atlanta area

I was spoiled
I lived Downtown
I was a freelance tech and a artist
I made good money and was respected by many

And my name is
HAFEZ

A muslim name
But I digress so you can see how my name played into this
"Shituation"

I was in Dover Downs for two nights with Gladys Knights band
Two great shows
And then we had to be in Canada the next day
So we packed up the gear and loaded the truck by ourselves
And headed through New York to get to Canada

We saw the towers and the traffic a day and a half before 9-11

We barely made the show due to the long drive over the boarder
And got there just in time to set up the show while the opening acts were preforming
Local 103 London Ontario rocks!

And that was the last show on that weekly tour
And we had busted ass to get everywhere they were due to play that week
And just like the other gigs with other acts
We got paid
And now we were off with money in our pockets
And time on our hands

I remember us trying to get into the only club/bar that was still open after the show

And they would not let us in
At first I thought is was a Black thing because they would not let "my kind" into their club/bar
But my truck driver "Dallas" who was white was told the same thing
As we asked why we could not get in they told us
"Because you are American"

And we was pissed!

So we took our money back to the hotel and talked mad shit about them racist ass bitches
And packed and got ready to go home
America

As we got to the boarder we went shopping at the duty free store and then crossed the boarder on the way back down south from Canada

We went through Pa, Ohio, and headed down I think 75 to Ga

The ride was interesting
We talked about how fucked up it was to be discriminated on in Canada by the cops at the door at that club/bar
And how there was plenty of people who looked like us who were let in even after we left
And we compared Canada to America
And as we argued down the road we noticed that the sun had not come up as usual and how time seemed to drag as we got through Pa and Ohio with ease

And then came this freaky ass fog

It was thick and moved over the road like something out of the Twilight Zone
It also turned blue, then red, then green too
And that freaked us out
So we rolled up the windows and drove through it as fast as we could until we got to the moutains
As we went up the mountains the fog cleared to see that the sun had been up for some time but you could not see any sun due to the fog

As we drove up the mountain we noticed the road crews had stopped working and was all standing at the edge of the mountain looking out as if something was wrong

We didn't pay it much attention until we came back down the mountain to notice the fog was back and the sun was barely out in the mid day

We gassed up at the station and that is when "Dallas" my driver saw the TV fr the first time

They were showing the first building falling over and over
He called for me to come see as he went to the pay phone to call home as we gassed up

I was shocked to see the tower falling but even more shocked to see the faces and the moods of many of the people who were running around seemingly with their heads in a cloud

And all we wanted to do is get out of Tenn and get to Ga to drop me off so he could head down to Fla where he knew some Radical white groups who had compounds in Fla that he could hide at just in case this was the end of the world

*blank stare*

And we hauled ass back to Ga

I lived down town
And as we drove into down town it looked like a ghost town
There was not even a homeless person on the street

Most of the people in my building was gone too
It seemed as if everyone was thinking that Atlanta was gonna be next

And I stayed next to the Eleventh court of Appeals and the old Treasury Department building
So most folks thought it would be next

So I unpacked my gear, got my money, and went inside to watch the news like everybody else

And I knew there was no real place to run at that time and felt that if it was my time to go? I was gonna go in my crib

And all day it was cloudy and lonely

And then the hate came

What hate you ask?

The hate that was advertised by the media about who possibly did this act

Muslims

And the country shut down

And when something tragic happens and people stay home?
The entertainment business gets hit hard
Because nobody wants to go out and spend money
And so I sat and waited to find out how bad it was because I was booked solid for mounths

But all my artist was not feeling like taking a plane or bus or running the risk of being killed in another terrorist attack

So I was stuck

And then I watched as the hate spread

Anyone with a muslim name or a look was shun
By everyday people
And as work started to pick up I noticed how many of my clients were not calling me or speaking to me
I wondered why at first
And then I remembered my own name
And wondered if that was the case

I got one call from the Union for a private gig that I was told that I had to go work
I wondered why me, but it was work so I went to the GWCC for the gig

When I got there I saw few people in the building but then noticed Secret Service around and as I asked they told me it was the Presidents first speech after 9-11
"We the people"

And I was one of the only stagehands that was allowed to secure the stage that the President was to speak behind his bullet proof podium to the country for the first time after 9-11

And at that point I thought my fares were over
The government trusted me to secure the platform that the president spoke on top of
So maybe the rest of these other Americans would trust me too

Not the case

As I sat along with everyone else in America and watched his speech on the platform I built
And listened to his words in hopes that my struggle was over and I would be treated like I was
As a Vet (USMC) as a American Black Man
And as a skilled laborer with a skill set of over 15 years

And after that speech I sat hopeful

And the phone did not ring
The same feeling I got before the speech came back
I called people and they acted like I was Usama's son or something

I got one call from my client to set up a show for Gladys Knight in Memphis at the Fairgrounds

And as the truck came to pick me up we hit the road again
And I was happy to be back working and making money

Prior to that gig I took all my money out the banks
I didn't want to risk loosing it
So I stashed it in damn near all the places I could find around my crib
But I digress again

So as we got to Memphis to set up the show
I met a little black man who was security at the back of the stage
He spoke to me
He said
"How you like Memphis? ... You know WE killed King here!"
With a smile as if he was proud to brag on something
I was floored
But I shook it off and set up the band for the show

I have watched many of these artist preform for years so I could tell what mood they were in

And Gladys was scared shitless!

She could barely sing for fear that something was about to happen
She cut her show short and sang
"GOD Bless America"

And left the stage
And that was the last time she played until she took the offer to do her show in Vegas

And the last time I set up a show for the rest of that year and it was on the beginning of October

I didn't work for 68 more days!
Nobody wanted to touch me

My friends were also the same way

I was not happy
Because if I was trusted by the government to keep the president safe
Surely I should be ok for everybody else

But work was slow
People were still out of work
And what little work that was being had I wasn't getting

And then I called a old friend of mines who had a circus that he needed help with getting started
And asked me to help
But could not offer me much money
And I was so desperate for work I took it
It was 27 weeks on the road working the second tent for
Universoul Circus
With a bunch of Canadian Verilight techs
My nic name was
"Pimpy the clown"
Because every city we went to I found people in the area that would service the crew
lol

Anywho

As the tour got going I was unable to go back home to go to court about my late rent
I was sending money back to the land lord so that he would not have to use that "rit for posession" that I got for not showing up due to work
But I have lived there for over 4 years and never had any issues and the and lord was getting payments from me
So all was good

And then while working I got a call from my cousin say'n that I had made the news
I ask how and he told me that all my shit had been evicted on the street of down town and there was a feeding frienzy that stopped traffic for 3 hours in down town rush hour

I found out that the land lord had gone on funeral leave and had left the desk to a ex con dyke chick who along with some of the cleaning crew had found alot of shit in my apartment to steal
And they covered it up by evicting my belongings

And the land lord had my money that I had to get back
But I had loss much more than my stuff
I lost my money that was hidden in my stuff too

And I was on the road working 3 shows a day for 5 days and two shows on the weekend and then we broke the tent down after the last show on Sunday and was off to the next city
So I had no time to do nothing but work

As I talked to the owner about the improvement of the second tent on tour, he told me that he was not making enough money to keep the show out on the road and that he had to curb cost somehow
So he hired a crew from South Africa where we had been the year before
And I helped train them with the agreement that I would not be let go too
Because I had nowhere to go
In theory

