A Sufi study Sunday...

In my studies I found a few words that I found helpful today


There are those who are like a lighted candle: they can light other
candles, but the other candles must be of wax - if they are of steel,
they cannot be lighted.

Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:

The voice of God is speaking all the time, but no one listens;
therefore God has manifested as man, that He might speak with a yet
louder voice. But even then man does not listen. In the time of
Christ the inspiration was there, the voice was there and the divine
power; but how few were those who listened and understood! ...
Whenever the spirit of God has come forth in its true form, the world
has been against it. Why has this been so? It is because man has two
sides to his nature, one false and the other real; and before the
true messenger can penetrate to the reality of a man's being, he
first touches the false or unreal part, and that revolts. And in the
case of a man who does not revolt, even though the light reaches him
his heart is covered, and it only touches the cover. Such a man is
attracted, yet he doubts.

There are egos who are not willing and ready to accept all that
attracts them. The more something attracts them, the more they rebel
against it, suspecting it of being a temptation. Even if they see the
reality of something that attracts them they consider the tendency of
being attracted to be a weakness. There are egos who refuse to accept
what their friend has accepted, and refuse to admire fully what that
friend has admired. And even if they really wish to accept something
that their friend has accepted, they will refuse to do so. For the
tendency of that ego is to swim against the tide ... building a
fortified wall between the messenger and the souls who long for
guidance. There are, however, those who are like lighted candles:
they can light other candles and they can inspire others. But the
other candles must be of wax; if they are of steel they cannot be
lighted. The heart must be like wax; it must melt; if it is like
steel, it cannot be illumined. ...

A person who, alone, has seen something beautiful, who has heard
something harmonious, who has tasted something delicious, who has
smelt something fragrant, may have enjoyed it, but not completely.
The complete joy is in sharing one's joy with others. For the selfish
one who enjoys himself and does not care for others, whether he
enjoys things of the earth or things of heaven, his enjoyment is not
complete. So it is only in this third stage that the following of the
message is fulfilled, when a soul has heard and has pondered upon it,
and has passed the same blessing on to others.

This was a busy weekend in my mind

The net acting up
The energy all over the place
The phone acting up

And just general life

The funny thing about dealing with others who have other lives

It's not about you

*grin*

So when they effect your life?

You have to regroup and reflect
And recharge

This is my day to do so

Have a great week

The greatest achievement is selflessness.
The greatest worth is self-mastery.
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
The greatest precept is continual awareness.
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
The greatest patience is humility.
The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.

Atisha


Without self-knowledge, we cannot go beyond the mind.
—J. Krishnamurti

I like my friends like good tissue. Soft to the touch, but strong enough to deal with some real crap

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TheKinkYHoTBoX/




respect

Why respect service when there is reason to serve?

Service is different things to different people at different times
For different reasons

But whats the difference?

Why is there such a confusion of what is expected and what is worthy to give?

How do you see service if you are not actively serving anyone?

Not just in the manner of a D/s relationship
But in general as well

Doing things for the need of just doing something
Or doing something that has a purpose

let's check with the Sufi mystics:

He who does not know about service knows even less about mastership,
Tirmizi


Service is the performing of duty without either reluctance or delight.
The dutiful is neither an exploited slave not one who seeks reward.
People will get out of the performing of duty what they can get out of
it. If they put aside immediate enjoyment of duty and also immediate
reluctance to duty, they are in a position to benefit from the other
content of service. This it is which refines their perceptions.
Pahlawan-i-Zaif

The Sufi Law of Life requires:

Sincerity to God

Severity to self

Justice to all people

Service to elders

Kindness to the young
Generosity to the poor
Good counsel to friends
Forbearance with enemies
Indifference to fools
Respect to the learned,
Abdullah Ansari



Service to a Dog

It is related of Bayazid of Bastam that while on one of his many
pilgrimages to Mecca there was a drought. Bayazid came across a number
of people fighting over a pitiful amount of water. While this was going
on, Bayazid noticed a dog dying of thirst that looked up at him with sad
eyes and somehow seemed to say "You will gain great merit if you help
me, O Pilgrim!" Bayazid was fired with a sense of mission and began to
ask people "Will anyone buy the merit of hajj for a drink of water for
this dog?" Everyone ignored him so he offered the merit of two
pilgrimages, then three, four and so on until he was offering seventy
pilgrimages and at last someone agreed. But Bayazid fell under the spell
of his nafs at this point and became proud of his charitable act as he
placed the bowl of water down at the feet of the dog who looked up at
him with contempt and walked away without tasting a drop. Bayazid was
quick to learn his lesson and it seemed to him that he heard God speak
and God said "How many more times are you going to claim merit for one
thing or another when even a dog disdains your so-called service?" At
this point, Bayazid reached the station of Taubat - repentance. Until he
had reached that station, his Sabr or patience in persisting with asking
for water and his Khidmat or service to his fellow man were of nothing
and it only took a dog to teach him that because for someone with
Bayazid's capacity, anything can be a teacher and even service to a dog
can bring such a sincere seeker progress on The Path.

The Path is nothing other than service but it has to be service done in
the right way with the right intention. How formally this is worked out
is a matter for the individual.

Zoe

In the story of "service to a dog"
The moral is more about reason

What was the benefit of said service?

Sometimes we do things we THINK is worth being called service
Only to find the need not important
Or even needed

Yet some find just like the subject in the story the need to fight for the ability to serve
Without reason

What about Dominants?

Are they driven by the need to serve or be served?
Should it be a one way street?

Should it be more important for a submissive to be driven to serve their master
Yet
The Master is not driven to return the same degree of devotion to the submissive

Is service different for part time lifestylers who live regular lives elsewhere and seek Kinky play with a part time provider?

And what about the act it's self?

What if what is given is not as needed or important compared to what may be more needed and important to whom is being served?

Is sex considered service more than the actual act of something more non sexual?

And then there is the selfish need to serve

Selfless Service is a commonly used term to denote a service which is performed without any expectation of result or award for the person performing it. It is also sometimes used to denote a service performed with no apparent 'earthly' result, but which may accrue results in a spiritual or heavenly realm after death, although in the pure sense of the term that would not qualify as a strictly 'selfless' action.

Some sub missives seem to consider the need to serve for their own return more than the possibility of need by the Dominant or provider

Many complain about the demands of many Dominants of all types
They complain about giving too much or being taken for a fool

But what is the motivation to serve?