And as we broke the tent and packed up in Loisville Ky I was given a letter that stated:
"Thank you for assisting the Universoul Circus, we will no longer be needing your assistance"
With a check for bus fare back to Atlanta in a check

And there I stood in the lobby of a air port hotel with two g=bags of work clothes and a lap top

And I had to find a friend off of Black Planet who I had met while there and ask her to stay there until I found a place to go and what my next move was gonna be

It was Derby week and no hotels were available

And stay'n with people you don't really know can get scary
And it did
lol

So I talked to my little brother and moved to the DC area
Why DC

Because DC has a Union that is the 3rd highest paying union in the country and the only one that staffs black techs with the backing of the union in masses
No other place in my craft respects tech of color but Dc
Because DC had a black and a white separate union
At one time

So that was the only place I could get work with the skills I had without being treated like a nigger
No offense but that is real

Anywho

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And found a hole in the wall spot in Dc to live and got to work

And then the Snipper came
And shut down the city

And I was stuck again

And it took a long time to rebuild to where I am not

I had lost alot

I lost over 200k in finances and personal property
I lost my home
I lost friends
I lost respect

And I will never forget the mindset of so many people who had issues with people of Muslim names and ethnic backgrounds
During 9-11

I will never forget the vision of them Towers as we drove by

I will never forget how proud I was to see the President of my country standing comfortably on my stage as he spoke to the nation

And I will never forget the respect I got from so many and so few

And Usama is still alive
Sadam is dead
A war is still killing my people and theirs

And everybody is still walking around with their heads in their butt

And I am still just getting on my feet

In a new town
With new people
Starting almost all over

And I will never forget
9-11

And all the people who changed that day too
Many of you

And all I have now is what?


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Racist Annonamous...

Hi...

*snicker*


My name is AMP...

And I am a racist.

*blank stare*

I actually hate more Black People than I hate White People...

__*"Whoooooosaaaahhhhhh"*__


"Wow!"


*wicked grin*

That really DID feel Guuuuuddd!


*evil grin*



We have now become genetic mutations of race and relations.

Just like our kink.

We don't need home training anymore because we are not in everyone's home.

And I claim The President of America as My Commander and Chief Because I'm Bound By My GOD, My Country, and My Corps.

Now why the rest of you like or dislike President Obama is a matter of race or relations or both.

I'm a Native American.

That's it.


That's all.

And That's My President.

And I don't live in My country.

I live in My Country's Capitol.

It's something else.


Just Like Me...




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You better THANK what you try'n to do for Me. I didn't say THINK!

Now see Mr.&Miss "whoever"

That's the damn problem here.

I aint got to have a light side I have to come back home to for safety.

snicker

I got a Lifetime PASS to the Dark Side with no doors closed to Me.

And I aint got no curfew or no collar.

Some of yall have to be good boys and good gurls, because yall was raised to be THAT way first.

Now, most of yall are just SNEAKING over to The Dark Side and getting back home in time enough to go to Church!

evil stare

And hating on Me because every time yall try to cross that fine line into some Dark Shit?

My Black Ass is up in here, getting in your way!

snicker

So how many other people on My friends list consider Me Something Lower than The Devil outside of a few POCs who don't like My title of The Devil's Dominant!

And some of yall think I got jokes, and I do.

But what else I got, is no need to tuck tail and go to the light!

And some of yall don't like not being able to party in hell, not because they MAKE you be around some evil shit. But because THEY should NOT have to worry about and of you being able to be fine with THAT too!

And the people around Me who claim to be from DC are scared to BE in DC like We Be. 24/7 aint heaven, but aint none of us here worth being called trash. and none of Us Evil little people in Hell have to explain to you people why we aint talking about visiting the Dark Side.

I mean being a Fuckin Owner of the Dark Side to which I live and Dwell in Hell.

And if your ass ever get stuck in Hell, and we are on speaking terms. You may not know where to find and Angel to save you.

blank stare

And you wonder why the few people who LOOK like Me seems to be feuding with Me?

That's because THEY aint like Me.

And I don't want to digress to express My sympathies for some of you.

Noooooooooo, My brother.

You aint reading what I said correctly.

I said THE DARK SIDE AINT FOR WHIMPS!

If you aint a card holding Member and Owner and investor of the District?

Then your a tourist = "a Dark Side"

And I'm the Devil's Dominant!

For REAL!

And the Devil likes Me fucking with most of more than your asses know what being Devilish is about!

I aint Fake'n Da Funk!

I'm Funkier than most of these other loud Mouthed haters want to tell you they AINT ALLOWED to be but they want to look like they are more than Me. And They aint Met Me and survived quite well in Hell either.

So what You think?

That's right!

You don't have to think on the dark Side!

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Why yall hating on a Pimp Like Me for being called "DADDY"?

But not like it's a Daddy Dom kinda thang.

As a matter of fact?

It's not even a swagger.

But I BET you, somebody can relate to the subtle difference in calling a Pimp Dom Daddy and somebody who has a problem with the WORD Pimp!

Here lies the conflict.

Because even a Convict can be rehabilitated but Rehab is for quitters.

And not that THAT is not a bad thing, but the one thing that makes a difference in the two is what side of retirement are you.

True?

There was once a Man Named Sweet Daddy Grace.

if you was a saint? You will remember Daddy Grace as a Wonderful Pastor of a Powerful inner city church.

if you wasn't a saint? You will remember the image of a Sweet Black Man they called Daddy Grace.

Two Different type Dominant Men behind one face.

And many of Mothers had husbands but only ONE Daddy even if they say that would have to be Jesus!

And I'm trying not to take the Lords name in vain. But some will complain about that Gentleman Sir that became a Master and faster than you can say Alpha Male they would praise the Lord thy Monarch and the light and the dark they call a good man Daddy.

And that's more than a title of a polarity in a BDSM community you people are trying to sell Me.

But I fail to be moved by force on My own damned source and of course My own journey in doing Me and My Family.

But these people would rather kill Me than consider that a fantasy of becoming more like Me or at least like Me for being who I be.

A damn Pimp Daddy.

To the few who knew how to do what they do by teaching you that you can't be no TRUE Dom and be a swinger and a Pimp and a Nigga and NOT in a "N" word kinda way.

I'm talking about today...

In any way, anyone who has the guts to say is THEIR OWN Way. And they do it all day, every day. Should be able to play they own role until they head is "swole".

And Pimp Daddies don't collect snuggle bunnies and protect the freaky honeys. But they keep mad funnies for them dummies that bees sleeping on His Pimpish Nature.

But that's enough for people to hate your character.

But Pimp types don't need a reputation. Just like the Dominant definition of a BITCH or a Diva or a Madam.

But Dick aint Dominance and more hoes with they had Him.

So the few who do?


Sometimes...

Enjoy calling a Pimpish Dominant Daddy more than they want admit that they love some Pimp Shit too.

Can get the best of you.

Like Voodoo.

The Dark Shit I love to do...

Is deeper that just trying to be fucking around with some BDSM lifestyle shit.

*evil stare*

A Pimp once told Me: *"Hey Boy, don't never trust a Gentleman Dom. Because they will bullshit you faster than they bullshit they own game. And a Pimp will do the same thing, only He will respect you enough to be up front about it."*

I thought about that long and hard as I listened to people call out for the father and the son and that holy spirit that seemed to make them wet from the Top or the bottom.

*snicker*

And I remembered the sound and the difference when someone calls a Pimpstyle Gent DADDY.