And is service a natural act or pre meditated?


Why serve if there is no reason other than the return for said service?

I know there are many who advertise the need for service
And others who advertise the need to serve

But why?
How?
When?

What kind of service are you driven to serve for or not?

In many D/s relationships
Many people consider what they do in a D/s relationship
To be driven more by S/M

How do you see it?

Service





respect

Respecting being human first? (+/-)

I read alot about submissives and what they think
And frankly
I find it kinda funny how many of them really think
Dominants are some comic book hero or Harlequin romance figure

You hear them and see them dreaming of some image
That is fit for their liking
Including whatever they want them to be like
And be treated like

And they do all this building of these images
That sound nothing like what they need
More than what they want

And what's the good in that?

If you are so perfect as you are alone?
Then why would anyone want someone who thinks
They don't have to work
They don't have to serve
They don't have to submit
They don't have to respect them
If they don't feel it's what they want to do

*smirk*

And I'm not talking about being Domineering
I mean
After you make a mutual connection
And you form a understanding that you have enough in common to try to live together in some form of a relationship

What about the everyday issues you have to deal with?

What about the rest of your everyday life?

Are they a part of that too?

Or are they just contractors
Hired to be there when you need it
And then it's off, back to their corner
Until you need some attention
Again

*wicked grin*

Kinda like a teddy bear that you can toss on your bed when you are in need of some form of attention and inclusion to someone

A trophy

And no matter what you think

A Dominant is human too
And in many cases more human than you feel you are without them

And I don't mean every Dominant
Because there is NO one person who is alike

Yet you read these quotes and theories of how they should be
For a submissive
From a submissive

And the real fact is
A Dominant does not NEED a submissive
As much as they need someone who needs them
Respects them
Trust them
And has a desire to become a productive piece of their lives
As a submissive
To them

And willing to prove it
All for the price of being a part of that Dominants life

"Without return"
Because any real Dominant would respect any real submissives submission to them

Respectfully

I did say any real Dominant
Because just because you say you are something
And you feel it
You claim it
You name it

Don't mean that you are made for whoever wants to be a submissive
Even if it is to you

This is still the real world and this is still reality
And life aint easy for one person try'n to be progressive
Try'n to be positive
Try'n to be productive

Try'n not to be a waste of human flesh

And life is hard enough alone
But maybe if you were to find a partner
Someone who is down for your cause
Because your paths not only cross
But they support each other
As you would wish a partner would be
For life
And not until the cum dries

But that sounds deeper than just a vanilla relationship
Because it is

*duh*

You don't have to have a great plan
As long as you plan on having a plan
And sticking to it
Together

And this lifestyle stuff only adds style to your life

And not just something to do when your feeling kinky

Or it's just as well you do bad by yourself

And that goes for your life in general

And maybe that is why so many people don't like their lives as they are right now

They can't get it together by themselves
Without any help

But
What's the use of asking or even seeking help from others?
Only to feel the need to define and control your own life
No matter who else is in your life to some degree
You still feel the need to feel you are in charge of your own destiny

And that is not what this lifestyle is about
At least

This lifestyle is for people who are so busy being busy
Working on being productive
That this lifestyle offers a constructive foundation
To the part of your lives you spend together
When your not in the real world
Making moves
And paying bills
And making something more out of the blessings you have been given

And all of that does not sound like what you see people talking about they want from this lifestyle
And others who are in it or of it

If sex and playing like you are some royalty
Is all you see this lifestyle to be
Then you are the weakest link
Of this lifestyle

And this is not a selfish sport

If you claim to be submissive?

Or you desire to be that way to someone?

Then you have to consider the reality of your submission

You are at your best when you are of service to whom you serve
And not because they want you to serve them
But because you value their need to have a better partner
Who is a part of the big picture

Life with your Dominant
As you assist
As you support
As you live their life
And enjoying them enjoying your submission to them

Making them the happiest Dominant
And a stronger force in life
With you

And not just dragging a sleeping body of make believe submission
Bitching about what they want

*snicker*

Because you not only compliment them and their lives
You are a part of their lives
A investor
And you believe in them to be worth more with you
Than you without them
And they without you
Unless you have nothing to offer

The joy of giving someone everything they need to excel
And being a part of your gift to them

Your sub mission

Your submission to them is a weapon to all others who cross their path
Your submission to them is a trophy of their worth to you

Not your submission being perfect

But their Dominance can perfect your submission

Together

As a team
And their is no "I" in team
Maybe a "i" am the team
And you are a part of a plan

Like the good tires are to a expensive car

Not worth the body but they support the overall performance


And from what I have seen from many others?

They seem to think that they can get away with being
Cheap tires
Worn and only concerned about being used
And not concerned about their effect on that cars ability to win the race
They seem to feel that being a part of a loosing team
Is better than not being in the race at all

And the bottom line to life is?

Like in the expensive cars reality

If the car wins the race?
Even the tires become the winning sponsor

But we are not talking about tires or cars

We are talking about this lifestyle
And the relationships formed by it
And the value of your Dominance and sub mission to each others lives

And how to offer a better service to each other
As you live togeher
To some degree

And everyday is a new learning process
And everyone has to improve
To better suit each other
And the common goal of winning the race of life
The best you can
Together

Each one supports the other

But only one is the top of the food chain
They know what is needed
And you can only offer assistance
But they have the final say
And you respect that say and them

But if you do not feel that they are qualified to be that powerful?
Then why think about offering your power to them?
It's not called Kinda Power Exchange

Is your life and theirs worth so little to waste
Trying to be something to each other that you are not

This is not a game

As a Dominant

If you are not willing to live for more than just yourself?

Then maybe your just Dominant-ish

If you do not value positive results through your training?
Then why try to act like you have time to waste on others who do not want to change or improve?

You should not have to make someone want to become more to you and themselves

Because they are a part of your life
If you so claim to desire owning them and protecting them
Then you should not have to beat them into submission
They should desire your direction

Or you are fooling each other
And they do not respect your Dominance
And that will never change
If it does not change

And you will let them hurt you and your image
As you take the blame
For letting them
Act like they are doing something
They are not

Being a supportive submissive
To a respected Dominant

Because for me
I have a natural desire to provide for others who support me

I value sharing improvements together
When others are being supportive through their own evolution
Into a better team
Together
With me

Because I hear many women say they can do bad by themselves
But I seldom see them say they can do better with me
Or someone they are ready to respect
More than they have to date
(or fuck)

*blank stare*

But some people do not want as much out of life as others do
And we should not settle for not being lonely

We should have as much as we can get
And if we can do it together?
Then we can share the fruits of our labor together

And I think too many people risk too much of their time
Just fucking around
(or fucking)

And not pulling resources and building a better partnership
Together

And the kinky stuff is more fun when you enjoy learning more about each other
SSC

But most of all
When you let a Dominant mold you into what he can not live without?
You will not live without them

But it's work
And everyone has a job to do
And nobody is worth a day off over the other

Because life is not easy

But Sir Ez's life is better with this lifestyle
Than without it

But only when it works for me
And mines


And you will never be a submissive until you submit to someone you respect
And stay that way
Together
And they respect you for being you

Owned
By someone you respect

Forsaking all others
Together

Us against the world

And we are winning


Or your just dreaming of being something your not ready to wake up and learn how to become

And time waits for no one

And I wonder why so many people waste so much time
Acting like so many others have time to waste
On them

If you were worth what you feel you are as you are?
More people would want you more


But don't take it personal

This is just a lifestyle

Some of you first have to find a life
And then find out how much style you have to offer

And then you have to live
Together

Or not

But
Dominant or sub missive

We all are just imperfect humans on this earth

Looking for a better way of living a better way

And for me?

This lifestyle is worth more than sex
And more fun than just sex

But you have to first Master being able to respect sex
Because you can fuck yourself

But where is the fun in that?
When you can be kinky
Together

If you respect yourself first
And respect the need to respect others
Who respect you

And know the difference

Anyone can call themselves a Dominant or a sub missive

But what else do you have to work with?







respect

Lusting for a vanilla life?

Respecting the norm?

Working on a relationship of any kind can be hard

But when you are single and a provider
And not a mate


It can be a bit more stressful

But it can be done

If it is worth it

But with no direction or mutual plan
You can end up just spinning your wheels
And waisting a great deal of time

But that depends on what you want
And what you are willing to do to have it

But what about whoever you are dealing with?

Do they feel the same?

Do they have the same plan and direction with you?

Do they compliment you and you them?

Because you can have a lifestyle relationship and not be in a vanilla relationship
Or you can them both

But that takes more work

And we all have needs

But sometimes I really desire more than just being more to others than I have from anyone on a personal level

Meaning?

If you don't mutually stand for something together?

Then you will only have what is available

If you agree

Together

Or not

*snicker*

But when there is no emotional bond

All you have is faith, trust, and whatever you agree to be to each other

Or not



respect

Respecting D/s 24/7

It's always a bit more helpful to have more support
And when you find others who respect you
And each other
You can build a better foundation
Together


Everybody wants to do many of the things some of us do on a 24/7 basis

Some want to have productive relationships
Some want to be poly

But many find it to be more of a dream than a possibility

But it is work

And the pay off for being productive is worth the effort

Because it's all about what works well for you
But many find it harder to try than to do
And even harder to keep doing it
And doing it better in time

Every relationship is unique

Each person has needs and desires to support what they respect

And for me and mines?

We respect the ability to provide each other with positive support through the D/s lifestyle

And it has been helpful to all of us in one way or the other
We support each other mentally, physically and spiritually

And that is a rare combination to find and work with

So I guess it is what you make it
Every day you work at being more to each other
And it is a day to day struggle to stay respectful of each other's devotion to the whole
(here's a interesting post)

http://www.polygrrl.blogspot.com/

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Jealousy, Envy, Compersion, A Mish Mash of Thought.

Jealousy, envy and compersion…

It is generally agreed that jealousy happens, much like shit hitting the fan. There are times you can see it coming and maybe you can get out of the way. Sometimes, sometimes is flys out of no where.
I think a long time ago I felt a lot of what I thought of as jealousy. I see now that it was envy that I was feeling most of the time. I’m no saint, I’ve been jealous before.

But I learned though that there is a huge difference between jealousy and envy.

Jealousy is something that has the potential to destroy. It’s when someone wants what someone else has. They covet that possession to a degree that emotionally sets it apart from envy. Perhaps they will stop at nothing to have it or they will create problems for the one in possession.
Envy is a little different. It’s wanting what someone else has, but not feeling it to the degree that they’d act upon it. They want something like it, but not the exact thing that another person has. It can burn just like jealousy, but it doesn’t eat away at the person. It just sits and eventually cools.

Well, such things are easy to understand when say, you like your friends girlfriend. You can see the obvious boundary. He doesn’t share. She’s not yours, etc.

In poly though, um, you are sharing. You have access to your friend’s girlfriend. That girlfriend is your girlfriend, too.

In the latter case, jealousy and envy can seem closely knitted together. I would say though that the gut of both still hasn’t changed. Jealousy can move one to destroy a relationship. Envy is just wanting what someone else has without the emotional pressure to do something about it other than to look for your own piece of that universal joy.

But you know how does that work when two people have the same piece of pie? Can you have the same relationship with someone that someone else has with that same someone? Hmmm, that’s a little confusing. ( At least to me and I’m writing this shit.) So let me create some peoples.

Blam!!!!!!

Albert, Becky and Carl are a threesome. Albert and Becky met first; they are married. Carl comes along and joins the family. ( For reals, not that fake “sure you’re apart of the family” that some people dole out.) They all live together.

Carl loves Becky a great deal. Sometimes he wishes he were the one married to her. He thinks it might be nice to have that with her, but he won’t push it because he walked into the relationship fully understanding that Becky leaving Albert was the ultimate limit to what the three could have. Yet, Carl still dreams of it...

I’d call that envy.

Now for jealousy. ( This should be fun!!!)

Albert likes Carl. Carl’s a bit younger, maybe a little more fit. Big Al’s not packing the muscle like Carl is. Maybe Albert thinks Carl is funnier, smarter, maybe Carl makes more money than Albert. Who knows? Jealousy is weird. It picks anything to freak over and sometimes it freaks over the silliest of things. Maybe Albert is intimated because Carl is blonde…
Anyway, Albert hates to leave Carl alone with Becky. He promises them time, but he always comes home early or has to break the date. He’s constantly manipulating the situation and using his power to get what he wants.
Becky is upset but she doesn’t know what to do. She just wants to have some quality time with Carl, that’s all. She loves Albert and she would never leave him. She’d like to love Carl the same way, but Albert won’t seem to let it.
Carl is at a loss. He cares for both Albert and Becky. He wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize their marriage, but then he wants to have some time with Becky. Albert is married to Becky, she sleeps in his bed every night, they have had 10 years together, what more does he want?