And Now I am a Grown Ass Man.

And the people who call Me Daddy?

Don't get everything they ask for when they do it.

Sometimes they hate being called out on trying to hustle you in humility.

And sometimes they just want attention or a spanking.

*evil grin*


And sometime they don't know any better because seldom have they ever found a Brother so down that He's damn near a Pimp!

And sometimes people treat a Daddy Dom like a wimp.

Just because his dick went limp!

And Dick aint dominance to a Dominant Pimp.

And that's why some little gurls get wet in the panties off of the fantasy of calling a Pimpish Dominant Provider...


Daddy


But it takes game to make game.

And aint nobody gonna complain if you got good game.

Fuck fame!


I am Alpha Master Pimp Sir EZ

The Lord GOD Loki

And if your lucky?

you can call Me Daddy.

*wicked grin*

And wish you had Me.


...

But I aint one to gossip so you aint heard it from Me!

...

[Now THIS is game!]


...



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A Sufi study Sunday...

In my studies I found a few words that I found helpful today


There are those who are like a lighted candle: they can light other
candles, but the other candles must be of wax - if they are of steel,
they cannot be lighted.

Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:

The voice of God is speaking all the time, but no one listens;
therefore God has manifested as man, that He might speak with a yet
louder voice. But even then man does not listen. In the time of
Christ the inspiration was there, the voice was there and the divine
power; but how few were those who listened and understood! ...
Whenever the spirit of God has come forth in its true form, the world
has been against it. Why has this been so? It is because man has two
sides to his nature, one false and the other real; and before the
true messenger can penetrate to the reality of a man's being, he
first touches the false or unreal part, and that revolts. And in the
case of a man who does not revolt, even though the light reaches him
his heart is covered, and it only touches the cover. Such a man is
attracted, yet he doubts.

There are egos who are not willing and ready to accept all that
attracts them. The more something attracts them, the more they rebel
against it, suspecting it of being a temptation. Even if they see the
reality of something that attracts them they consider the tendency of
being attracted to be a weakness. There are egos who refuse to accept
what their friend has accepted, and refuse to admire fully what that
friend has admired. And even if they really wish to accept something
that their friend has accepted, they will refuse to do so. For the
tendency of that ego is to swim against the tide ... building a
fortified wall between the messenger and the souls who long for
guidance. There are, however, those who are like lighted candles:
they can light other candles and they can inspire others. But the
other candles must be of wax; if they are of steel they cannot be
lighted. The heart must be like wax; it must melt; if it is like
steel, it cannot be illumined. ...

A person who, alone, has seen something beautiful, who has heard
something harmonious, who has tasted something delicious, who has
smelt something fragrant, may have enjoyed it, but not completely.
The complete joy is in sharing one's joy with others. For the selfish
one who enjoys himself and does not care for others, whether he
enjoys things of the earth or things of heaven, his enjoyment is not
complete. So it is only in this third stage that the following of the
message is fulfilled, when a soul has heard and has pondered upon it,
and has passed the same blessing on to others.

This was a busy weekend in my mind

The net acting up
The energy all over the place
The phone acting up

And just general life

The funny thing about dealing with others who have other lives

It's not about you

*grin*

So when they effect your life?

You have to regroup and reflect
And recharge

This is my day to do so

Have a great week

The greatest achievement is selflessness.
The greatest worth is self-mastery.
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
The greatest precept is continual awareness.
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
The greatest patience is humility.
The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.

Atisha


Without self-knowledge, we cannot go beyond the mind.
—J. Krishnamurti

I like my friends like good tissue. Soft to the touch, but strong enough to deal with some real crap

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TheKinkYHoTBoX/




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Your style is not who you are but what you are.

We all have our own styles and characteristics
We have our own lust and kinks that are just as individual as each one of us on this planet

We have NATURAL talents and traits that make us who we are and how we are or wish to be

And these lifestyles have plenty of room for everyone

But I think a great deal of us suffer from the ability to explain exactly who and how we are
And what we seek or wish for more in our lives and lifestyles

And I have done a few post on the types of titles available in the foundation of what this lifestyle has to offer each and every one of us

So instead of just posting the general definition of types of Doms and subs and such

I want to see if I can get a few lurkers and regulars to think deeper as to whom they are as a individual in these lifestyles
And what you have to offer others who are seeking others too

Because this subject covers the vast difference in relationships that many of us seek or seek to improve

Maybe that is why so many are shun or accused of NOT being something they feel is so general

Maybe we are not answering these very important questions from the very introduction to the moments you find you have changed and want more or less or even something different

So lets first talk about Dominants

As a dominant
You have certain talents and traits that make you who you are
Like just because your a Daddy Dom Type
Does not mean that you can not be a real good provider
Or trainer
Or even counselor and motivator

But what else makes you feel you can be a good provider?
Because you can be a good Daddy Dom but suck at dealing with a bratty ass sub who pushes your buttons for attention

You can be a Sadist
But how?
Are you in control of your sadistic nature?
How can your sadistic nature benefit your Dominance in a SSC manner?

And what if you are not a Sadist?
How can being more emotionally humble by nature benefit your Dominance?

Do you have a temper?
How bad is it?
Do you have a boiling point?
Can you instruct others as to how not to go that far with you?

Are you a good listener?
How attentive are you?
How well can you deal with conflict?

Do you know your own dysfunctional traits?
WE ALL HAVE THEM
It's natural!

Are you gifted?
How?
How can that assist in your training of others?
Are you able to explain them and how they may benefit others?

What drives you to want to be a Dominant?
What image of accomplishment drives you seek devotion to you?

Why do you want to devote your life's journey to being a provider to others?

Are you monogamous?
Can you handle being monogamous with JUST one?
What about Polygamous?
Are you mentally strong enough to deal with others emotions?
What if you have a bottom, sub/slave that is Bi sexual?
Can you deal with sharing your mate sexually with others?
What kind of others?
Can you deal with being honest, open and fair sexually?

And what about sex?

Do you have a high or low sex drive?
Is it driven by your attraction to your mate?
Are you attracted to your mate sexually?
What turns you on?
For how long generally?
How comfortable are you with your sexuality?
Nudity?
Public sexual expression?
Are you at peace with your kink and sexuality?
Are you addicted to sex or sexual activity?
What kind of sex do you like the best?
What if your mate does not like your kink like you do?
What turns you off quickly?
Are you driven to your kink sexually?
How much sex do you need in reality?
What do you like more than sexual aggression?
How well are you at being not only able to role play, but be able to invent productive and fun scenes to play?
How much do you know about the mental and hormonal effects of sexual contact with others?
How well are you prepared to deal with others fears and history of abuse?
Do you play well together sexually?
What if they want more than you can physically handle?
What if your property shuts down sexually?
Can you handle sexual conflict?
What if they seek non sexual contact and you want it?
How do you deal with jealousy?

And what about mental conditioning and support?

How much do you know about it?
How well do you know your partner?
What do they suffer from?
What can cause a imbalance in their mind set?
Can you tell?
How well are you at seeking help professionally if needed?
What do you know about medications that effect a persons mentality?
What do you know about hormones?
Chakras
Energy
Auras


What in just these few questions can you answer as to how your Natural talents and abilities drive you to provide for someone else in need of your services?

What makes you think you can be a good Dominant?
What makes you think that you can be a better provider to whom seeks your company or you theirs?

When is enough enough?

How true are you to your words when you find them to not be a good match together?
Do you seek help?
Or send them packing?

No matter who you think you are when you decide that you are a Dominant
Being one means nothing if you have no one to provide for
Or does it?

And most of all

YOU ARE NOT A DOMINANT
YOU ARE A DOMINANT HUMAN BEING

Do you know the difference?
Can you express that to others openly?

Do you respect the difference between being domineering and being a SSC Dominant?

Are you able to better communicate exactly what you are and are not?

Do you have the ability to cut your losses if there is more of a sexual attraction than a D/s, M/s, Top/bottom, and even vanilla relationship?
Even if that means turning down someone who wants more than what you know you can provide?

ALL OF THESE TYPE QUESTIONS
Are the difference between a REAL Dominant in their own mind
And a predator for attention or attentions you see so many others getting because they consider themselves a Dominant in these lifestyles

It's ok to want to fuck the dog snot out of somebody
Shit
Anybody!
But
What about pride?
What about character?
What about your self respect?

Why would anyone want to publicly claim to be someone
Just so they can get laid?

DOMINANTS
Have to be a respectable title to the Dominant
More than anyone else
First!
That any true Dominant has to defend
Or understand that you loose nothing
For being just a dominant person by nature
Even freaky in a little way

But a lier is not impressive

Especially just for some popularity and kinky sex

But we have to respect that others do not have the same standards or concern for this lifestyle as other who claim it openly or not


Now...

Sub-missives
*snicker*

I'm really feeling the need to write a post
JUST FOR YOU FOLKS

Because the FIRST thing that needs to be corrected in the manner many sub missives in this realm use the WORD it's self
And how they include themselves as one
Or not

And I want to include switches in this post too

And being that you both claim at least submission as a trait and title

sub missive
IS NOT A NAME
Don't go acting like you should even name your kids
"Submissive"

*blank stare*

But that is kinda the way some of you types act that word describe who you are or kinda are

YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING TOO

You may have submissive traits or even be submissive in nature

But just thinking that being called one
And fellowshipping with others who do the same
Is not a lifestyle or a community

READ ALL OF THAT AGAIN OUT LOUD IN YOUR OWN HEADS

Because after you have found that your are attracted to being submissive to anyone or someone worth seeking?

Your work is not done!
So playing with your friends do not make you smarter
You have to study
And the first thing you have to learn is how to express openly
WHAT TYPE OF PERSON YOU ARE
And how does your desire to submit fit into your personality

WHAT MAKES YOU
y/you

If you are not able to communicate from the start
And anywhere after
That you are who and how you are?

Then you can set up yourself and anyone else for failure

Just because they know less about you
Than you know about yourself

It is your duty to give a perspective Dominant a better chance at being the RIGHT ONE for you or not

Even if you have no idea what I am talking about here
Still
You have to protect yourself first
Because if anyone sees that you are unconcerned how destructive the possibilities can be to both of you?
They can become bitter and even terrorized by your concern for their own time and efforts
Or even respect for telling them at least what YOU do know you know enough to know that you need more empathy and concern than anger and mistrust

And let me put this out there now...

SUBMISSION IS THE MOST POWERFUL NATURAL TRAIT
When mastered

And the word here that is most important here is
MASTERED

Because you don't have to have all the answers
But having NOTHING but questions
Is not impressive or even comfortable for someone who wishes to become your "ONE" and only

And anyone who feels comfortable enough to think they know enough at any point in their lives to not have to earn a deeper respect and control of their power
Is a dangerous person
To everyone

Especially themselves


So what makes your submission something worth calling yourself a sub missive?

What is the NATURE of your NATURAL submissive traits?

What about you do you respect and enjoy being submissive like?

Are you a sexually driven sub?
What kind?
(yeah there is a rack of kinds to be)
Do you know?
What do you know that you are not sexually into?
What kink attracts you?
How?
Why?
What makes you want to submit to anyone?
For what reason?

Do you understand that both sexes are or can be submissive?
What's the difference?
What makes you different than others?
What makes you the same?
Do you care?

How well do you communicate?
Are you selfish?
Can you change?
Do you want to change?
How much?

What about being a sub missive to a Dominant?
Can you stay in character?
Why?
How?
How attentive are you to others?
Your perspective provider?
How well can you deal with conflict?

How far do you want to submit?
Why?
What is too far?
Do you know the difference?
What if you are wrong?
How well can you honor direction?
What if that direction is too forceful?
How do you deal with orders?
How much of your freedom do you want to submit?
Why?
How?
What if you can not let go?
Is there such a thing as deal breakers?
Why?
How serious are you about your direction in these lifestyles?
Are you monogamous?
Are you Bi?
Can you be both?
How?
Why?
How strong are your own personal desires?
Do you know what they are?
What dysfunctions and fears are you not in control of?
Do you know what that means?
How do you see yourself in general?
How do you compare yourself to others?
Are you willing to face these fears?
To what point?
Can you defend yourself from yourself?
How?
How can others assist you?
What if they can not always help you when you need help?
How well do you respect your weaknesses?
Do you have the strength to admit you need help?
How?
Why?

Why do you NEED a Dominant?
What can having a suitable provider and protector improve your own personal life?
Why can you not do it own your own?

What are you willing to trade in fairness for what you seek in these lifestyles from others?

What if you get less than you feel you deserve?
What if you have to change more of who you think you are comfortable with being?

What about sex?
Do you know how your sexuality connects to your kink?
Or why?

Do you play well with others?
What if you had to share your perspective mate?
Is that a deal breaker?
What is?
Can you communicate that and other issues productively?

How much control are you willing to respect if the demands on you become too uncomfortable?

How comfortable are you with explaining your own personal needs?
What goal do you have if provided a suitable partner?

What if you have to compromise?
How far are you willing to compromise?

Do you have walls?
What are they?
Why are they conflictive to your growth?

What about competition?
Are you willing to compete for attention and attractions over others?
Why?
Why not?
What is worth it?
What is not?

As you can see...

There is much more than just being a Dom or sub or whatever

You are unique

And nobody knows how much until you open up
And let others in your head, life, world, and heart in some cases

But these lifestyles were made from a natural order of human nature

And when done faithfully
It can enhance your lives

When done productively
It produces style to your life

When done faithfully
It produces blessings

But when don't half ass?

You get what you put into it
Together
Or not





LIFE IS A GAME

It's about how you play it
And how you play well with others
Even if the others
Are the other sides of your own personality

But too many people as of late have treated all of these sexual lifestyles as a fad or plaything

They don't consider that these lifestyles are support to lives worthy of a deeper growth and expression

As grown consenting adults

With freaky and even kinky lust
For a more full life
Together

And all of these lifestyles are made for relationship support
Not for personal manipulation and indulgence

Because what use is it to go through to much trouble?
If your not gonna get more than what so many of us feel we deserve out of life and our lifestyle

But these lifestyles are the best excuse to add more style to your everyday lives

But in order for any of you to enjoy any productive part of any of these lifestyles?

You have to first respect who you are as a productive part of these lifestyles
Or not
If you so choose this direction
With anyone else

But first you have to understand
Anything worth enjoying
Is worth the amount of personal work you put into it
Or not

But JUST being a title does not prepare you for every other moment you are not getting kinky with your perspective mates

Only YOU can prevent the drama you keep getting into with others

Maybe some of the fault in so many downfalls in these lifestyles and even in the vanilla world, is not being able to communicate better your needs and your abilities to respect others need for you too
With them

Together for some other reason than just fucking!