Albert has let his insecurities take over and he’s not playing nice. He’s tossing his weight around and holding Becky and Carl emotionally hostage. Neither Becky nor Carl want to upset Albert to the point he wants to back out on this, but they want to be happy, too.

Okay so this isn’t Danielle Steel material, but you know a lot of poly jealousy is like this. It’s very covert at times. In this scenario Albert is creating animosity and manipulating the situation. He is constantly forcing Becky to choose him over Carl. He is making both of them feel his “primary power”. In the end, this is going to build resentment. It’s going to harm the relationships, all of them, A to B, B to C, A to C.

And it’s going to prevent compersion.

Ah, compersion. That’s such a soft fluffy word.

If Albert and Carl hit it off, if the two of them give each other respect and space and the most precious of all things, time with their lovers they will build compersion. They will be happy to see the other happy with Becky. They won’t feel cheated of anything so they won’t mind seeing the other one cuddled up on the couch watching TV.

I mean, in the icky situation do you see Carl smiling happily while Albert cuddles up to Becky? He didn’t get his night with her. He hasn’t had any quality time. I doubt he will smile a wit that isn’t filled with “Albert you suck.”

Yeah, I made Albert the bad guy. This blog is for secondaries after all.. We can all go find a page written form the primary view that is full of fears of what Carl may do. I say fuck Albert he’s an ass. J

But you get what I’m touching on right?

Maybe not because I haven’t really made a point yet. Let’s see if I can sum it up.

Jealousy and envy are different.
Jealousy bad.
Envy good. ( Well, okay.)
If you allow jealousy to run you, you can destroy your relationships.
Actively acting on jealousy hampers compersion.
Compersion is the goal for happy poly.

If you don’t confront jealousy it will make things hard. Face it, communicate it, deal with it, move on.

Oh, if it were only that easy.


Oh shit!!! I forgot, Can you have the same relationship??? Can Albert have the same thing with Becky that Carl has and vice versa?

Hell no. Each combination has its own dynamic and personality. Each person brings their own experience, creativity, joy, and baggage to their relationships. I’ve got leopard print luggage. You have a mish mash of JC Penny discards. We carry our sets on the flight and we have our own unique parade of wheeled luggage. Albert has moss green luggage that looks like birds shit on it. Not the same, totally not the same.

And you should be proud of it, proud of what you can offer not upset about what you can’t.

Gosh, maybe I should think about outlines.

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http://en.allexperts.com/q/BDSM-2733/Entering-poly-relationship.htm

Topic: BDSM

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Expert: awhitecloud
Date: 10/3/2007
Subject: Entering a poly relationship

Question
What can i expect from a poly D/s relationship if i am the third? i am new to the lifestyle and have been reaserching about it, but i can't find any websites that caters to Poly D/s relationships. Could you please help me?

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here are some links that might help!

http://community.livejournal.com/polybdsm

http://www.polygrrl.blogspot.com/ this site is all about Poly and being a secondary

http://www.polyamoryonline.org/interviews/poly_interview_101805.html

http://www.wintersinn.com/thoughts.htm

http://www.dmoz.org/Society/Relationships/Alternative_Lifestyles/Polyamory/Perso...

http://boston.polyamory.org/polycol/polycol-10.html

http://www.steel-door.com/polygamy.htm This is a nice overview

I do not think that being third can be that much different then being the second or the fourth or so one. The only major differences I have found is at the top and the alpha and everyone needing to work together.

I have been in a few poly relationships it is a lot of work for all concerned, you most be able to give and take. Have you seen the show Big Love on HBO? Well it has some good concepts on poly I do not think it fits over all into what things really are like but it does touch on some good things. You can learn more about the show on www.hbo.com and go to big love.

The biggest thing I have found is that you need to have communication and not to hold things inside of you that you may be feeling. You need to be able to deal with the feelings and to talk about them openly and to work through them.

I hope that this has helped you some and if you have more questions please contact me I will do my best to help you.

Thank you

awhitecloud

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Family

A basic foundation of support for each other as a family
Lifestyle Friends

Imperfect human beings who found some comfort in the living together in some manner together in the D/s lifestyle 24/7




That's what we do

And as the top of the food chain in this D/s relationship
I am proud to say that we have been more blessed together
As we live and learn each other more
We grow

And that is what many of you fail to find
Because you seek a unfair reality as to what this lifestyle is about in general

D/s in some ways is like adult parenthood
Some ways it's like a group or gang
Family in kink
A crew

And I can honestly say that the road has not been easy
But it has it's rewards
Because the other moments we spend away from the Dungeons
The moments we live vanilla lives apart in some manner
We still support each other as grown adults of like minds

And many come and go in our lives and lifestyles
But our foundation is built on a lifetime commitment to respect each other as individuals
And then as friends
And then as family in a Poly D/s lifestyle

And there is room for growth
Together
And we all support anyone who respects what we do together

In our own style
In our own lives

Together

And even though I am the top of the food chain in this relationship
I am only as good as we all are to each other

And as long as we can support each other
As long as we provide positive energy to each of us as a family

Nothing is impossible together

And it takes more time than a few meet and greets
It takes more time than a few sessions
It takes more time than a few ups and downs
It takes time to learn each other more



It is what it is for us


Poly D/s
Pimpstyle
*wicked grin*


Not that any of you need to understand what we do or not
But we know that the most important objective
Is to be productively supportive to each other as a D/s Poly Family

All we ask is that you understand that we respect this lifestyle
That we do

And if you are about being more in these lifestyles than without them?

Then maybe we are at least on the same page


Maybe we can learn from each other as a BDSM lifestyle community

And maybe not

But for us


D/s
S&M
Open Sexual expression
SSC

Is what we respect
Together


And for that we have been blessed
To have these lifestyles as a basic format
As to how to add more style to our lives
And respect each other
And the Pimpstyle House as a whole

And today I just want to thank everyone who has been productive
To us
To our way of life
To our lifestyle as adult POCs in a SSC manner

So for me
AMP Sir Ez
Loki

Mlfu
Mlfd
And all that my fall under consideration in the days to come

We wish you all a better chance in finding what works for you
And youres

At least in these sexual lifestyles










respect

Sadist are funny... To some people.

Respecting the Sadistic mindset?