Because these sexual lifestyles are not about the sexual nature

It's about how they can enhance your life

It's like your wardrobe

It's not the clothes that make the Man or Woman
It's the style that they wear what makes them who they are and how they feel

Without style in our lives?

We just look like naked people with something covering their nudity

Now nudity is a whole other subject

Because THAT is all we are

Naked

Everything else about us is inside our own minds and mindsets

But when people look at us

First they see who we look like we are
And if they are attracted to that?
They dig deeper
And that is how this shit called life is


Style

Style may refer to:

• Genre, a loose set of criteria for a category or composition
• Design, the process of creating something
• Format, various terms that refer to the style of different things
• Human physical appearance
• Fashion, a prevailing mode of expression, i.e. clothing
• Typeface, style is one of the three traditional design features along with size and weight: either regular, italic or condensed

Style may also refer to:

• Painting style, in art and painting style can refer either to the aesthetic values followed in choosing what to paint (and how) or to the physical techniques employed
• Style (manner of address), titles or honorifics, including Chinese courtesy names
• Style (botany), a stalk structure in female flower parts. See Gynoecium

Style of life

The term style of life was used by psychiatrist Alfred Adler as one of several constructs describing the dynamics of the personality. It reflects the individual's unique, unconscious, and repetitive way of responding to (or avoiding) the main tasks of living: friendship, love, and work. This style, rooted in a childhood prototype, remains consistent throughout life, unless it is changed through depth psychotherapy. The style of life is reflected in the unity of an individual's way of thinking, feeling, and acting. Often, bending an individual away from the needs of others or common sense, movements are made to relieve inferiority feelings or to compensate for those feelings with an unconscious fictional final goal. Classical Adlerian psychotherapy attempts to dissolve the archaic style of life and stimulate a more creative approach to living.

Adler felt he could distinguish four primary types of style. Three of them he said to be "mistaken styles". These include the ruling type: aggressive, dominating people who don't have much social interest or cultural perception; the getting type: dependent people who take rather than give; and the avoiding type: people who try to escape life's problems and take part in not much socially constructive activity. The fourth life style by Adler is the socially useful type: people with a great deal of social interest and activity.

No matter how you see it?

If you don't know what you are deeper than just using general titles to explain to others?

Who will they think you are or not?

You first have to tell people who you think you are and then if they are impressed enough to go further?
They will

And in time they will see a difference

Because it is natural for us humans to change and evolve

It's how you do it in style
Or not







respect

Respecting whatever a Alpha is or not...

From the first second I created this profile name and page
Never did I have to question
What it would be

I keeps it a bit too real
Even for my damn self

*sadistic sicker*

But if you look around
You seldom will find someone who claims to be
a Alpha Dominant

Let alone the rest of it
lol

But I thought I would leave this info for the people in the cheap seats

" Any one can say there and Alpha Male but a true Alpha is known when he comes into the room with out saying a word"

Well lets see what they say about that

The Male Psyche and the Female Variable

By wassup471, published Nov 06, 2007

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It's a well-known and obvious fact that there are many differences between a man and woman in both mind and body. These gaps throw a psychological kink into the biological template for both sexes, setting up roadblocks in the emotional battleground overrun by hormones that each person must overcome. The fight is fierce and seemingly never ending, which can lead to some odd solutions brought about by desperation or too much of a defensive mindset, as shown in Susan Faludi's "The Naked Citadel." However, as Lila Abu-Lughod shows in "Honor and Shame" and as portrayed in Osama, sometimes a person's situation is dictated by the surrounding environment, and breaking out of a centuries-old mold is at all easy.

High school is the first step to manhood; a male develops his relationship skills and receives a crash course in the world of women. But it can be filled with heartbreak and disappointment as well. Being a guy who knew what he was looking for in a girl, I was discretionary and caught a lot of flak from guy friends for never going out with anyone. My situation was tilted against me; I didn't know interested females that fulfilled what I was looking for, but my friends were forcing me to adopt a defensive mindset in relation to my social life. Just because I didn't have a "target" or someone to "chase after" like a dog, I was often the butt of jokes and teased. Even though I knew it was light-hearted and (usually) in good taste, it still stung having my lack of "accomplishment" thrown back in my face. This kind of mentality makes it so much harder to view women in the same way as men-they become de-humanized and made into a prize through such impersonal words, simply because the male culture has made them out as such.

Susan Faludi's experiences while touring The Citadel show how this can be taken to the extreme. She writes about the fourth-class system at the all-male college in which new recruits are made into one entity with little thought towards personal identity; through "male bonding experiences" such as community showers and hazing, everybody must rely on their fellow males for support and even survival. This womanization of freshman by the upperclassmen shows the underlying theme of some males: they consider being a woman second-class. It's a fact supported by Osama, where women cannot have jobs, show their faces in public, and are ordered around as servants by men. At one point, a female doctor is addressed by a male who's father is a patient to "Hurry up" and "Attend my father"; these are spoken as commands, not requests. In "Honor and Shame," girls in the Bedouin culture have their lives dictated by males many times, as Kamla writes to her sister when she decides to attend college against her uncles' wishes.

This making of women into a lower class is very much influenced by the surrounding environment of a given person. At The Citadel, the environment focuses on the aspects in life where men are better suited and thus more dominant: physical discipline. The military is also still geared much more toward males than females; only guys have to register for the draft, and they are the only ones who are sent on the front lines of battle. These reasons implant a seed into a recruit's mind that the male is the workhorse, and thus is one looked up to. In a militaristic society such as the one evident at the Citadel, this view is taken to the extreme; the male is made out to be dominant in all things. For some recruits, this goes against everything they learned in high school, where women are usually treated equal to men and the male sometimes has to beg for a date. I know if in that situation, given my experiences, I would be an outcast, hazed until I changed my ways or gave up. I have never viewed women as trophies or somebody that makes a good story, but that is the mentality that Susan Faludi quickly was told about, almost as if the men were proud of the collective monster they have become.

When Shannon Faulkner, a female, applied and was accepted (by way of leaving her gender blank), an uproar so great was caused that death threats surrounded the Faulkner residence for quite some time. What causes such a gap in reaction, a transition from an offensive to defensive position against women? The answer is not so simple- when asked why a woman should not be brought onto campus, no man could muster a convincing answer. (Faludi 134) Perhaps it is the reworked thought processes of the recruits; after all, "According to the Citadel creed...women are objects...they're things that you can do whatever you want with it." In an all-male society, there are no boundaries; no need to impress a woman, or act like a gentlemen for the ladies- it's all about becoming the alpha male, and in the class system, the class becomes the alpha instead of one male. Putting cadets through "...almost a POW camp..." (Faludi 135) experience twists the mind so they believe they enjoy it, because if they don't then their life isn't what the recruit wants it to be- who wants to think that about themselves? Nobody wants to look at their life and hate it; instead, it's as if these recruits are taking the template for social equality and instead using the pieces to build a wall to keep their lives the way the want it by keeping women out. To them, the only wrench in their plans could be a woman intervening, which as written earlier has led to countless atrocities. I cannot begin to comprehend the experiences going on with these men; though I'm very much a male, I have never found the need to be absolutely dominant in every facet of my life, and women are equals and in many cases superior to myself. I choose to accept women as people; thus, they are not hostile to my intent (which is getting an education) and I do not feel the need to lash out against them. Considering many graduates of The Citadel are married, I figure even with my lack of success so far, I should do well eventually, right?