It's funny how different a Sadistic mind thinks

UNLIKE NORMAL THINKING PEOPLE

We all tend to see even humor in a different light

Here is how the convo went...

One day Little Johnny heard a noise and peeked into his parents room to check it out. He opened the door to see his mom bent over the dresser and dad going at it behind her. Johnny's dad saw him and gave him a little wink as Johnny closed the door. After business was finished Dad went to check on little Johnny. He opened his bedroom door to find Grandma bent over the dresser and little Johnny going at it behind her. Dad yelled, "Johnny, what the hell are you doing?!" Little Johnny replied, "It's not so funny when its your mom is it?!" HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!

Master Pimp Ez
Priceless!

sunsetlady0708
lol
i say yuck

Master Pimp Ez
lol
I bet grand ma was the bomb
lol

sunsetlady0708
??


Master Pimp Ez
a joke?
Johnny was a sadist


sunsetlady0708
lol


Master Pimp Ez
it didn't have anything to do with the grandma


sunsetlady0708
no he wanted his pops to suffer


Master Pimp Ez
DUH!


sunsetlady0708
he really didnt have an open mind on the matter
he could have talk it out with his poops


Master Pimp Ez
And your point?
What would a Sadist do?
He was talking it out
the same way


sunsetlady0708
well to stop that young child from reaching that point... he should have minded his pops and just ask what they were doing... pops would have told him that , that is what mommy and daddy do
then johnny would not have gone there beccause granny wasnt his
how i get them to sshhhhhs


Master Pimp Ez
No
The grandma that Johnny was fuckin
Was his FATHERS mother
He was his step son


sunsetlady0708
still a mommy and daddy thing


Master Pimp Ez
Can I use this convo for a blog?
With your permission?


sunsetlady0708
lol noooooooooooo
i might sound stupid
most moms ands dads teach kids that that is what they do


Master Pimp Ez
Come on man...we can call it a joke of the week...lol
I'll take your name off of it


sunsetlady0708
so because of that johnny had no reason to do granny if pops explained it to him


Master Pimp Ez
no
because it was a great convo
I think all of this is great!
Ok


sunsetlady0708
are you going to just use the JOKE
and not our conversation


Master Pimp Ez
I am asking for your ok for me to p[ost your name as it is or take it off when I do this post
what say you?
*blank stare*


sunsetlady0708
are you posting the joke
posting the joke is ok
thanks for asking
now i feel bad cause you were so polite about asking
so in the note you may post the whole thing
and you dont have to block my name out



And that is how this joke became funnier


But what is more funny?

The first joke?

Or the way the joke turned out?



(this post was reposted with the consent of said parties)



respect

Session in kink

Respecting the flesh?

She entered my door
And fell to the floor
She knew that she had no clue what was in store
But she new she wanted more

And she lay at my feet in defeat
In the position
Of submission

She noticed I have pretty feet.
I noticed that she had sexy hands and feet too.
And limber
That fine young tender
I could not wait to bend her
In every direction
As she worshiped my erection
She made the right selection in her submission
Her lust for a Dominant position

Her servitude was her own condition


I allowed her to explore my flesh with her hands and her feet
This kinky little freak was not weak
And she was to get more than she could seek

As I answered her last question
We started the session
...

Respecting your fresh flesh
I love your fetish of feet
With warm pudding

"Fresh meat, so sweet!"

I love your dexterity

Your limbs are so talented
So are mine
As I squeeze your nipples with my toes
You know where your mouth goes
And you have good taste and it shows

As my lust grows
It blows your mind
To know that it's mine
And I am greedy
Not needy
I just want to hear you plead with me to stop

Because I'm not!
Just because you are getting too hot?

"You better give it all you got!"

Because tonight we are gonna find a few new spots

To explore

Soil you worse than a whore
And make you beg for more
Of me

Because your fetish is to please me
And I'm nasty
I do not fear being damn near ghastly
Nothing to freaky to get past me


Because I am gonna make your ass see
My fetish is the wettest fantasy
This is more than just kinky
But SSC

This is personally
Respecting your flesh
Respecting my flesh



And then the session ended the warm up stage

"Yes my pet, you will be my slave"

Now turn that ass around and try to behave

*wicked grin*

I strapped her to the work out bench
And began to pinch
Every inch

She was bound
And gaged to not make a sound
At least that would have the cops to come around

Because I am about to get down
And durty

"Lawd, this aint gonna be purty"

As I opened my kinky toy case
I could see the fear on her face

She came for pleasure and pain
And she did not complain

And I ravaged her senses
And her only defenses
Was the surprise with each sensation I gave her
Only made her
WETTER


" I think I better get her a new box of wet wipes "

*snicker*

Because tonight
She might
Just fight
For her right
To find sub flight

From tickle to to terror
I would dare her to scream her safe word

And she suffered the most intense pleasure and pain
And did not complain

She just drifted off to her special place

With that silly spent look on her face

She had did her best
To find a better respect for her flesh
My flesh
My fetish
My freaky kink
That took her to the brink
Until she could not think
Just be

Because her flesh belonged to me



respect

You have to know how to relate before a relationship

Respecting the Horse before the cart?

As a child around 9 or 10
My Father took me to a drum circle with my drum
And I watched as the Drum Master lead the circle
And I wanted to learn from that Master how to better play my drum
But as the end of the day of playing drums came
The Drum Leader was ready to go home
Tired

And I never got a chance to ask him
But I asked others as I grew up playing My drum
And they told me
If you want to be a drummer?
Buy a drum and play it
The more you play, the more you become a drummer

And I did

And 35 years later
I moved back to DC
And I went back to that same park
And saw that same Drum Master
And I brought my drum
And I sat in with the other drummers
And played My drum with them

And I would show up every Sunday early just so I could catch him and ask him my request of him
And I would end up being one of the first drummers there
And while we waited others would try to play their drums
And I would try to at least show them how to stay on beat
And how to listen to others
And learn how to play well with them

And one day I watched him arrive at the park early enough to watch me play with these others who were just as eager as I was to learn from that Master

And he looked at me and smiled in a way that scared me to ask him anything while I was playing in that circle

And after a few years I finally got a chance to ask the Drum Master if he would teach me how to better play My drum on the last day of drum circle season

And he said to me
"I will teach you when we come back for the first day of the new season of the drum circle"
And he smiled at me with that same smile again!