When it all boils down to it, the Citadel thrives on remaking males into one mold, possibly the ideal soldier who can be cold-hearted when needed and business-like, or perhaps it is simply men being foolish and ignorant of the world around them, instead choosing to reside in a closed society where testosterone dictates the next course of action and thus the next thought process. Either way, all that seems to be bred in this hostile context is pain and suffering, no matter how it is disguised.

In "Honor and Shame" and Osama, the male notion of dominance is brought about through religion and tradition. The Islamic faith requires women to hide their faces and cover their feet at all times in public, and forbids them from working. The culture in the Middle East revolves around the women serving the men, and it has been that way for hundreds of years. Such a past history is hard to break; it took colonies over two hundred years to gain independence from Britain's world empire, and women did not gain the right to vote in the western world until the early 1900s. Osama brings the inability to work as woman close to home when Osama receives a haircut and gets a job pretending to be a boy. The struggles associated with such a transition, such as daily prayers and going to a Taliban training camp, show just how wide the gap is between the lives of men and women in the culture. The template in this situation has been set and lived by for centuries: the women serve the men and the male's will. Osama is the rebellion; she goes against what has been established as law and life by crossing the line between male and female. In other words, if she can do it, what will prevent others from doing the same? Such an event would disrupt the whole basis of the Middle Eastern culture and put men on the defensive; seeing the effects this caused in other male-dominated environments such as the Citadel, the results would probably turn violent.
"Honor and Shame" portrays the Bedouin culture and how it both runs on women and displaces them; the men cannot go on with life unless the women are their keeping everything running smoothly, a fact pointed out by Kamla when she states
"Bedouins think that as long as they have a house and can eat, drink, and be clothed, that's enough...they marry and have kids and marry again. But a man should live...a more relaxed life. Should a man come home at the end of his day tired from working and find it filthy and the kids and the women fighting? He comes wanting to relax..." (Abu-Lughod 50).

However, as Sehmina Chopra writes in her article "Liberation by the Veil", many traditions are kept not to persecute women, but to uphold the basic tenants of the Islamic faith. She writes the "covering [of the face] brings an aura of respect" and that it is "a liberation from the shackles of male scrutiny and the standards of attractiveness" (Chopra). As the men choose their wives, this can have an effect that backfires; if a man is looking at two potential mates, and they give similar responses to his questions, he will most likely choose based on their family and the amount of wealth available to gain. Even if the women are extremely close in most things, it will be the other characteristics that define them.

One phrase that stands out to me is "single mom" in relation to the topic of the sexes. What words spring into your mind when those words hit your ears? I sense helplessness, determination, sorrow, and a bit of grittiness. This begs the question: Why do we always hear about the single mom trying to support her family, but not the single dad? Is it because as a female, we view the mother as less capable of raising her children than the father? Or that the male can withstand the pressure to provide, and keep fighting, while the female will just give up and cry? I believe it may be a combination of those factors-stereotypes too often influence our thought processes in reference to others. Women have historically been a behind-the-scenes contributor to families and many times in the workforce (how many times do you concentrate on the secretary when you go to the doctor? But who does all that paperwork?); it is so easy to overlook their achievements. Instead, we rationalize the woman being helpless and afraid, like an 1960s damsel-in-distress. People never give enough credit, and that is why we fail to immediately see a single mother being victorious in her life, blazing a new career path that provides enough for her children to stay of the streets and receive an education, so they may support themselves and their mother later in life. Or why when they see the father, they instantly assume he has a decent-paying job with benefits, allowing his dependents to get on with life. Instant bias comes into play- the woman, viewed psychologically as the needier of the two sexes, is made out to be the one is a more desperate situation.

No matter what the situation happens to be, a woman in many circumstances will be viewed as inferior in some way, shape, or form. It's the inbred psychological effect; ever since the time of the caveman, the men have been the dominant gender, and the same basic idea applies today. Take a look at the workplace; the men are most often a family's main provider and the person in power of a company is more than likely male. Though we all have "equal rights," the balance of power is still shifted towards the male gender. Though not as difficult to change as the one in Osama, the environment that is established as normal becomes a massive roadblock in the careers of many women, giving them an uphill battle for what they deserve. Though the psychology (for the male, anyway) in this type of circumstance points towards the male gaining the upper hand so as to remain superior and the provider, the female is forced on the defensive because of the hostile nature of their surroundings.

As this is the established trait, anything that causes a disturbance in our male-dominated society can be viewed as a massive threat, as the student body saw Shannon Faulkner at The Citadel or the women protesters were categorized in Osama. The battle between female and male has been waged for centuries, but it is because little has changed that the war continues onward. Recruits will still be brainwashed at The Citadel, at least in the apparent future, and there is nothing to suggest an official religion change anywhere in the Middle East. Can females break the "tradition" of male supremacy? Yes, especially with the courage showed by people such as Shannon Faulkner and Osama. But the masses will have to stick together and stand firm, in peace or in battle; even then, though, change may not take place without something near divine intervention. However, to quote an old cliché, it only takes a pebble to start an avalanche. But if nobody is listening, then did the avalanche ever occur?

Works Cited

Abu-Lughod, Lila. "Honor and Shame." The New Humanities Reader. Ed. Richard E. Miller and Kurt Spellmeyer. 2nd Ed. Boston: Houghlin. 26-52.

Chopra, Sehmina. "Liberation by the Veil." Islam101. 22 Sept. 2007. www.islam101.com/women/hijbene.html.

Faludi, Susan. "The Naked Citadel." The New Humanities Reader. Ed. Richard E. Miller and Kurt Spellmeyer. 2nd Ed. Boston: Houghlin. 131-164.

Osama. Dir. Siddiq Barmak. Perf. Marina Golbahari, Arif, Herati, Zubaida Sahar. 2003. DVD. MGM Home Entertainment, 2004.

Why Alpha Females Should Choose Alpha Males

By Cynthia Smith, published May 21, 2007

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Becoming the ultimate Alpha male is one of the hottest topics there is. Countless e-books exist which purport to teach a submissive Beta male how to develop Alpha traits. However, there aren't enough books that teach an Alpha female how to work with her Alpha male? How do you mesh the personalities of two people who are both dominant and bossy and who like to get their way?

Why would an Alpha male want an Alpha female when he wants to be in charge? Why would an Alpha female want an Alpha male when she needs to be in control?

In order to understand why this apparent oxymoron exists, one has to understand biology; in fact, one needs to understand wolf biology because the whole tagging of people as Alphas and Betas is based on observance of wolf pack behavior.

In the jungle, wolves live in packs. The pack is usually led by a dominant male, which animal sociologists call the Alpha male. The Alpha male mates with one female. She is the dominant female of the pack and she is called the Alpha female. She is dominant over the rest of the pack, males and females alike. She is submissive to only one wolf and that is the Alpha wolf. The male values her because she has the strength and intelligence to produce strong offspring

I'm discussing wolf behavior simply to point out an obvious fact. The Alpha female is dominant over all except her Alpha male. Alpha women do not need to feel ashamed that we want men to lead after all. We are still leaders on our jobs and in our places of worship.

No matter how much we, as women evolve, there are still parts of our female psyches that seek the protector. We still seek that man who can enter a room, assess the situation and take charge. When we meet men who don't have those strong leadership skills, we become frustrated and dominate them. If they are not worthy of leading us, then they should cower at our feet. No?