And when winter broke and we had our first good weather day on Sunday enough for us all to start playing at the park again
I eagerly took my drum to the park to play

And I got a phone call from one of the other drummers on my way there

And he said to me
"Hey Ez, if your on your way to the park?"
"You are in charge while we play the funeral of our Drum Master!"

And I was in shock

Because that was who I was running to the park to learn from

And now I was on My way to that park with My drum
Being told that I had to lead the drum circle until the others showed up from the funeral of Our Drum Master of over 40 years

And I arrived at the park normally early
And the other newer drummers and children were there waiting
And I showed up and we played

And I have been that image of a Master Drummer every Sunday
And I am learning how to play MY DRUM better

Without My Master

"Or have I"

*wink*

I digress...


So many people in these so called ADULT lifestyle communities tend to think that you can put
"the Horse before the Cart"
By try'n to perfect a position or title without first understanding that these lifestyles require that you first understand and respect your own personal RELATIONSHIP Skills first

No matter how Dominant or submissive you want to be
If you suck at forming and keeping a productive relationship in your life

Then YOU are the weakest link!

"I was told a while back that if I was to learn more about being a better Dominant?
I should find a mentor that is in a productive lifestyle relationship
And learn from them and their relationship
And the same went for friends of mine who wanted to be sub missive"

I have since learned how rare that truly is to find

And now I question anyone who teaches anyone something that they are not doing themselves in real time productively

Thus
I have learned more about relationships and personality dysfunctions
And how they are more important than much of the training many claim they need or have as a Dominant or sub missive

So let's first talk about relationships
And how they differ in these adult lifestyles

" Interpersonal relationships"

In the contexts of sociology and of popular culture, the concept of interpersonal relationships involves social associations, connections, or affiliations between two or more people. Such persons may interact overtly, covertly, face-to-face; or may remain effectively unknown to each other (as in a virtual community whose members maintain anonymity and do not socialize outside of a chat-room).
"Meaning?"

Too many people talk the talk
But they walk around acting like we should trust them with our own lives and lifestyles just because they claim to be something you wish to become

"But actions and reality speaks louder than words"

And most people are best at online relationships than they are at living the reality of a productive relationship in real time
Or they are just fantasizing about being something they have not become as of yet
If ever

Analysts of interpersonal relationships (namely, any functioning humans) may view a relationship as focused (such as the sales-oriented relationship between a sales assistant and a customer) or as unfocused (as between passengers on a bus). People traveling to a football-match share a relationship — whether they support the same team or opposing teams. The significance of the relationship may not become apparent until they cheer or boo. In each case culture will tend to define the forms of both accepted and unacceptable interactions.

Interpersonal relationships vary in their degree of self-disclosure, feedback, power and respect — to name but a few aspects. They vary in the extent to which culture and language define or construct them. They vary in the degree to which people can question, challenge or change relationships of relevance to themselves; and that degree of changeability itself can demonstrate power-differentials in a variety of interpersonal relationships and settings.

Relationships vary in the degree to which both intimacy and sharing occur — implying the discovery or establishment of common ground over time. They may or may not center around things shared in common.

So what are you missing in this definition?

Interpersonal relationships as a category may have escaped public attention until the late 20th century:

The term "relationship", as applied to personal life, came into general use only twenty or thirty years ago, as did the idea that there is a need for "intimacy" or "commitment" in personal life."

If valid, this view raises questions as to what has changed — and how — to bring about the result where interpersonal relationships receive so much attention — both in academia and in popular lore.

Teens and parents go through a stage where relationships are lost or broken up by the changes kids go through as they mature into adults.

Over 90% of all failed relationships result from a lack of honest communication and awareness

So how can anyone teach the masses about something they have not yet mastered themselves?

Intimate relationships?

An intimate relationship is a particularly close interpersonal relationship. It is a relationship in which the participants know or trust one another very well or are confidants of one another, or a relationship in which there is physical or emotional intimacy.

Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate love and attachment, or sexual activity.

Love is an important factor in physical and emotional intimate relationships. Though the term is notoriously difficult to define, any thoughtful inquiry into the subject will show it to be qualitatively, not only quantitatively, different than liking, and the difference is not merely in the presence or absence of sexual attraction. According to one analysis, love in relationships is divided into two types: passionate and companionate. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate). Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy and is not necessarily accompanied by physiological arousal.

People that are in an intimate relationship with one another are often called a couple, especially if the members of that couple have ascribed some degree of permanency to their relationship. Such couples often provide the emotional security that is necessary for them to accomplish other tasks, particularly forms of labor/work. A popular American phrase states: "Couples that work together, lurk together."

Meaning?

If you lack the skills to become at least a productive couple?
Then nothing more will prosper
(ie: Poly, Swingers, or lifestyle couples)

A free union is a union between two persons that lacks any publicly recognized bond (either civil or religious).

The phrase "free union" is misleading, and the Catechism of the Catholic Church raises the question of what "union" can mean in the phrase "free union". The expression "free union" includes situations such as concubinage, rejection of marriage as such, or inability to make long-term commitments. According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, being in a "free union" is a grave offense against the dignity of marriage.

So, for many people who claim they seek a lifestyle relationship
They don't have to get married to have one
They don't have to be that committed to each other
But they do have to have a common bond of respect and faith in what they seek together
And in this case it is these adult sexual lifestyles

*blank stare*

And no matter how much you think you can learn about these lifestyles
No matter how much training you get

If you can not relate enough with whom you claim you seek enough to provide a better foundation of a relationship together?

Your just acting like you are what you are not ready to become to whomever may seek your services


And I am not judging any of you
But I do know that few of you are in any kind of fruitful relationships with anyone
Not even yourselves
*snicker*

So much of what many are reading from others who claim they are mentoring as to how to become a better "whatever"

Are just as blind being led by others who are blind as to how to first form a productive union with anyone

And I wonder how can someone with deep seated issues with the other sex, can actually claim they are ready to offer themselves up to someone who is of the other sex?

If you don't trust Men or Women in general?
How can you act as if you are ready to trust them enough to form a relationship worth anything more than a play session and a booty call?

"Aint that like putting the horse before the cart?"

(real talk here)

So while some may see this post as a insult or bullshit?
At least a few of us do know how to at least keep a relationship with someone for a better amount of time than what others have had and lost, only to now feel the need to teach others how to do the same

*blank stare*

So let me offer you a article that I read by someone that had a better outlook than what I have read from a few others who claim they are about teaching a better view of what this lifestyle is really about

http://www.humbledfemales.com/femininemystique.html


Shared Wisdom On Femininity
& Submission

By Master Obsidian's slave, namaste

Read more of namaste's writings here:
http://his-namaste.livejournal.com

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.

— Anais Nin

Modern women have fought for and won what women prior to the 1950's never had before. The female presence is seen in the boardroom, in the military, in institutions of higher learning. We get equal pay, equal political rights and control over reproduction...so why are so many of us more stressed and less fulfilled than ever before?

I submit to you dear readers, that perhaps in the process of fighting for what we did not have, we have abandoned and lost what we had. We have lost the feminine mystique. In my desire to embrace the feminine mystique I sought to recall a knowledge, a secret if you will, that seemed to be lost. When I have looked at relationships that last and are truly happy, when I have met women who have that "inner glow" and seem to revel in being women, when I read The Christian Bible, The Jewish TaNaKh, the Muslim Quran, the Tao or The Kama Sutra, I have come away with certain truths that resonate for me, certain things that, though not popular, seemed to work. It is in my embracing of these truths and actually living them I have found that centeredness which seems so elusive to modern women. Today I'd like to share some truths that have been very beneficial to me and I believe had made me MORE of a woman and more in tune with my femininity.

Women do not need to compete with Men, to Be as Men are.

It is within the scope of our differences that we are made one. It is through the Union of our two equal but opposite energies that Wholeness is created. A unit composed of only one energy type will eventually destroy itself. However in the wholeness that comes from having BOTH types of energy you can find your sense of self expressed and understood most poignantly. I am not a man. I've no desire to be a man, to look like or conduct myself as a man. Furthermore, I have no need to compete with any man...more or less with my Master. To compete suggests wanting to occupy the Space He occupies, if I'm in the Space that is His, where will He be? And who will be in the space I have abandoned?

His strength requires my gentleness and softness.

Often as women we desire for Men to be strong, however we might want to consider that the strength of a Man will require the gentle softness of a woman. I have noticed I feel most loved and cherished by Master when I am soft and gentle. This is not to say it is always easy. At times my initial inclination was to respond to hurt or fear by becoming cold and distant. Master would not allow me to do this. He worked with me by not allowing my defenses. I found myself responding to Him in softness, and I found Him handling me differently. His strength REQUIRES me to be soft. I can not respond differently and expect a good outcome. If I respond to His strength with hardness like stones, we cut against each other and eventually one of us will break. Because I am the weaker, it will be me.

His Leadership requires my yielding.

I have always wanted a Man who would lead. Most women I know say they want this as well. However, the truth is often that we want a man who will lead the way we would lead. In reality, if I want Him to lead I need to be willing to follow, to yield. It seems an interesting phenomenon that women want a Leader and yet will become angry if a man does not do their bidding, and then if He DOES, most women will hold the man in contempt for doing so.

I read a quote some years ago by Marlene Dietrich which speaks to this: "To be completely woman you need a Master, and in him a compass for your life. You need a man you can look up to and respect. If you dethrone him it's no wonder that you are discontented, and discontented women are not loved for long."

When I yield to Master's leading by being encouraging and supportive I am laying the foundation for us to have a healthy and long lasting relationship. I am opening myself and providing fertile ground for intimacy and bonding, rather than being a chore and sufferance. Yeilding brings a state of being that provides for my contentment as well. A contented woman is more attractive and lovely to her Master, and has a greater sense of self.

His desire and passion requires my reckless abandon.

This is a difficult one. Most women are raised and taught that to be a lady and a woman of worth means displaying very little sexual desire. When we enter into a relationship we then maintain this view and snuff out our Master's desire. This applies to women out of the scene and often to women who embrace submission as well. Giving ourselves over to the storms of passion our Master's ignite within us, without concern for propriety or demeanor can be a scary prospect. However, if I want Master to display and unleash passion on me, I must overcome these old tapes and give myself over to the fires He fuels. Rather than perfectly coifed and demure, when I am in His bed He desires to see my hair mussed by passion, lips bruised from kissing, my cheeks streaked with tears from crying. He'd rather hear my voice husky and broken rather than cool and controlled. Restraint in the bedroom is not a virtue.

His Dominance requires my submission.

If I would have Him be Dominant I must submit. This is the total crux of the matter in living a life of submission. To prefer His will over my own. To relinquish my way for His. This is the price of fulfillment. That I would embrace His masculinity, His strength His power and meet it with my submission, my weakness and vulnerability. That I would feel my femaleness to my core without the brittle mantle of control so many of my sisters seem to need to carry. We are told that fulfillment is found in control. What if it isn't? What if the road to peace and joy in our relationships is not pulling, but yielding? No leading but following? Not standing but submitting?

Now I am not here to be anyone's role model

You can live as you see fit
But I could care less about anyone one of you who claim you are a part of a lifestyle that I too respect a bit more than I am respected by anyone I am not fucking or fucking with

So take this anyway you want

*wicked grin*

But I personally think that too many of you online lifestyle people debate more with each other than you show anyone why they should be a part of whatever YOU call a community in these lifestyles for so called POCs

And it shows

lol






Without self-knowledge, we cannot go beyond the mind.
—J. Krishnamurti

I like my friends like good tissue. Soft to the touch, but strong enough to deal with some real shit!

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TheKinkYHoTBoX/

...


respect

Being anal about Scat or skat...lol

Respecting skat? Awl funk that!

Anyone who says they are not into skat?

Don't no crap about that

In fact
They can be quite anal about it

They aint into shit

I mean not even the smell of it

"Fuck that shit!"

*wicked grin*


http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa/28_love_secrets.html

What Women Love & Hate About Anal

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By Jasmine Leigh
Relationship Correspondent - Every Saturday

Anal sex is just one of those things:

she either loves it, or she hates it.

There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the "lucky ones" who love anal sex.

The reason for this avoidance is clear:

"pain."

If there was no pain, there was probably pleasure.

Hence, love or hate.

It is true, however, that while you're trying to "get it right" there are likely to be some painful moments, practice makes perfect and it's the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.

We've decided to let you in on what women love and hate about anal sex so you can enter the situation sufficiently informed and ready to rock her world.

the allure of anal sex

For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it's a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. Once tried, however, anal sex can quickly lose its appeal for women (and some men). Here we will discuss some of the reasons why women love and hate anal sex.

why does she love anal sex?

Let's start with the positives:

Because anal sex feels good

Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn't feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it's ready, literally swallows the penis up and can't get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.