Why should I, as an Alpha female, choose a male that can dominate me? The Alpha in me responds to the Alpha in him. When I see him, I melt. When he speaks to me in his commanding voice, all my usual arrogance goes out the window. He understands who I am. I understand who he is. He understands my strength, but subtly lets me know that he is in charge now and that I no longer need to be in charge.

We are not wolves. Yet no matter how much we shave our hairy bodies, deodorize our odors, build tall buildings that speak of our prowess and drive around in fancy speed devils, we are still humans. We are still part of the animal kingdom. No matter how deep we bury our instincts, they are still there.

I am an Alpha female and I desire an Alpha male.

Definitions of Alpha Male

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posted Saturday, 8 October 2005

Definitions of Alpha Male on the Web:

a term used to describe a macho male character within a romance.
www.fictionforum.net/writers/articles/art01-02.html
An alpha male or alpha female is the individual in the community to whom the others follow and defer. Humans and their nearest species-relatives, the chimpanzees, show deference to the alpha of the community by ritualized gestures such as bowing, allowing the alpha to walk first in a procession, or standing aside when the alpha challenges. Canines also show deference to the alpha male in their pack, by allowing him to be the first to eat and the first to mate. ...
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_male

Human alpha, beta, and omega males: the reality

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posted Saturday, 15 October 2005

The subject of social dynamics, male/female relations, and the alpha/beta/omega dynamic is something I have been studying actively for months, both in reading and in life experience. I decided to take this study up after having had many girlfriends but having recently noticed that I was being broken up with first quite a lot. I suppose I had lost my magic after having graduated college and gotten focused on my career. My interest in this subject has nothing to do with me wanting to hurt or manipulate women.

I can surely attest that there are in fact alpha and beta males in the human portion of kingdom animalia. I would say that any woman who denies this probably denies a good portion of her own emotions and sensuality as well.

The alpha male...The funny, often charming guy who can be at a party and hardly say a word, but his body language says everything. The guy who could most likely have sex with a good portion of the women, single or hitched, in attendance that very night (and of course no one would be the wiser).

On the other side, the beta male. He very well might be good looking, funny, etc., but after ten minutes or so in the presence of the alpha male he will try to break the alpha male's frame of mind. He does this by subtle jokes that seem innocent but are intended to degrade the alpha male's status in the eyes of others. If he is successful in making the alpha male lose his cool and take the ‘low road’, he himself might very well be take the alpha position, for the night at least. I have seen it and been on both sides of it too many times to deny its reality. After all, it is the alpha male's world and most of the people there are just players within it.

The beta male might also readily submit to the alpha male in a genuine fashion, however. The beta male will also willingly argue with other beta males in an attempt to make others think he is the alpha male. Little does he know that the alpha male is just grinning to himself on the inside at the whole spectacle much of the time, and the women the beta male wants are more embarrassed than impressed by the beta male's behavior. Beta males often also act nice in order to curry favor with women and the alpha males.

Then there are the omega males – generally the true nice guys... but also what we call ‘losers’ Generally avoided, and the next day hardly anyone remembers they were even there. The guy who is almost guaranteed not to have sex that night, even if a women by luck takes a fancy to him, because his model of the world isn't such that he can take a girl home and just have sex with her if he so chooses.

This model I have just outlined is rigid and many of you will no doubt disagree with it. But there is a pecking order in life. The good news, at least, is that it isn't set in stone at birth: someone who is an alpha quarterback in high school can become a beta construction worker; and a beta or omega nerd in high school can become an alpha CEO later in his life.

And in the context of Taken In Hand – some natural alpha males who have hitherto let society fool them into thinking that Hollywood romantic beta behavior was what the world wanted of him, finally come around, as we have seen on this thread. There are many other permutations.

How has this insight changed things for me? Frankly, I no longer put women on a pedestal. I am still a gentleman. I open doors for women – hell, I open doors for men too, so it isn't a trick to curry favor. I now understand that women get attracted and have desire just as strong as that of a man.

My view is more realistic now... No scorn, no anger that my dream as a child of having a Hollywood romance may not happen – just realism. I am not the type of guy who wants to have sexual relations with every woman, but I have done experiments in pushing the envelope over the past 6 or 7 months. It has opened my eyes to the fact that the majority of women will do anything for what they perceive as the dominant male.

I have also started to understand social dynamics a bit better: I can see when people are trying to force me into a beta position. In the past I might not have caught it. I am cool and laidback and I wasn't really quick on the uptake, so to speak.

And this has been my realization: Men these days really aren't totally pussies at heart like they seem. They have merely been brainwashed into thinking this is the way to be.

What are Alpha, Beta, Gammas and Omega males?

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posted Saturday, 15 October 2005

Originally, the terms Alpha, Beta, and even Gammas and Omega male applied to animals who live in packs, such as wolves and apes.

The Alpha is the dominant one...The strongest, meanest and the one who gets to have sex with all the females...

The Betas are also strong, and occasionally get to sneak some sex, but if caught by the Alpha, may face serious reprocussions.

The Gammas and Omegas are the lowest of the low...The weak males..perhaps deformed, old, or horribly injured in a fight...The ones who have zero chance of getting any sex, and sadly won't be able to pass on their genes.

This structure doesn't apply to humans strictly, but it most DEFINITELY does apply. When you start to watch people, at bars, parties, any gathering of people, there will generally be one guy who, either from the start, or over time brings everyone else into HIS reality. Everyone laughs at his jokes, the women giggle and claw for his attention.

The Beta Human Male is the guy who is jealous, but still kisses the Alphas ass, and often will have silly arguments with other Betas all the while being ignored by the women..The whole time the alpha grins to himself on the inside at the whole specatle, knowing full well he can take at least a few of these women into the bathroom and have sex right then and there.

The Gamma and Omega Male Humans are the "losers"...They try to start a conversations and the whole time the other person is trying their best to excuse themselves, etc...They are not even remembered for being at the gathering in the first place.

"Some 80 percent of the women strive for just 5 percent of the men."

"from the Steel door site"

The only way to be a 'real' submissive is to be real. This means be who you are. Be truthful, especially to yourself. If you are in a position where you do not desire a singular commitment to one Dominant at this time then be truthful about this as well. Subterfuge, deceit and manipulation are actions of a desire to control or fear of loss. Honesty is a harsh path but it is the only path where happiness and joy bear fruit. To deliver the fullness of yourself you have to find out who you are, and you have to find out that honesty and you are enough, just exactly as you are.

My Daddy told me
"If you have to prove yourself to anyone, then you don't need them..."

And I respect him

I have been around in several different forms, images, and profiles online
I blog
I write
I inform
I entertain

I keeps it real

And I am not here to compete with anyone

But I do post info to many who wish to lurk
So that maybe they may leave with a bit more than they snuck up on my page with
*blank stare*

But some of yall need to learn how to learn how to learn
lol

Because whatever you call yourself
online
And in your own mind

Don't mean that you know jack about if you are
Unless you are what you are
Already

Now I don't care if you get up in your feelings about my words

I'm not your role model

And you aint important to my cause

So try to learn more than you know

Like something new

Or someone new


Because I have nothing to prove

Do you?


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Respecting being human first? (+/-)

I read alot about submissives and what they think
And frankly
I find it kinda funny how many of them really think
Dominants are some comic book hero or Harlequin romance figure

You hear them and see them dreaming of some image
That is fit for their liking
Including whatever they want them to be like
And be treated like

And they do all this building of these images
That sound nothing like what they need
More than what they want

And what's the good in that?