Because anal sex is naughty

People love to be a little bit naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you can do completely privately, and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your partner -- which is part of the fun. It is also often a "first time for everything" type of activity which can also be nice -- doing something you've never done before, ever.

why does she hate anal sex?

Now for what goes wrong:

Because anal sex hurts

Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven't done it before. For a man it may seem straight forward -- in, out -- but it isn't this simple. Women hate anal sex primarily because it hurts. It can cause cold sweats, shivers, extreme agony, and a massive chemical release into the blood stream that causes pain. This is highly unpleasant, but may be endured because A) She wants to like it; and B) She wants you to like it.

If you're not very careful, if you don't warm her up properly, if you don't go slowly enough, you will probably hurt her. This really minimizes your chances for trying anal sex again. Do your best every time and you have at least a fighting chance at having another go.

Because she's worried about a mess

Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it's even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.

There are a few more things women love & hate about anal sex..

important facts about anal sex

Lubricant is essential

The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant, so it is imperative that you use a good quality lubricant in all your anal adventures. It is advisable to use a silicon-based lubricant because they tend to last longer and don't dry up very quickly like some water-based lubricants do. Don't use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline, as they clog up the walls of the rectum and are much too sticky.

Tease her

It is very important that she is very turned .. you even go near her butt. When she's turned on, her body is much more open to you than if you she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Then, when you start to touch her closer to her anus, she will respond with moans and groans instead of a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with oils, relax her, love her, adore her, and caress her. Get her to the point where she is begging you for it, and do this without putting a single thing in her -- tease, tease, tease. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools we have -- use it to your advantage.

Condoms and hygiene

Disease can be passed through unprotected sex -- this includes anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable. However, using condoms can be better for both partners, for other reasons. Women may not like to have a bottom full of semen, which quite frankly is a fair call. After the disruptions of anal sex, the semen mixes with the contents of the rectum and it can get a little "upset" in there. Using a condom avoids this trouble.

Condoms may also protect the penis from any stray fecal matter, though this is generally not a problem, and if it does occur can be washed off easily with no harm done. Men may like to wear a condom so they last a bit longer -- the condom desensitizes the penis somewhat, and allows for longer lovemaking.

what not to do

Do not ever put your penis into a woman's body without her express permission. Do not treat her body like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to ejaculate in or on, and if she is kind enough to share her beautiful butt with you, treat it with respect and be happy you were allowed close enough to breathe her in at all. Don't ejaculate inside of her if requested not to. Don't slam, jackhammer or be forceful either.

what to always do

Always use lube. Always wear a condom if requested to without acting like a baby. Do as you are asked at all times -- anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.

Gender presumptions and anal sex

When a heterosexual couple thinks of anal sex, it is generally man-in-woman anal sex. To get a good understanding of what it's like -- and how to improve your performance -- it is necessary and helpful for you to open your mind to the possibility that anal sex is not something that only you do to your female lover, but something that you could do to each other.

Scared yet? Don't be. If it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander. Anal sex takes a lot of practice to perfect, and experimenting with one another is a fantastic way to deepen your connection and enhance your sex life and relationship. It does not have to involve sex toys. You can use fingers, tongues, oils, lubes, and any number of other things. Experiment, and let your own body be loved. It will pay off.

backdoor shenanigans

Anal sex is many things to many people. Do it right, and you'll get to do it again. Do it wrong, and you may be doomed forever. Well, probably not forever but until she forgets how bad it was the first time around.

There are hundreds of anal sex guides online -- explicit instructions on how to do it right. If you read at least a dozen of them, you'll probably have a good idea about how to start off. The best piece of advice we can give you is to make sure she is hot for it before you start.

Then you really can't lose. .. --> IMPORTANT BEGIN: BOTTOM BOX -->

But anal sex is not what this post is about

Or is it?

Butt
Getting the shit fuck out of your ass
Is kinda sexy until the clean up

Or is it?

So when you consider your hard limits
And you want to state what your kink is

Take a moment
And wonder

If your not into water sports
Or golden showers
Butt

You love to make it rain?
*sly grin*

Then
While having anal sex
You should expect
A speck
Of skat
To cum from the back

And the fact
Is that I am a Ass Man
too

I am not a amature

I am the Ass Man

Let it be known

That I have shown

How easy your mind was blown

Just for not believe'n me

As you screamed

"...Is my ass decieve'n me!"

"Because you are sooooo deep in me!"

You are leave'n me no option but to want to cry

And I don't know why

But

"Your dick in my ass is so beautifull!"

Oh my

GOD!

How can you be so skillful?

To make my little hole take all of you so willful

And

Bring such a feeling

As you are dealing my ass such a beat down

And

I love it!

"So shove it harder and deeper baby"

Because you have made me the happiest woman on the planet

Got me

Nasty

Like Janet!

Damnit!

How did you do what you have done to me?

How can this shit be so fun to me?

And the degree of pleasure

I will treasure

For longer than you will ever know

Because my lust for this shit your doing to me

has opened a new door

And

Now I will lust for more

Because

You

Have Dicked open a new door

And I am afriad that I want to be your whore

Your slut!

And you have put your name

on my butt!

I mean not just my whole ass

but

My ass hole

And now I have 3 places to worship you in

My new backdoor friend

Where can I find the words to begin

To thank you

For doin my ass in

Because you are no amature

Now I know

And good lawd!

I can feel you beautiful dick grow

In my ass

And I will stand and tell the whole class

"Let the whole world know"

How I have never felt this way before

And you made that shit happen with ease

You

Didn't even tease me

You just did it

Just to please me

If there was a

Golden Ass Award

You can have it!

Because you are so smooth with it

And you made my ass fit it

Like that dick was made for that hole too

And you are bold boo

To just be hide'n what you know how to do

And that's why I'm

Love'n you

In my ass

damn nigga

'SMH'

You got my pussy mad at my ass

because

I'm a virgin no more

in my last hole

thanx to you boo

And I want to thank you

For all the freaky things you do

to me

You have set my ass free

And I want to thank you

For fuckin me

In the ass!

The Ass Man Cummith

and

He is no amature!

This I know now.

Fa show!

damn...

So what do you really know about kink?

What do you really know about what you know?


Sex is as nasty as your ass can take it

But what is more important

Is knowing how kinky you are willing to respect
How kinky kink can get

And what you have not learned yet




Soft and Wet - Prince



respect