If you are so perfect as you are alone?
Then why would anyone want someone who thinks
They don't have to work
They don't have to serve
They don't have to submit
They don't have to respect them
If they don't feel it's what they want to do

*smirk*

And I'm not talking about being Domineering
I mean
After you make a mutual connection
And you form a understanding that you have enough in common to try to live together in some form of a relationship

What about the everyday issues you have to deal with?

What about the rest of your everyday life?

Are they a part of that too?

Or are they just contractors
Hired to be there when you need it
And then it's off, back to their corner
Until you need some attention
Again

*wicked grin*

Kinda like a teddy bear that you can toss on your bed when you are in need of some form of attention and inclusion to someone

A trophy

And no matter what you think

A Dominant is human too
And in many cases more human than you feel you are without them

And I don't mean every Dominant
Because there is NO one person who is alike

Yet you read these quotes and theories of how they should be
For a submissive
From a submissive

And the real fact is
A Dominant does not NEED a submissive
As much as they need someone who needs them
Respects them
Trust them
And has a desire to become a productive piece of their lives
As a submissive
To them

And willing to prove it
All for the price of being a part of that Dominants life

"Without return"
Because any real Dominant would respect any real submissives submission to them

Respectfully

I did say any real Dominant
Because just because you say you are something
And you feel it
You claim it
You name it

Don't mean that you are made for whoever wants to be a submissive
Even if it is to you

This is still the real world and this is still reality
And life aint easy for one person try'n to be progressive
Try'n to be positive
Try'n to be productive

Try'n not to be a waste of human flesh

And life is hard enough alone
But maybe if you were to find a partner
Someone who is down for your cause
Because your paths not only cross
But they support each other
As you would wish a partner would be
For life
And not until the cum dries

But that sounds deeper than just a vanilla relationship
Because it is

*duh*

You don't have to have a great plan
As long as you plan on having a plan
And sticking to it
Together

And this lifestyle stuff only adds style to your life

And not just something to do when your feeling kinky

Or it's just as well you do bad by yourself

And that goes for your life in general

And maybe that is why so many people don't like their lives as they are right now

They can't get it together by themselves
Without any help

But
What's the use of asking or even seeking help from others?
Only to feel the need to define and control your own life
No matter who else is in your life to some degree
You still feel the need to feel you are in charge of your own destiny

And that is not what this lifestyle is about
At least

This lifestyle is for people who are so busy being busy
Working on being productive
That this lifestyle offers a constructive foundation
To the part of your lives you spend together
When your not in the real world
Making moves
And paying bills
And making something more out of the blessings you have been given

And all of that does not sound like what you see people talking about they want from this lifestyle
And others who are in it or of it

If sex and playing like you are some royalty
Is all you see this lifestyle to be
Then you are the weakest link
Of this lifestyle

And this is not a selfish sport

If you claim to be submissive?

Or you desire to be that way to someone?

Then you have to consider the reality of your submission

You are at your best when you are of service to whom you serve
And not because they want you to serve them
But because you value their need to have a better partner
Who is a part of the big picture

Life with your Dominant
As you assist
As you support
As you live their life
And enjoying them enjoying your submission to them

Making them the happiest Dominant
And a stronger force in life
With you

And not just dragging a sleeping body of make believe submission
Bitching about what they want

*snicker*

Because you not only compliment them and their lives
You are a part of their lives
A investor
And you believe in them to be worth more with you
Than you without them
And they without you
Unless you have nothing to offer

The joy of giving someone everything they need to excel
And being a part of your gift to them

Your sub mission

Your submission to them is a weapon to all others who cross their path
Your submission to them is a trophy of their worth to you

Not your submission being perfect

But their Dominance can perfect your submission

Together

As a team
And their is no "I" in team
Maybe a "i" am the team
And you are a part of a plan

Like the good tires are to a expensive car

Not worth the body but they support the overall performance


And from what I have seen from many others?

They seem to think that they can get away with being
Cheap tires
Worn and only concerned about being used
And not concerned about their effect on that cars ability to win the race
They seem to feel that being a part of a loosing team
Is better than not being in the race at all

And the bottom line to life is?

Like in the expensive cars reality

If the car wins the race?
Even the tires become the winning sponsor

But we are not talking about tires or cars

We are talking about this lifestyle
And the relationships formed by it
And the value of your Dominance and sub mission to each others lives

And how to offer a better service to each other
As you live togeher
To some degree

And everyday is a new learning process
And everyone has to improve
To better suit each other
And the common goal of winning the race of life
The best you can
Together

Each one supports the other

But only one is the top of the food chain
They know what is needed
And you can only offer assistance
But they have the final say
And you respect that say and them

But if you do not feel that they are qualified to be that powerful?
Then why think about offering your power to them?
It's not called Kinda Power Exchange

Is your life and theirs worth so little to waste
Trying to be something to each other that you are not

This is not a game

As a Dominant

If you are not willing to live for more than just yourself?

Then maybe your just Dominant-ish

If you do not value positive results through your training?
Then why try to act like you have time to waste on others who do not want to change or improve?

You should not have to make someone want to become more to you and themselves

Because they are a part of your life
If you so claim to desire owning them and protecting them
Then you should not have to beat them into submission
They should desire your direction

Or you are fooling each other
And they do not respect your Dominance
And that will never change
If it does not change

And you will let them hurt you and your image
As you take the blame
For letting them
Act like they are doing something
They are not

Being a supportive submissive
To a respected Dominant

Because for me
I have a natural desire to provide for others who support me

I value sharing improvements together
When others are being supportive through their own evolution
Into a better team
Together
With me

Because I hear many women say they can do bad by themselves
But I seldom see them say they can do better with me
Or someone they are ready to respect
More than they have to date
(or fuck)

*blank stare*

But some people do not want as much out of life as others do
And we should not settle for not being lonely

We should have as much as we can get
And if we can do it together?
Then we can share the fruits of our labor together

And I think too many people risk too much of their time
Just fucking around
(or fucking)

And not pulling resources and building a better partnership
Together

And the kinky stuff is more fun when you enjoy learning more about each other
SSC

But most of all
When you let a Dominant mold you into what he can not live without?
You will not live without them

But it's work
And everyone has a job to do
And nobody is worth a day off over the other

Because life is not easy

But Sir Ez's life is better with this lifestyle
Than without it

But only when it works for me
And mines


And you will never be a submissive until you submit to someone you respect
And stay that way
Together
And they respect you for being you

Owned
By someone you respect

Forsaking all others
Together

Us against the world

And we are winning


Or your just dreaming of being something your not ready to wake up and learn how to become

And time waits for no one

And I wonder why so many people waste so much time
Acting like so many others have time to waste
On them

If you were worth what you feel you are as you are?
More people would want you more


But don't take it personal

This is just a lifestyle

Some of you first have to find a life
And then find out how much style you have to offer

And then you have to live
Together

Or not

But
Dominant or sub missive

We all are just imperfect humans on this earth

Looking for a better way of living a better way

And for me?

This lifestyle is worth more than sex
And more fun than just sex

But you have to first Master being able to respect sex
Because you can fuck yourself

But where is the fun in that?
When you can be kinky
Together

If you respect yourself first
And respect the need to respect others
Who respect you

And know the difference

Anyone can call themselves a Dominant or a sub missive

But what else do you have to work with?







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